Can I be happy never having a girlfriend in my lifetime?

[Anonymous]

Can I be happy that way? I'm 30 years old and ugly. Never had a girlfriend cause I am ugly. Can I be happy never having a girlfriend ever?

[YunaKe]

Imagine... if you lived in a world where the other gender didn't exist and the concept of marriage and relationships didn't exist.

What would you do? ...

Perhaps look for other things in life that make you happy?

How would you spend your days if you were to spend it just by yourself?
Would you go eat your favorite food at your favorite restaurant? Would you go play your favorite games? Would you go play your favorite sports? Would you go visit all the places you would love to visit? Would you go to a concert? Would you go clubbing and dance your heart out? Would you go to the karaoke and sing your heart out? Would you learn new skills, perhaps to swim or play golf or something that you enjoy?

There are soooo many things in life that you could do,... that would make you happy and that don't require you to have a girlfriend...

Are you doing all those things? Are you following your heart?

If you are not taking the initiative to live your life to the fullest and make yourself the happiest person in the world... then it's only natural that you have a void in your heart that you are expecting someone else to fill it for you...

But guess what? There are a lot of other depressed folks like you, and if you get into a relationship with these folks they'll expect YOU to fill the void in their hearts and you'll become a puppet that dances to their rhythm because they are not happy either. And because you are so in "need" of a relationship that you'll do everything they say... ultimately exhausting yourself... and then you'll wish you were single again..

However... if you are already happy and doing all the things that give you joy... you won't NEED someone else to make you happy...

What that'll do is... now you can attract an already happy and complete partner who will not expect you to make her happy.

[Asker]

Ok let's say I get happy but the girlfriend never comes in my lifetime. I never had a girlfriend ever. Let's say I become happy and it still never happens ever. Can I still be happy for the rest of my life till death, despite me not having any girlfriend my entire existence?

[serious]

Of course you can be happy but you should believe that you can be happy by never having a girlfriend. You should believe in this.

Your happiness is in your hands.

[Asker]

So you think it is possible for me to be happy even though I still never have a girlfriend later on ever? I never had a girlfriend in my life so far. Let's say it stays that way till death. Can I be happy now till death despite that?

[serious]

@Steven8000

Yes of course you can be. 100% possible but you need to believe in this and not because others or somebody is telling you this.

Even I have always been single and I wish to remain single for life. I never had any regrets and have always been happy.

You can also be happy but as I said you should believe it 100%.

On another note remember it is not easy to stay single till death. Tremendous self motivation, mental strength and determination is needed to do that and not everyone is capable of being single for lifetime.

Just saying.

[Asker]

Are you happy and you think you would remain happy?

[serious]

@Steven8000

Yes of course I am happy and I will be happy always. Remember I said happiness is subjective and is in our hands.

[Asker]

What would you do if you catch feelings for a woman?

[serious]

@Steven8000

"What would you do if you catch feelings for a woman?"

No. There is no chance that will ever happen. I simply won't allow that to happen. I am far too logical and rational as a person. For me being logical, rational is more important than LOVE.

I also never waste my time on emotions and feelings as they are useless and serve no purpose.

On the contrary it is 100% possible that a woman can love me, it is possible a woman may catch feeling for me, be in love with me. If that happens I will refuse her love politely by giving reasons for the same. Hence no woman can ever have me. I will ensure that.

Simple.

[Jltakk]

As someone in the same boat, I can't say that its impossible, but it will be tough. You will probably question yourself many times. But its gonna be alright buddy.

[Asker]

Question yourself? Ask yourself what exactly?

[Asker]

Can you respond to me please?

[Asker]

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[Guy13]

Do they call that asexual these days❓

[Asker]

Nope. I am saying if a straight, etc person can be happy being single for the rest of their life.

[Asker]

I am asking

[Guy13]

Okay 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

You know people being single for life doesn't mean they are asexual. The hell. You are uninformed

[Asker]

You are uninformed

[Asker]

In your mind if a straight, bisexual, etc person wants to remain single then they are asexual. Smh

[Asker]

Inform yourself.

[Asker]

In your mind a straight, lesbian, bisexual, etc person has to be in a romantic relationship in order to be happy

[moviedude714]

Desire never goes away sadly