How old were you when you first realized that you were attracted to the sex you are attracted to?

[Anonymous]

just give an estimated age if you don't recall exactly.

Age 5 or younger

age 6

age 7

age 8

age 9

10 or older

A total of 126 votes were cast: 61 girls and 65 guys. See detailed results

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+1 y

ok when did you realize what GENDER you were attracted to. please do not mistake this question for something other than that.

[Apulu_Imback]

I guess 7-8 years. Doesn't means I got puberty that time LMAO. There was this guy in my previous school who was cute to me. I was in 2nd grade I think. I would have developed a crush on him if he had a decent personality. Such an annoying kid. I don't know if I exactly felt attracted to boys since then or I looked into them only because I saw in films that girl and boy and supposed to be together. My real crush is from 6th grade and I was around 11 years that time. And yeah I'm still crushing on that guy but now after puberty I get more feelings like Butterflies in stomach, blushing, heart beat getting faster and all.

[Asker]

cute lol

[Apulu_Imback]

Really my non existent dating life was influenced a lot my movies but now I know what I'm looking for and don't really follow the dating rules in movies.

[Apulu_Imback]

Thanks for the MHO!

[meetkitty123]

I was chasing boys around the playground since I was 4/5. By 6 I'd yank them by the tie and tell them where to line up. Then take my place ahead of them while flipping my hair and blowing them a kiss 💋

[Asker]

lol damn where were you when i was in school? :P

[meetkitty123]

In school on the opposite cost lol

[Asker]

nuts.. i was too busy crushing on this one girl anyways lol

[Cynicaldreamer]

Late bloomer here. I wasn't even attracted to boys until my late teens. Just had no interest in them outside of friendship until my first crush-

He friendzoned me of course, but that's another story 🙄

[Asker]

awww. if it were me i would totally date you back then if i could

let me get my time machine lol

[Cynicaldreamer]

Hahaha! Where's that time machine at? First date would have been an arcade date or the library, followed by pizza

[Asker]

oh man you're speaking my language with those choices haha

[atiquahbby]

I literally had no clue at 5, I thought guys of being nothing different to girls. When I was 7, I think I had something very small towards my best friend's brother. I wouldn't say it was a crush, just an instant (a second) where I felt alittle something. We were playing on the see saw and he wouldn't let me down- I don't know I just remember that and being in awe of him. When I was 9, I remember thinking a guy was good looking, but I did not have it in me to feel anything. It was when I was 10 that I became attracted to him, like I really knew how to distinguish what that felt like from the other times I really wasn't feeling it.

So I guess it was 10 for me that I actually knew, but there may have been something before

[oliversamuel]

Probably five or so. I was going through some boxes a few months ago, and I found some drawings of me and a girl kissing. My mom is very organized, and she marked every single childhood drawing with the date and, if I told her at the time, what it was of. Around the age of five, I started to touch myself when I took baths with my sisters and could see their genitals. My moms thought that this was so weird and she talked to all her other friends and they said it was normal. I stopped doing it shortly, but I was always interested in what girls had between their legs. I was very attracted to girls all throughout first grade and would run around the park chasing them and getting them to chase me. We had "weddings" many times, in which a boy and a girl would go under the jungle gym and then kiss each other on the cheek - then, they were considered married.

[normalice]

6. I was in a bowling ally daycare and one of the girls there plucked a hangnail from my finger. Not only did I realize immediately that I wanted more interactions with girls but I wore my fingers bloody trying to produce more hangnails should I chance upon another girl ever.

[Unfortunateguy27]

Sick mentality. Self harm for love

[normalice]

I mean, itndidnt do it on purpose. I was 6 and didn't realize it would be a problem. But not also didn't stop me when it because obvious that it would be a problem.

[Unfortunateguy27]

Well yes you were too young to understand your behaviors but your mindset was as is.

[normalice]

My mindset was to get more girls to touch me. The fact that obtaining hangnail hurt just didn't register as important

[Unfortunateguy27]

No your mindset was maybe if I inflict pain on myself I can get women to show me affection. And I’m sure your mind and how you see things hasn’t much changed

[normalice]

Again, I didn't know there would be pain until after it happened and then I tried to minimize it. I don't quite know what you're trying to hear, but this is the second tine I've explained it and you're getting kind of trollish.

[Unfortunateguy27]

Ok fine, tell me how do you go about seeking women now. Also, do you have dark thoughts regularly?

[normalice]

Really, I don't seek women much. They tend to find me somehow, but that's occurring less as I get older so I might have to come up with something.

I don't think any of my thoughts are dark but I'm not the best judge, since they are my thoughts. Mostly I'm too consumed with politics to have much time for daydreaming, anyway. Those thoughts are certianly cynical but I wouldn't call them dark.

