Who is the ideal girlfriend for you?

[Anonymous]

Please describe.

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Thanks guys for the answers!
I just wanted to see where I stand on the spectrum.

[MCheetah]

My dream partner is someone with a personality that is kind, caring, and positive, though not without trying or effort expended. She is funny, or at least has a strong sense of humor and loves a good joke. She’s extroverted, which is a nice compliment to my introversion. She’s wicked intelligent and has a sharp mind, but not so much that it makes it hard for her to relate to most people (like me). She’s more so “clever” than “brilliant.” She’s open-minded and willing to try new things. She’s also firm and stands up for what she believes in and doesn’t let people walk all over her, despite her kind demeanor. She also loves animals. She’s very feminine, though not ditzy or daft. She enjoys being feminine and all the perks that come with it, like dressing up and exuding sexuality. She’s fashionable, but in a very down-to-earth way and only uses makeup modestly.

In her day-to-day life, she’s a people person, social butterfly, and very customer service oriented. I imagine her having had previous jobs of working in a call center, as a bank teller, insurance sales, and as a property leasing manager before taking a job as a registered nurse or something in the medical field. She’s very hard working and likely grew up with struggles and difficulties, which is how she got her kind personality; through enduring hardships and struggles.

Her hobbies would include music, playing the piano, painting, gardening, and cooking. She’d be incredibly good at cooking. I imagine she would be somewhat nerdy in a casual way (with her own fangirling being towards Batman and the DC universe), but I would introduce her to video games and hope that she would eventually get into gaming like me after I start her off with a Pokemon Soul Silver ROM or buy her a Nintendo Switch for her birthday and introduce her to Breath of the Wild.

Physically, she’s tall (5′10″ to 6′5″), though it’s not a requirement. She’s redheaded, or even blonde or strawberry blonde (but her hair color in real life would be inconsequential). She’s thick/curvy/plus-sized with wide feminine hips, a large bust, and a fairly nice rump. She has clear skin (achieved through effort and moisturizer, not naturally), perfect white teeth, long flowing locks, and the most beautiful radiant smile.

As far as flaws go… I imagine she’s forgetful at times and constantly has to keep notes or scheduled events in her phone to avoid forgetting things and coming off inconsiderate. She probably likes cats more than dogs. (And that’s a flaw to me!) She likes DC over Marvel (though still would enjoy the Marvel Cinematic Universe). She may sometimes come off as naïve and trust the wrong people too much or be taken advantage of by people who know how to sweet-talk her. She’s not honest when she’s upset or feeling distraught, because she doesn’t want to burden people with her baggage, though I imagine this would make relationship hurdles a bit harder between us. She could potentially be religious, though that’s a minor flaw for me because I am agnostic-atheist and don’t follow any religions or worship any deities, though I don’t mind other people who are religious. She’s into men who are “confident” and finds that to be the most attractive trait in a guy, which kinda sucks because I myself dislike high self-pride in people, and this is what she (and pretty much, all straight women) find attractive in a man. And lastly, she’s more left-leaning than I’d like her to be, capitulating to every “protected class” of people and easily-offended types and their ridiculous entitlements, though she’s still far from a progressive.

- Kind/positive
- Accepting/nonjudgmental
- Open-minded
- Intelligent
- Strong sense of humor
- Strong work ethic
- Patient; not easily offended or bothered
- Politically moderate (not too liberal or conservative)
- Strictly heterosexual
- Monogamous
- Nerdy; into video games or superheroes
- Tall
- Curvy/thick/plus-sized
- Feminine
- Redhead, strawberry blonde, or blonde
- Young; between 20 and 30.
- Not a feminist, progressive, or far-left
- Not shallow or superficial
- Not mean-spirited or negative
- Not closed-minded or stupid
- Not arrogant or conceited
- Definitely NOT queer, or a part-time lesbian ("bisexual")
- Definitely NOT polyamorous!
- Doesn't already have kids (without a father figure)
- Not too skinny
- Not masculine or butch
- Not born male or a man "living as a female"

[Asker]

Thank you for your detailed answer. It's very specific. Were you describing someone you know?
by the way, what's wrong with naturally clear skin?

[MCheetah]

She's mostly the actual redhead I almost married but died before that (not the one pictured).

And there's nothing wrong with clear skin, I just didn't want to make her too perfect. She's gotta have *some* flaws.

[Asker]

I'm very sorry, she sounds amazing by the way.

[ChrisMaster69]

Must be someone I can emotionally connect with.

Confidence, individuality, sense humour (need it dating me).

ideally into BDSM scene and not many limits.

can Dance and sing, added bonus.

Hair, red is rather nice

that’s the type of person could really love.

[ChrisMaster69]

@ Asker, ref update, where do you stand on the Spectrum?

