Why don’t I find the women on Tinder attractive? What should I know about using Hinge and Zoosk? How should I set up my profile? What to say to women?

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I’ve tried using Tinder before and I just find the women on there very off-putting.

They always have these corny lines in their bios that are super annoying to read and then they just don’t even come off as being feminine and classy.

They just appear unsophisticated and way too generic. No attraction to be had.

I don’t know what their personal lives are so I can’t necessarily call them “sluts” but they do have this sinister sort of look to them instead of appearing cute and innocent the way I prefer things.

My point being why should I feel an attraction towards girls that only post photos of themselves with their friends and at parties? It seems as though so many of them are just obsessed with attention and they have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING UNIQUE about themselves.

Anyway, I honestly just have no idea what the fck to say on a profile because I’m too lazy to bother setting one up.

Any advice?

And when I talk to women I just generally try to keep it simple by saying the generic “hi, how are you” sort of stuff but is that maybe too boring?

Anyway I’m kinda torn on what I’m looking for as well. Which is why I generally ask women “what are you looking for” because honestly, as long as I feel an initial attraction towards the person, I’m willing to try anything.

But perhaps maybe the indecisiveness I have is off-putting? I don't know

Exterminatore · Accepted Answer

If a man were on fire it would be completely natural and expected for him to seek water to put the fire out with all his might.

Likewise you are on fire. Not with literal fire but your hormones. You are young and this is quite normal and to be expected. Not to take away from the irritation and agony of it.

That said, look for a Godly woman and get married. You know who God is. You know he is holy. You know he does not tolerate sin, nor sinners. You know his righteous decrees.

You need a wife.

The internet is a fine place to look, but I doubt you’ll find a Godly woman on Tinder. It is well know that is primarily used for hookups. Hooking up is not for those who know God and want to honor him. Likewise those who love God will find no contentment in a relationship with those who don’t.

Try a different site. In your profile make a statement that you love and serve God and are seeking to live in obedience to him. This will drive away all those who have no interest in God or his decrees. It will leave those who are interested. In this way you can filter out those looking only to fornicate and those who will be in a relationship with you but expect to fornicate. You will dissuade those who care not about God and his mandates for a holy life. The would be sluts, and harlots, and those with low morals and values won’t waste their time with you. You will find that will drive off the majority of those who would have otherwise have had interest in you. This is good because you’re eliminating those who will not make a good wife, who do not share your values. You will eliminate those who do not care about God nor what he says straight away.

You will find you’re left with precious few options after doing so. This is still good. Few care anything about God and those who do, few of them are willing to live a life of obedience to him.

You will think “but that leaves so few, there’s no options or barely any options left.” That’s fine. God is sovereign. He has power and resources you don’t. He knows you have needs. Which of those whom have dedicated their lives to God will God leave without a mate? None. He knows you need a wife. You he did not create to be single. You he did not create without sexual desire. You have that desire so it’s an indication he intends you to marry as he does most people. He will not fail to provide your needs when you belong to him. He will, when you are ready for it, and mature enough to handle it, bring the woman to your life that he has for you to marry. In this way you will find a woman who loves God and serves him and the result will be you will find a woman worth dating and marrying and not some cheap
harlot who barely has morals. Then you can date and discover which is the one God has set aside for you, and you for her in his sovereignty. Then you can get married and have the sexual gratification you desire.

In the mean focus on God and being obedient to him and pray he sends you a wife. While you are seeking, your future wife is too. God is sovereign and will have you both meet when the time is right.

This is how I met my wife. I met her on the internet. I stated in my profile I love and serve God and seek to live in obedience to him and desire to meet someone with the same intent.

Beyond that, just simply tell a bit about yourself but don’t go overboard. Many women like mysterious men and like it when there’s something left to be discovered.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My advice to guys on online dating advice is the same. Post good pictures. The reality is most women won't even read you profile. I haven't met one who could tell me what my profile said yet. Don't post all selfies. Post a variety of pics in many different situations keep in mind each Pic tells a story.
Speaking of story don't put ANYTHING in your bio. Leave it blank! Trust me, your pics will right the story. The only thing you'll do if you talk about who you are is turn women off. Women are emotional by nature. She she's you pics and will right a story about you in her head. Why would you want to go and f*** that up by opening your mouth. Trust me! Either know the right things to say or have the good sense to be quiet.

jamesgoldman · Answer

You won't do any better on any dating site, in my experience

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Just to let you know Zoosk is a scam and so are all of them. Unless you look like and have the money of brad Pitt.

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