What are your thoughts on standards?

[DamianJ97]

Like for me I feel like that we have to accept a woman for who she is. But we as guys have to be up to standards.

Be good looking and have a good job and such.

[ChrisMaster69]

Everyone can have preferences and standards, however they need to be realistic and sensible.

Average Guys who are working at local supermarket, store, mechanic etc, are not well paid, however they can still get girls (or guys) who earn more than them and or good looking etc.

The thing with all this standards thing and how the bullshit is pushed, you would never have good looking poor people having kids, however I know a lot of people who are pretty much in poverty, are great people, married to a lovely partner with great kids.

From experience with friends specifically one, having unrealistic expectations just means they remain single longer and blame society rather than their barking mad standards / preferences.

[Anonymous]

Any woman that talk about standards I always say, "NEXT"! Because a quality woman doesn't do that plain and simple. I'm not saying she WON'T have standards. But a quality woman ISN'T afraid to love, isn't ruled by anger and hurt.
A woman that talks about standards is letting you know she carrying baggage and you should just keep moving.
Beyond this I don't worry about standards, hers or mine. If I'm in a relationship I just try to give the best I can give. Time will tell if we're a good fit. The longer your in the dating game the better you understand yourself and can communicate what it is you expect from a partner. Be honest and don't waste the other person's time. ALWAYS remember it's not just about you. The whole point of a partnership is to achieve something greater than the sum of the parts.

[Blackcupcake]

well it’s not women’s fault that some men are desperate and will settle for anything🤷🏽‍♀️


if someone, man or woman, have goals in their lives that they’re working hard towards, then it’s only normal that they look for a partner that is suitable for them.

[DamianJ97]

It goes both ways of course. Its just from my experience.

[DamianJ97]

And could be of course that i pick the wrong women.

[Smashingdoozy]

That's how relationships work. You pick the wrong ones until you find the right one. Some just find their right one earlier than others. Not all flowers bloom at the same time 🌺

[Blackcupcake]

@Smashingdoozy couldn’t have said it any better!
also glad to see you’re back!😆

[DamianJ97]

Yes it is how it works. Hopefully I will get more chances to see if they are right for me.

[Squaresquirrel]

So far when I saw guys answering to similar questions like this on here, loads of them said "have a pulse" or "laugh at my jokes"
I agree with you but honestly it's hard not to have higher expectations than this

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

A man should definitely have standards and preferences. You should have standards for himself as a man but also has standards for a woman or much rather preference for the woman that he may be seeking out. That is the only way that you'll be satisfied with the future mate you may choose. You never just accept anything or anyone.

[UniquelyBasic]

I think men are far more simple in their standards for women than the other way around.

[Smashingdoozy]

You're allowed to have standards and preferences

[DamianJ97]

of course. Everybody is allowed to have standards. Only some of them are very high. With men and woman.

[Smashingdoozy]

Nothing wrong with that. Nobody should have to settle. However, complaining about how hard it is to find a person to date when you set impossible standards is something completely different... E. g. expecting to find a virgin/someone with 0 previous relationships at nearly 30 years old.