Let’s be honest here. If you sleep around lot, or do any kind of sex work or adult entertainment… you knew what you were getting yourself into. You can argue as much as you feel that doesn’t lower who you are as a person… but to attract who you want to attract, you need to meet their standards. It’s just how it works. Men who are successful, have self respect, will truly love you and care for you, treat you right are not going to be interested in a serious relationship, because if they have self respect and confidence, they aren’t worried about you calling them “insecure” because they don’t like it.
Now, if you couldn’t care less about a serious relationship, and just want someone to sleep with or keep you company, sure, do your thing. Or if you want a desperate man who you’ll gaslight by calling “insecure” because he has boundaries, go right ahead.
I’m not saying OnlyFans or sex work is right or wrong. What I AM saying is, to attract what you want, you need to meet their standards. Men have the same obligation, meet a good woman’s standards, which may be not having a long sexual history, having confidence, interested in self improvement, etc.
Let me use an analogy. I got solid gold and walk into a store. I want 150$ worth of groceries. When I go in line, I try to pay in that solid gold. Cashier says “That’s impressive, but unfortunately that isn’t legal tender here. I can’t accept it.” I get all pissy saying it’s 150$ worth of gold, it’s worth just as much as it would be in cash, etc. Either way, I’m not getting those groceries, because cash is valued over the gold it represents. Plain and simple.
