Guys, What’s the #1 annoying trait women have that made you break up with them?

[DinaColada]

[DaveJord]

Insecurities like any degree of insecurity is a huge RED FLAG!!!

When they never initiate texts with you or respond to your texts, even if they are busy just say your bussy and then text me back later... or when they leave you guessing all the time about what they really meant when they said this or that... when they are hot and cold with you from one day to the next... when they never give you straight answers to a direct questions... when after the 3rd to 5th date they are still very active on their dating profiles... when are hard to schedule dates with... when they are constantly late to things and act like its totally okay because they texted you 10 minutes prior to the schedule time as a head up as if your not already on your way...

I mean I could keep going, but I think I hit the high points.

[DinaColada]

It sounds like you've been around the bush, haha.

And what do you consider any kind of insecurity? What does that look like?

[DaveJord]

I tried several times to start to answer your reply, but goodness there just so many to list out and explain what they look like.

Lack of transparency, they are not forthcoming with any information about themselves.

Of course lying, catch any in a lie is clear enough sign.

Putting requirements on sex before dating, and avoiding intimacy.

Game players or manipulators, these are the quizzical wordsmiths, hard to lock in dates with, text you a lot in a day or two then go days with saying hello, the old hot then cold type games. The ones that never initiat a text without you texting them first or they will just ignore you. The ones that always want to know what you meant when you said this or that... like they are constantly looking to find something wrong in everything. Claim you did things to them, when it in fact they are accusing you of doing exactly what they did or are doing to you. Anyone that will never apologize for anything no matter how small or large.

Okay thats enough before the list gets tooooo long! 😃

[DaveJord]

One more the shy girl thing, yeah its cute for like a day, but it gets old quick... being shy is literally the definition of lacking confidence... or i. e. being a highly insecure person.

[DinaColada]

Thank you so much for your awesome comment! It make things more clear :).

[MCheetah]

Feminism.

There's others I COULD say, if they applied to me, but so far, I haven't dated any gold diggers, attention whores, actual whores, or other such traits.

[DinaColada]

What do you mean by feminism?

[MCheetah]

Insecure, sh*tty, toxic, upper middle class, First World women who project all of their personal flaws and shortcomings onto "all women" and then try to play the victim as being "oppressed" so they can complain their way into positions of power and wealth, despite already being the most privileged and pampered people on the entire planet besides the super-rich, while at the same time, demanding everyone listen to them and do what they say like they're the queen of England, despite these claims of "oppression" and having grown up so entitled, that they expect to get their way, no matter what.

I will ghost and distance myself from any girl that displays ANY traits of feminism. (Note: feminism does NOT "respecting women and treating them like equals," nor does anyone need feminism to do that. If anything, feminism is the antithesis of that: treating women like victims and babies who can't do anything on their own, but cry, whine, and complain without actually ever taking action against anything.)

[DinaColada]

It sounds like those ladies you're talking about are 100% "Karen" types!

[RobT312]

Bad personality. Nasty comments about everyone and everything including me. It just became a downer. Also, in the bedroom, she was not fun and not adventurous. I guess I felt the sex was as bad as the personality.

[TheBatmanoftheJLA]

The ex girlfriend I had wanted to have an "open relationship" when I made it clear I am a monogamist and not bisexual. She was bisexual and I made it clear I am a heterosexual male. She tried to make me become bisexual and I refused. I want a heterosexual woman who's a believer in God. I believe I have met her at church. As for my ex, she was a satanist and claimed to have been joking about the entire thing.

[blissinanarchy1]

Talking about their ex too much. Makes me feel as though they didn't truly move on, they still have feelings for them, and in a way feels like emotionally cheating.

[DinaColada]

That's frustrating!

[virtue2332]

Jealousy, love drama, someone who blindly believes someone else's bull shit obviously made up story and is mad that it didn't happen to them.

[DinaColada]

I'm not sure what you mean by "believes someone else's bull shit obviously made up story and is mad that it didn't happen to them?" Can you clarify?

[virtue2332]

People that are overly caught up in stories they see on social media. Things that are obviously too good to be true or unlikely to be true but tends to fixate on them and obsess over the details to the point of becoming jealous and that affecting your relationship. Example I dated a girl who had a competitive friend who no matter what would one up her. I had a great job doing well making six figures once the friend noticed we were going places started inquiring my girl about what I did. Then all of a sudden her ex use to do the same job made a ton more money but she decided to end it because she felt like there was more to his job then he was saying. I guess I could re phrase that to someone who is gullible and tends to easily influenced by friends and can't catch on when they are one upping her. I'm not dating someone to deal with her friends insecurities definitely not dating someone who allows this kind of thing to trickle in our relationship. Certainly not dating someone so I can compete with her friends exaggerated relationships.

[DinaColada]

I'm glad that girl helped you get more clarity into what you REALLY want in your next partner!

[admles]

Constant double standards.

Even now, my fiance still has a lot of these, and I've never dated a woman who didn't.

The difference is, my fiance listens when I point them out to her and is actively working on it.

[MCheetah]

True.

[DinaColada]

What do you mean by double standard?

[Juxtapose]

Poor hygiene.

If you mean in personality, insecurity is a huuuuge one. It is SO ANNOYING when a woman is constantly down on herself and nothing you say cheers her up.

[DinaColada]

That would be frustrating!

[Juxtapose]

Yeah.. my most recent ex would not let me reach her heart no matter what I tried and now that she is with some guy halfway across the world she takes his compliments seriously. Now all of a sudden she feels so good about her own image she doesn't even want to transition into a man anymore! She did previously because of how bad she felt about her appearance and she's fucking gorgeous!

