There’s this guy I’ve been in a talking stage for awhile but now we’re slowly getting out of that (as in more than that). We made out yesterday but I don’t really know what I want. He’s attractive and everything but sometimes I think he can be too clingy. I sometimes feel like he’s love bombing me. When we went on a first date after not seeing each other for awhile he texted me the night after the date telling me how much he loves me and everything. It’s super sweet but I like to take it slow and to be honest I like to feel as if I like the guy more than he likes me which I’m not really feeling right now.
Literally the smallest things give me the ick and obviously that’s something I need to work on myself. To be specific he uses a lot of emojis or he always says he misses me and like before we met after a long time because we’ve met way back before as friends, well before we met again and we were talking he would brag about people he’s been with and then saying jokingly that if I needed an expert that’d be him.
The way he acts on text compared to IRL is quite different and I prefer him in real life because he doesn’t seem as clingy yk and we can have conversations that aren’t related to us, just normal conversations.
Like I mentioned we did make out yesterday and it was good, it was a bit awkward before it happened because we both knew it would happen just not when. He suggested we make out at either of our places because we did make out at a library, so I suggested my house which is tomorrow.
Don’t get me wrong, he’s really sweet but when it comes to all that I’ve mentioned I don’t know how I’m feeling. I can’t change a person but if he’d be less clingy and be able to talk as friends as well then I’d be IN LOVE.
Keep in mind, we’re not even in a relationship.
Literally the smallest things give me the ick and obviously that’s something I need to work on myself. To be specific he uses a lot of emojis or he always says he misses me and like before we met after a long time because we’ve met way back before as friends, well before we met again and we were talking he would brag about people he’s been with and then saying jokingly that if I needed an expert that’d be him.
The way he acts on text compared to IRL is quite different and I prefer him in real life because he doesn’t seem as clingy yk and we can have conversations that aren’t related to us, just normal conversations.
Like I mentioned we did make out yesterday and it was good, it was a bit awkward before it happened because we both knew it would happen just not when. He suggested we make out at either of our places because we did make out at a library, so I suggested my house which is tomorrow.
Don’t get me wrong, he’s really sweet but when it comes to all that I’ve mentioned I don’t know how I’m feeling. I can’t change a person but if he’d be less clingy and be able to talk as friends as well then I’d be IN LOVE.
Keep in mind, we’re not even in a relationship.
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I mean, ultimately it's your standards that will define someone as too clingy or not enough. Only you know what is right for you. Even if a hundred people say it's fine, if it's an issue for you then it's a problem regardless of the generic standard.
That being said, I find love bombing to be a huge turn off and wouldn't put up with it.
Tell him how you feel. Let him know that you want to slow things down.
Yeah I probably will mention that but it’s not about taking it slow. I like how things are I just don’t like how he’s being clingy or make cheesy comments, it’s just not my thing.
Just have a heart to heart conversation with him and let him know that you don't like clingy or his cheesy comments
Focus on your studies.
I am? Im not talking about my studies because I have other things like this going on outside of school…