Am I needy or is he just too laid back?

[Anonymous]

I’ve noticed from the beginning of our relationship since the very start he's always been very very lack of effort, he's always just been quite lacking and I’ve noticed that. Yeah he comes round mine and stuff but he barley takes me out and I can tell from past relationships of his he’s just not that type of guy. Can I eventually change this? Even when we make plans he never goes through unless it’s just chilling at my house or me chilling round his? He’s also stopped smoking a few days ago and he’s just so irritable and I feel like his minds all over the place and he’s just a bit more distant and very forgetful. Does this mean we aren’t compatible. Im just very needy and I love talking to him on the phone where as he’s quite opposite he’s more of just see me in person type of guy and dosent really text he will call but a lot of the time he’s busy especially recently with his new job. I’ll call him a lot through out the day am I too needy? For example I haven’t seen him in 5 days and we have both been busy but it frustrates me? How do I actually stop being so needy, am I needy or is he just so laid back?

[Finchie40]

You aren’t being needy , you just aren’t compatible with him , being apart from a partner for 5 days is a long time , the fact that he isn’t making the effort to see you tells me something is off , when a guy really likes a girl he doesn’t distance himself that long from a girl he cares for , so it sounds like he is up to no good sorry to say

[xolaurenxx]

He is up to no good he’s always doing crazy things with his friends all day

[Finchie40]

Then that’s not good , it’s ok to have friends but when friends become more of a priority over your partner then that’s a sign they are up to no good and don’t truly value you , they just like the convenience of you , something you should honestly reconsider

[Jamie05rhs]

That isn't laid back. That's lazy.