Should I still pursue a relationship with this guy or not?

[Anonymous]

Background this guy approached me and wants a serious relationship with me and really likes me but I don’t know if I do. What do u think should I give him a chance? I have talked to him for a month and this is what I came up with.
Pros:
Same religion
Engineer
Same ethnicity
Willing to relocate
Doesn’t smoke
Shared household chores
Family Oriented
No female friends
Want to travel
Responsible with money
Speaks well native language
Doesn’t have misogynistic mentality
Wants to have kids
Cons:
Extremely sensitive
Insecure
Doesn’t like to explore and do activities I like
Okayish looking
Depressed
I feel the need to lift him up all the time when I want someone to lift me up instead and I feel like he sucks my energy
Doesn’t know how to confront people
Don’t feel any excitement about him nor about speaking to him or seeing him
Short
Always complainng in most of our conversations and that didn’t change in the past month
Emotionally immature and overthinker and lashed out at me for something stupid and started accusing me of things and disregard my wishes
Doesn’t know how to help me instead he stress me out more
I feel like the man in the relationship and I have to take the steps
Introvert (I am an extrovert)

[Anonymous]

Never settle. Even when the dating pool is bleak, even if you’re worried about having a family or marriage by a certain age, it is never that serious to obtain a man or be in a relationship to where you’re trying to convince yourself. I did that in the past with a short guy. There were pros and cons compatibility wise but the biggest con was his height. I’m not very tall myself (5’6 1/2), so it definitely felt like a munchkin next to me. I didn’t feel as though he could protect me and I also wasn’t comfortable or confident with him in public. He was very whiney, angry, emotional and I always felt like I was mothering him so it was just all wrong. If you’re in a similar position then just be done with that. Don’t try talking yourself into sticking around just for a couple pros — dealbreakers are most important.

[luvstoned4him]

Okayish looking 😭😭

But you have your answer

You say this guy lashes out , zaps your energy, immature, etc etc

A relationship needs maturity on both sides
It should be a give and take and should be filled with compromise
You both pour into each other and lift each other up because you care for one another and want the best.

I don't think he will work well with you in the long run

[Sillage35]

It sounds like you've really thought this through, weighing the pros and cons. It's essential to consider how you feel in the relationship. If you're not feeling excited or uplifted, that's a significant factor to think about. It's crucial to be with someone who supports you and makes you feel good.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the world of love and deciding whether to pursue a relationship can feel like choosing your next adventure from a mysterious map, right? Based on what you've shared, it seems like your heart isn't singing a love ballad but rather sending out an SOS! 🚨

While sharing the same values and goals like religion, family orientation, and financial responsibility can be the bedrock of a strong relationship, your intuition seems to be hitting the "pause" button loud and clear. If the thought of being with him doesn't spark excitement or joy, but rather leaves you feeling drained and like you're wearing the relationship pants, it's a sign worth paying attention to.

The connection you've described feels a bit like you're becoming more of a cheerleader than a partner. Relationships thrive on mutual support, but when one person consistently drains the other's energy, it's a red flag waving in the wind!

Plus, if your love for adventure and his preference for staying in the comfort zone are at odds, and if his emotional maturity doesn't match yours, these differences could turn into significant challenges down the road.

In the grand scheme of things, love should feel uplifting, not like a constant uphill battle. Trust your feelings—if excitement and joy are missing now, they're unlikely to magically appear later. Keep your heart open for someone who not only matches on paper but also sets your soul on fire. 🔥 Keep flirting with life, and the right love will find you when you least expect it!

[HelpfulWoman]

"ants a serious relationship with me and really likes me but I don’t know if I do"
then the answer is no. only do so if you know you want to

[In_Trance]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Nope