Is it ok not to date someone because you don’t find them physically attractive, even when they are a nice person?

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you suggesting that there is a requiremen to date whoever comes along who is "a kind, thoughtful person and they have a good heart?" How would that be fair to the other person? Don't they deserve to have a partner who WANTS to be with them?

[youngmix]

It's not only okay, but normal. You shouldn't feel bad about not wanting to be romantically involved with anyone for any reason. Not everyone is compatible for many reasons, it is human reality.
Don't string him along, though. That would be terrible beyond belief. Let a person know the truth immediately.

[anon1903]

It completely is.

It's your loss after all.

Don't waste their time.

Contrary to what gagsters believe — it is very important you find your partner attractive

[Berethor]

Guys are doing it all the time, you can do it as well.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MenAreStrongWomenArePretty

[Fireguy17]

yes, you have to have an attraction to them, both physically and mentally.
Just the same if the person is really hot but has a horrible personality, it can be the same as someone that has a great personality but there is no physical attraction whatsoever.

[slatyb]

You have one life. You don't owe anyone a date. So yes, it's ok for you to reject people for any reason whatsoever. You don't like their voice. They are too tall, too short, too muscular, too soft, too nerdy, not intellectual, sexually incompatible, too religious, the wrong religion, whatever.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, that is okay.

But first, check to make sure: Are they actually trying? Are they making an effort to look good? Because if they're making an effort to look good and they're still not looking good,... well, then... it is what it is.
But if they're not even trying, then maybe give them a chance to try before you rule them out.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. It's not just "ok", but important. Physical attraction has to be there as much as any other quality. They can be the greatest person ever, but if you're not attracted to them physically, don't get into a relationship with them. Ultimately you're not going to be happy and eventually end up unsatisfied. You'll end up divorcing likely (assuming you get married), and then resent all the time you "wasted" on him.

[Kaamraj]

Attraction is non-negotiable. Men are attracted to signs of youth and fertility and women to dominance and strength. It's always been that way and will remain so. Where does nice fit into the equation?

[hahahmm]

Yeah, of course it's okay not to date someone you think is fugly. Especially if/when you realize that no matter how hot you look, there's always people in this world who will think you're FUGLY as hell. That's how life works.

[MCheetah]

You mean Friendzoning a dude? Yeah, women do that on the daily. It's why personality means f*ck-all to them. So yes, that's a thing you're allowed to do.

[Guffrus]

Your freedom ends where someone elses begins, within these confines you are free to do or not do as you please for any reason or no reason and you dont have to explain or justify yourself to anyone.

[rabbitzzz]

Your life your choice. It is ok to not date them.
What is not ok is ridiculing them, not giving them equal job opportunity or having some kind of discrimination.

[Miristheiss]

"OK"?

There are laws dictating who we date and who we don't and if we are attracted or not.

[Anonymous]

I took it off because I don't care about appearance like men. For God's sake, why do you think it's all just sex and attraction? one person does not come out and say, "this time, let's he has a pure heart".

[EmmaMary]

Just how more stupid and ridiculous can a question get! smh

[Anonymous]

It’s completely okay! I mean what would you call a platonic friend of the opposite sex then? Dating is all about preferences, and as long as you aren’t treating anyone badly- especially based on looks, then you’re fine to do whatever!


My personal opinion is that I’d rather get my heart broken by someone hot rather than ugly.

[Here_Now]

Yeah, it's alright. Just a matter of preference. Won't be too good for them if they knew you didn't find them physically attractive.

[CallmeTheKnight]

If you're not attracted to them, then you're definitely not kissing them. Your just wasting your time.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Nope you are doin a favour to him but be very clear that you don't have the slightest of interest in him

[awkward_author]

That's perfectly fine. There's nothing wrong with dating preferences and only entering relationships with people you're attracted to.

[clubmanager]

For me she has to be physically hot as well

[Anonymous]

sure , where we going?

[Anonymous]

This is what a rational person do.