How do you know which standards to keep?

[Anonymous]

I have very high standards. I want a guy who’s as similar to me as possible. However i’ve made a mistake and rejected perfectly good guys over small things like their major or how lazy they seemed (not ambitious/passionate).
I find myself still single and find it very hard to even run into these guys now and i’m starting to think that perhaps I should lower my standards if I plan on finding anyone and that the main thing that matters is how they treat me.
I am currently talking to this guy and he’s great but he smokes weed and I don’t and never plan on doing it. I wanted a guy who doesn’t smoke weed but im not sure if that’s a reasonable standard to have or not if he’s perfect otherwise. What do you guys think? Am I nitpicking again?

[Guy13]

It is good to have high standards. As it relates to your concerns, one does not know until one experience time with them. You sound pretty judgmental so that may not help you out. If you wear your feelings on your face snd in your voice, it might be difficult time for you.

I am SURE it will work out if you chill a little bit. Good Luck !!

[Asker]

Yeah. So what about the weed thing. Yes or no?

[Guy13]

I don’t deal with that sort of thing. Deal breaker for me…

[SpaceMango]

You should think about which qualities matter to you the most and which aspects of a person you can find that can be accepted rather than overlooked. Understand your own core values and seek a partner who aligns with them.

We can't tell if you're nitpicking or not because we simply can't know how much of an importance it is to you.

I would never date a girl who smokes because I place a lot of value upon being a responsible, dignified, true to self, down to earth person. Someone I can see a stable future with. I find most drug use to be the complete opposite of it. But then again, it's just my own view.

People can have many different sides within them, good and bad, that can exist together even when it seems contradictory. Decide which sides you are not willing to accept and which you can.

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[LazerBean]

If you yourself meet those standards, always keep them.

[Luckycharms12]

In values maybe best simpler otherwise opposites attract

[CoolCatMar1]

Yess

[Asker]

what does this mean?