I was so gentle, I tried so hard to get her to see how she's beautiful and she doesn't need to be so damn down on herself. But I guess she didn't like me, I guess she needed to hear it from somebody else.

[Fireguy17]

Addicted to her phone, constant selfish, self absorbed.

[DinaColada]

how have women been self-absorbed? What does that look like to you?

[Fireguy17]

Some men are like that as well.
But if you are out the a women, all she does is text on her phone, constant selfish, not listening or paying attention to you, constantly talking about herself, to them the world revolves around them.

[DinaColada]

For most people, the world revolving around them is all they know. Self-awareness and empathy are an art form and a skill a lot of people don't have.

[ImNoOne111]

Arrogrance, arrogrance and arrogrance. I juat can't take arrogrant people

[DinaColada]

agreed!

[Anonymous]

didn't give head enough

is a blowjob once a week too much to ask?

[DinaColada]

How often would you give a woman head?

[Opinion Owner]

Whenever she wants but I dont see the correlation. Man puts his woman first outside the bedroom, woman should put her man first in the bedroom. Something is wrong if we're doing a tit for tat "he wants a blowjob but he hasn't gone down on me since the last blowjob yet"

[DinaColada]

I was just curious. And that's an interesting way to see things. I'm not a fan of the word "should" pretty much ever.

I don't agree with putting a man first in the bedroom. Ave you ever heard of the book "She comes first"/ by sex therapist Ian Kerner?

[Opinion Owner]

Man that's rough, women want to be higher priority than their man outside the bedroom and inside it now. Just hilarious

[Anonymous]

Typically it's the same with all of them, they're selfish.

[DinaColada]

Selfish in what way?

[Opinion Owner]

You post a question on here asking women "Why should a guy pursue a relationship with you" on here. "What does a man gain from a relationship with you"?
I'll admit guys don't always see is unless you put it right in front of our face. But virtually every woman responds, "don't pursue us then", "why should we need to sell you on us".
See they respond with open hostility. And I'm not saying won't give In a relationship. But in my experience it's minimal as they always looking to trade up for something better. Why? Because at the end of the day it's all about them. No woman today wants a lasting relationship. They really don't. I'm NOT against EQUALITY, I'm not. But this is a clear place it has failed women. Most women today are too toxic to even realize 90% of their problems ate self made. And unless you're a woman it's pointless to even try to explain that to them. You can't say anything to someone who perceives you as the source of all their woes.

[Opinion Owner]

A clear place where feminism has failed women I meant to say.

[DinaColada]

I think both people need to bring great things to the relationship table. And learn how to communicate clearly, but it has to be learned for sure.

And men pursuing women is how it's been done for a long time... and seeing how women get 100 messages online in one day, and men are lucky to get 1 response out of 100... well, that's why the men have to pursue the women. It's a numbers thing.

I know it's rough, but that's the facts.

A lot of people take things personally because they're probably insecure, (and may be entitled) and that's why they respond hostilely.

And a lot of women do want a relationship, but they need a man that knows how to build attraction and turn them on.

Most people don't want to hear their faults "explained" to them. Do you like that?

[Opinion Owner]

Kind of got to disagree with you there. I don't approach women. And they still approach me.
Yes I'll agree there are a lot of insecure women. I always advise guys just to avoid those women altogether. They're a losing proposition. And it isn't his job to "fix" her.
The simple TRUTH is feminism has fed women a steady diet of all men are bad. So it's a constant battle they wage against their own biology. And everytime they choose the wrong guy (and they frequently do) they just get more angry and more distrustful.
Yeah people don't like their faults being explained to them. I have little doubt you don't care for me listing women's faults. But it's like I try to remind guys on here. You're the man. Stop worrying about what a woman thinks of you.

[dolemite89]

their love of drama, it’s like peace and quiet are poison to women 🤣

[DinaColada]

What's an example of love of drama?

[dolemite89]

they don’t like smooth sailing in a relationship, they have to always create a problem or it’s”boring” to them

[DinaColada]

There are women out there who like peace... but some do thrive on drama.

[BLP11520]

Being smothered, too much of her every second of the day..

[DinaColada]

What do you mean by being smothered?

[BLP11520]

Constant attention, no room to breath. Being with someone ALL the time.

[DinaColada]

Thanks for the clarification!

[Hulk30]

i dont really get into negative shit but i'd definitely say combativeness

[DinaColada]

I don't like fighting either. What kind of combativeness did you experience?

[TX651]

Constantly calling or talking to their girl friends.

[DinaColada]

How much calling would be considered constant?

[Anonymous]

Too many ex boyfriends bragging to your face how they were better than you

[DinaColada]

Oh that's annoying!

[TheBatmanoftheJLA]

What about how she brags about her exes to you and saying that you are just a "rebound guy". Yes, I left my ex girlfriend for doing that to me. The girl I met at church understands me and shared she went through just as much rejection as I have somehow.

[zagor]

Living on the other side of the world.

[DinaColada]

That's pretty long-distance! I hope you can find someone closer!

[DaySpring]

Intolerance.

[DinaColada]

What do you mean?

[NorthwestRider]

They were submissive

[DinaColada]

In what way?

[NorthwestRider]

In bed and not driven in life

[DinaColada]

Were they in bed being lazy, sleeping, or being submissive sexually?

[NorthwestRider]

Submissive sexuality

[TheBatmanoftheJLA]

Women are naturally submissive though. I definitely desire a submissive woman.

[KrakenAttackin]

Nagging.

[DinaColada]

What do you consider nagging?

[KrakenAttackin]

@DinaColada. If you have to ask what nagging is, than I have nothing for you.

[DinaColada]

It means different things to different men. I don't mean to nag, hahahaha. I'm just a curious person and that's why I"m asking.