Should I continue dating him?

[Anonymous]

So I went on a date with this guy, it was chilled. He asked me on a second date this week and I'm not sure if I wanna go on it. It's just little things that concern me. For example today we talked over the phone and he told me he likes thick girls yet I'm skinny so automatically in my brain I'm like super confused. Why is he dating me if I'm not his type? Should I continue seeing him?

[Anonymous]

Just because he likes thick girls doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you. If he wasn’t interested then he wouldn’t be on a date with you and asking you on another. But at the end of the day you have to do what works for you and if his mentality is a dealbreaker then it’s better to cut ties now rather than invest more time and waste both of yours.

[Asker]

Yeah, I do feel that he genuinely likes me. He said that and also said that all the girls he was in relationships with previously were thick so that made me more anxious.. so i started playing what if scenarios in my head and overthinking. Thank uu tho :)

[Opinion Owner]

I feel you, it’s easy to get in your head and overthink for sure. It’s best to pay attention to his actions tho, and if he’s showing interest in you, not speaking on your weight or whatever then I wouldn’t worry about all that thickness stuff. Also, no worries! Good luck if you stick with him🙏

[Asker]

Thank you 😊 💓

[Guy13]

It seems to me that if he’s taken time to go on date with you and then another then what’s the problem. Crazy Woman stuff like this is why Relationships never work out. Whatever you think is best.

[Asker]

I've literally stated the problem. In my head he indirectly communicated to me that I'm not his type. And I don't know how to feel about that. Maybe I'm overthinking it. I don't know.

[Guy13]

If you brought this up to me after the actions I’ve made…”Damn, I hardly know this woman and there’s already this much Drama…-I’m out.”

[Asker]

Ok thanks for your opinions🙂

[wa1t1ngFuture]

then you have to be careful a lot of FUCK BOY who just want to add to the list of girls in his notebook and will be happy if a girl is heartbroken or don't care if the girl is heartbroken

[Asker]

Yeah you right, I will keep my guard up. Thank you. 😀

[BarryLiverstone]

He may be dating you if he is attracted to you. Has he given you compliments?

[Asker]

Yeah. Uhm he said I smell nice and have a nice butt and nice lips, thats about it. I do think he likes me , just some of the comments he makes sometimes just throw me off and I begin to question things as it builds up... like the one I mentioned here , he said all his exes were not skinny like me n thats actually his type and other stuff.. for example he even called me one day sounding depressed saying he misses and loves his ex. He just makes me feel awkward sometimes with the things he says n I just dono how to feel about it. Its possible that im just looking way too deeply into it but I don't know.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s unusual if he talked about missing his ex and he wants to date you. Was he drunk? I mean smelling nice is by default. Did you kiss if he is into your lips?

[Asker]

Yes it's very unusual thats why im super confused lol. Sometimes I get the feeling that he is just keeping me around to not feel lonely. He always demands attention fr om me. um no he wasn't drunk but said he wanted to get drunk to forget about his ex lmao. Nope he didn't kiss me. We ended the date with a hug. But he did make comments saying he wants to kiss me when we meet again. Which is the second date I'm contemplating about rn.

[BarryLiverstone]

Lol I can understand why you feel confused. Do you like him? Like did you feel a spark or do you see things you all have in common. Yes if he talked about his ex it means he’s not head over heels about you. Must think you are a good friend to hear him thinking about her. Where does he wanna take you for date 2?

[Asker]

I do like him but I do find myself kinda closing off a bit everytime he says something questionable. Yeah we have good banter there wasn't any awkwardness with us. Well true, I mean I don't expect him to be head over heels about me coz we literally have only been talking a month and I've only seen him once so that's fine. Yeah omg I felt like a damn therapist during that phone call about him missing his ex 🤣 .. I am a good listener but that wasn't something I wanted to listen to lol. Second date he asked me to decide where to go.

[BarryLiverstone]

Tell him you wanna go to his place and have a date in his bed ! Lol that would throw him for a loop. Oh gotcha you have been talking for a month. Wonder why he hasn’t wanted to see you more? You are smart for pulling back a bit because he may be seeing you as a rebound. I’m glad things don’t feel awkward. What else has he said that is questionable? You sound like you have been burned in the past

[Asker]

🤣I will tell him that tomorrow and see what he says lol. To be fair we haven't met much because of me, had a lot going on in my life (graduating, getting a job, work etc) but its settling now so we would meet more often if i decide to continue. Exactly, like I don't wanna be a rebound. Should I confront him about it? Yeah I tended to overlook things and was super naive in the past but now literally anything that doesn't makes sense causes alarm bells to ring in my head 🙃 just wanna protect my heart. Another thing he said to me is that he doesn't mind being friends with benefits with me or being friends literally just bcoz I took like 30mins to respond to his message and he sees that as me not being interested in him. Which again feels like he is using me as a rebound. Sigh.

[BarryLiverstone]

In this case you being busy and not as available is working in your favor. He is chasing a bit and it slows down things. No, it’s too early to confront him like that. But you are protecting yourself so my best advice is to suggest a place you feel safe and chill in. And overthink less and just enjoy the date. It sounds like he isn’t too sure where he wants the Romance to go so def keep it in the pants and see if you get to date three

[BarryLiverstone]

Feel free to follow me if you wanna know more or keep me updated. Being burned can feel painful so I understand you protecting your heart

[Asker]

Thank you :) will see what happens on this 2nd date and will wait until date 3 before making any rash decisions. Will keep u posted.

[Iron_Man]

Yes but no sex keep it as friends

[Asker]

Okay, Thank you 😊

[Iron_Man]

😊 You are very welcome