[Unfortunateguy27]

Agreed sorry for calling them dark, cynical is a better term to use. That’s what I meant all along, the cynical mentality was there since birth

[Ninania]

I was always attracted to boys as a kid, but it took me quite some time to realise I'm attracted to women, non-binaries and trans people too. I blame heteronormative media in my childdhood, cause I always wanted to fit in, and because I did like the one gender I was supposed to, I blocked out all other attraction. This also explains why I had a hard time having female friends all my life, cause I didn't understand the sexual tension.

[ChrisMaster69]

We used to play a game called catchy kissey from about 5.

sometime between 7 and 8 those girls did not really try to run away and neither did us boys from them.

i would say 7-8 as in I liked girls and definitely 9-10 when I really knew I did….

[LovingLoverReturned]

Some type of attraction as a toddler but not sexual.

I wrote a love letter for crying out loud.

I and others I know also ""unknowingly"" partook in homosexual acts as children (I was a preteen ) but it wasn't due to sexual attraction.

I was sure of my sexual attraction by preteen years, despite everything.

[Apple1996]

I'm bi but took me awhile to figure that out. For a long time thought I was gay cause of the way I felt for women and not men. I was really young maybe like 5 being attracted to women. Older I got started feeling something for men to maybe like 10-12.

[Canuck37]

Survey choices seem way too young for me. I was 12 before my fellow male classmates began liking girls, and I was 14 when I developed my first crush on a girl. Before 12, none of my male classmates even wanted to spend time with girls.

[Sour-rose]

I was a teen and that girl had some nice boobs... and nice bra... and... oh my.

[Asker]

;) ;)

[Msputiton]

15. I had curiousties before that, but fully knew at 15

[Msputiton]

Update: nobody seems confused 🤣

[Asker]

lol someone just accused me of being a pedophile for asking this. im like 'you serious?'

he's gone now

[Msputiton]

Oh lmao.

[Unfortunateguy27]

I still don’t know or maybe I’m in denial. I think I like girls yet women treat me poorly and laugh at me and never have liked me and I never dated kissed had sex nothing romantic. And with men I’m not sure I never felt sexual urges but I feel like I get attached to some guys when they treat me with respect as I never had companionship either so then I start to like them but again I don't know if it’s romantic/ sexual or just wanting to be their friend

[ChrisWhiskeys2]

Around 5 or 6 years old I started getting crushes on girls that would come to our house.
My mother used to babysit people's kids.

[2facedfa1ry]

I knew i liked boys around 12 for sure (but i always thought i did because that's how it generally works right), and girls at 16

[petitedollbabee]

I was around 7 when I realised I liked boys, and I was 11 when I realised I liked girls.

[Randy888]

i knew i was gay at 11, I had a crush on Thor from Marvel and chris pratt and ryan reynolds.

[xJayleenx]

Probably age 5 when me and my friend got into an argument about a boy 😂 we’d foght all the tome

[Asker]

uh ohhh lol

[menina]

I was 6 years old when I had my first crush. That was the beginning of the end...

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I'd say around 20?
I was a late bloomer and even now I'm not very into that kind of thing.

[melanieeeB]

Around age 8 I was pretty sure and nothing has changed about that

[clampfan101]

My first major crush was in kindergarten, but I’ve known since well before then. I even remember there being a lovely lady on Mr. Rogers talking to the puppets. 🤣

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I was like 11 years old, I had my first crush, in 5Th Grade Mrs. Backstroms classroom

[Koneko911]

At like 5. I had a crush on my best friend then and also on an actress named Zhang Ziyi

[beebella]

As young as 3 or 4 for boys and around 14 (maybe 15) for girls.

[CloudMassacre]

For a long time I was asexual, then around 20ish I started developing sexual feelings and desires

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Eh, wish you allowed anonymous replies.

[Asker]

sorry i got trolled and stalked way too many times to allow it anymore.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Fair enough

[ronaldo75]

My first crush was on a girl named Catherine in 1st grade. She looked like goldilocks.

[Slim57]

Like 6 or 7, I remember liking some girls in my class

[CrazyGirl2]

About 9 or 10, was when I remember my first crush.

[Cherry234]

I'm guessing at age 8.

[Tiptoetamm]

I was probably 7 or 8

[annabananna]

I had my first crush in the first grade

[Pudsmucker]

I think it was about two.

[Pudsmucker]

Was told that I boy

[KATaylor]

Probably around 7 I guess

[Likes2drive]

Around 12 is when I started becoming interested

[HeartFullOfGlue]

I kinda knew when I was 10

[Sirenboobzilla]

Strong around 8 or 9

[Snsl153]

I think I was 6.

[UpdateGloomyNights_]

When i was 9 years old he name is Burak

[SandandWaves]

6...

[SandandWaves]

just meant, 6 cause am not sure if i was into that before age 6. or i dont remember

[Pink2000]

About 10

[Vendela]

Around 9 or 10

[moonpie89]

I think 6

[Grubhub]

Two years old

[Dinosaursandanime65]

2nd grade

[TrillXHippy]

6th grade