Why do people say it’s shallow to not want to date a person you aren’t physically attractive to?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

From my experience the only people that say that are ugly people or people with some deep rooted insecurities about themselves. And if its not about their insecurities or attractiveness then they only say that because they are naïve or stupid about how dating works.

Or they want to believe we live in a perfect world and people should be perfect people, but the truth is that we do not live in perfect world and people are not perfect, and therefore looks actually do matter and if they don't like it they can get on with themselves and start dating ugly people.

[MCheetah]

People DON'T say this. They say it's shallow to completely dismiss a person based on superficial criteria they did not choose and cannot change, like race or height. And you can be shallow all you want, if you only want to date chiseled white men over 6'1". People are entitled to date whoever they want. Just don't try to pretend it's not shallow.

[BLP11520]

Who cares? It is your life. Billions of people on the earth. Date who YOU want and ignore what people think. A long time ago a girl who really wanted me I rejected because she was a bit heavy. I was immature and stupid. I missed out on a good relationship!! I made lots of mistakes in dating.

[SlothySlob]

I think this mainly comes from people who consciously or subconsciously believe they are being attacked by that statement. Plus we live in a time where the first thought is not "how do I better myself" but "I'm not the problem, you are".

[HighlyVolatile]

I don't know. That's a strange saying to me. If we take it to the extremities, that should make us all bisexual, no, if a person's physical qualities don't matter at all?

[Creampiekarl420]

Because you and this person could be perfect for each other and you won’t give them a chance because of how they look just because it looks nice doesn’t mean it’ll make you happy

[In_Trance]

Because when you don't know a person physical attraction is all you have. If you're not physically attracted what are you even doing? People are retards

[Jamie05rhs]

Because they're trying to insert moralism and social equity into what is actually a phenomenon of nature.

[OddBeMe]

Because they don’t understand that physical attraction is a manifestation of subconscious attraction.

[DWornock]

Because that is the politically correct thing to say. They say it but their actions prove otherwise.

[kinggeorge007]

it's not shallow [fullstop]

[Anonymous]

Because it is shallow

[Iron_Man]

I understand you