[Asker]

I think I am quite alright. Although, I might be a little too independent, I don't really need too much together time, but if we are together that should be quality time.

[ChrisMaster69]

Independent is good

[1stranger]

She must be both someone like me and someone different from me.
We should be able both to teach each other something and to share each other everything.

[1stranger]

Well, where are you on the spectrum?🤨
How spectrum is this?

[Asker]

Spectrum as ideal to asbolutely avoid :)
I'm somewhere in the middle I guess.

[Asker]

and even absolutely :D

[Chris858]

Dark hair, brown eyes, darker skin tone than me. She would be laid back, easy going, loyal, good sense of humor, completely comfortable with herself around me, and clingy.
My ex wasn't clingy, so now I like clingy women.

[Asker]

Clingy, this is something I didn't think I would hear.
What do you mean exactly by clingy?

[Chris858]

Clingy means overly attached to someone.
It's how I was with my ex-wife, and we were both like that in the beginning. She was more of a workaholic and gone a lot. Eventually I resented her because I wanted her close to me most of the time. Then I started pushing her away when she was home because I and it just lead to problems.
My girlfriend after her was very clingy, but turned out to be married.
Now I have a buddy who's wife always wants to be with him and he hides from her.
I get frustrated because she's what I wanted.

[Asker]

Alright, thank you for clarifying.

[Chris858]

*Sorry, I started pushing her away when she was home because I was frustrated that she wasn't home more. It leas to more problems.
That's why I need a woman who's more clingy. I like attention so I wouldn't mind if she went through my phone or got jealous ever.

[Asker]

You would really want that? I have never heard anyone wanting a woman going through their phone. Anyway, I hope you find what you are looking for. It should be easy, plenty of clingy women around :D

[Chris858]

LoL, thanks.
I always think it's funny when people freak out wanting to keep their phones private from their spouses.
I literally have nothing to hide.
I don't cheat or ever talk bad about anyone I'm dating. I would be like "Here, could you check my phone, it would make me feel important." LoL!

[DaySpring]

1) Romantic
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2) Affectionate
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3) Playful
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4) Average Lookin - Above
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5) Open-minded
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6) Tolerate
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7) Courteous
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8) Polite
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(Must Haves)
Odds are one doesn't have all of these even if one thinks that they may.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

-friendly, caring and sweet
-open minded, can talk about anything and deep convos
-open to try out new stuff, adventurous
-likes to travel, themeparks, mountains, skiing, roadtrips, beaches
-respectful
-not too shy
-no gossiping (can't keep secrets and constantly chatters about other people and talks bad behind your back about you)
-intelligent, sense of justice, common sense
-no gold digger advantage taking b**** or toxic feminist or activist

[Pyrofox]

Doesn't like fights, enjoys teasing me by wearing flirty outfits. Loves cuddling, enjoys wearing blue and doesn't mind when I let my squishy emotional side out.

[Jamie05rhs]

Someone who I can connect with. Someone who has deep thoughts. Someone who is optimistic and who is a dreamer. Someone who is honest and open and bold, and possibly flirty but also direct. Someone who is not afraid of love and who actually wants to take action. Lastly, someone who is loyal and has strong morals.

[Cowboy6666]

Having longer hairs,
taller than me,
passionate and crazy about me,
having few things in common, few same hobbies,
crazy to give me blowjobs,
having pinkish cheeks,
flirty with me only,
Open minded, caring m sense of humor,
loyal to me,
educated and not judging quickly,
talkative somehow,
neither racist nor cruel,
adventurous in bed with me only :)

[normalice]

Mutual physical attraction, sexual compatibility, and no glaring personality conflicts.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Someone that's open and honest. A gal that I'm physically and mentally attracted to. That's just for starters.

[Iron_Man]

Loyalty being attractive having a great personality don’t be argumentative be supportive and be faithful and don’t be lazy

[DWornock]

A picture is worth a thousand words.

[MCheetah]

Zienna Sonne is beautiful.

[DWornock]

@MCheetah That is a picture I found that appeals to me, I didn't know who she is but I'll take your word for it.

[TrillXHippy]

One that doesn’t play games with me. If you’re not interested in me then just say that. Don’t waste my time by saying this and that if you don’t mean it. “I’m everything that you ever wanted” bs

[Anonymous]

Cute and sweet, caring and doesn't cheat. Happy and playful and wants to spend as much time together as possible.

[Shiningtempest]

My ideal girlfriend is having shared hobbies, similar political & religious views, & enjoying the same music genre.

[Guy__]

Everyone I meet is a candidate, I decide on spot.

[scott04sa22]

I’m single for life, lol

[slatyb]

Very smart and kinky.

[Guardian45]

My current girlfriend!

[Creampiekarl420]

Wife material