Is it bad that I don't care if the relationship ends?

[Anonymous]

Like we got into an argument and he made me feel pretty shitty. He came off rude and condescending about things I went through with people and just other stuff. I told him I'm done and I need a break because it felt like I was talking to a brick wall and that he didn't care all he said was "good luck, I'll see you when I see you I guess". Lately he's been nonchalant about affection. Others can see in pictures we take that he doesn't look happy. I've done so much for him and it just feels like I'm not enough. He claims I am enough but his actions are different. Not much sex anymore, he's on his phone more than he gives me attention. He just acts like he doesn't care and that his love is conditional. He has childish temper tantrums got anger issues. His communication skills are shit. I just feel so done, I'm numb to if he decides to come back I wouldn't care or want him to.

[HollyK21]

If he’s making you feel this poorly, then don’t wait for him to end it and just do it yourself. Often times we let things like the history we had with a person, the time we’ve invested and the future we hoped for, keep us in relationships that no longer serve us. Recognize that none of those things are relevant to what you’re experiencing in real time — the here and now. You are unhappy, noticing that he’s losing interest, no longer putting in effort, etc, so do yourself a favor and step away. We have one life to live, time is precious and we are not promised tomorrow. So make those hard decisions, and do what’s right, because you are robbing yourself of meeting the right person and experiencing true happiness again.

[Asker]

Yeah it's tiring

[20yearsolder]

I didn't read your paragraph, I'm just answering your question. Is it bad that you don't care if the relationship ends, it's not bad at all. You have the ability to end it whenever you want. Don't put up with somebody's bullshit just because you don't want to be alone. You don't deserve that. Kick the fucker to the curb and go find somebody that really appreciates you

[Asker]

Yeah in the paragraph I'm just venting. I'm tired and I'm at my wits end. I've done so much for him and to still not be enough is just it for me.

[20yearsolder]

Very understandable, don't stand a relationship that you're not getting treated the way you want to be treated. Life's too short to put up with that shit

[Asker]

Thank you, my point exactly. Especially after being with this guy for 7 years.

[20yearsolder]

I don't know how you deciphered that, that was supposed to say don't stay in a relationship that you're not getting treated the way you want to be treated. I'm using talk to text and evidently it didn't do a very good job. Good for you. Get out of that relationship I know it's hard but from the sounds of it you deserve much better