Why am I so behind other girls my age (flirting, dating, guys in general)?

[Starlover2222]

I’m 18 and I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Other girls seem to get the whole guy thing and I just can’t. I don’t have any guy friends because I have 0 idea how to socialize with guys my age (much much less flirting.) Guys tend to WANT to talk to like other girls but show no interest in me or talking to me. I’ve never had a boyfriend, much less pursued a crush aside from like 5th grade where I got rejected. When I do like a guy I’m always the second choice or not even in the running. I’m fémina and pretty, I dress very well but for some reason nothing about me draws guys to find me attractive at all or even like look-able. I swear I must be invisible because the only glances I ever get are from old pervs on the street.

Girls, where did you learn to be social, perfect, and attractive to guys (did I miss some special briefing or something?)

Guys, what am I doing wrong (more what can I do right because I’m sure im gonna die alone or end up a 30 year old virgin😐.)

i literally just wanna be normal and fall in love and cycle through boyfriends and shit I don’t even care I feel like an alien and I don’t wanna wait for the one I just want to noticed AT ALL.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

You socialize with girls? I hope so. When you do, smile more. It takes practice, but once you nail it, you feel it, and it feels good. You become more natural and casual as you do it more. I'm not saying to do it 100% of the time lol, that would be creepy. Just be more generally warm and engaged and avoid talking about yourself.

A lot of girls don't realize that guys pick up on how you interact with others, and also a girl who doesn't smile projects a 'leave me alone' vibe to guys. I know it's unintentional, but that's how it works. Guys will approach you more then you have to focus on learning how to socialize with them.

Good luck

[Starlover2222]

I click really well/make friends instantly with girls though just for some reason I’m like guy replant lmao. They could butt into our conversation and ignore me it’s insane.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

You should talk to one of your closer friends then, ask for help socializing with guys. Just be honest, most people generally try to be helpful.

[greycadillacs]

I would say just be a fun person to be around. It’s infectious and an attractive quality and guys will naturally gravitate towards you. I know it’s not a direct strategy to getting a boyfriend but it’s definitely effective nonetheless

[Starlover2222]

The thing is I am a fun person with a lot of hobbies I’m passionate and tend to make friends with girls on spot but guys just completely avoid me and have my whole life aside from like 1 or 2 people

[greycadillacs]

Huh well I’m really confused then. I mean you seem easy enough to talk to. Nothing seems off in the way you type your thoughts…

[Emilyis]

HAhahahaha, I know several men and women who are 30 year old virgins. What makes you think that you are doing something wrong? What if you are doing everything right and they are doing everything wrong. Maybe they are sleeping with every Tom, dick and Harry that they can find and possible getting sti's and std's. Do you want that? If not don't worry. you are doing fine. Your time will come.

[Cheulyn]

I ain't 18, but yeah same, sorry I can't answer but I feel like it's also impossible for me

[TenkRealist]

You don't want a stable relationship and just want to cycle through? You'll probably die alone js. 😅

[Starlover2222]

I wnat a stay me relationship eventually but I’m 19 I want to have normal healthy young relationships and I can’t even get a guy to look my way

[Starlover2222]

I want to stay in a*

[one2many]

Hey, your ok... Those other s... They may happy. But... Who cares. Finish school. Get a professional career.. then you can have all the young men you need. While those other play around with the old men

[OddBeMe]

Firstly, I was 20 when I lost mine so I don’t think you’re behind in my opinion. But you seem to know the problem Socialize.

It’s like fat people knowing they need to exercise. Gotta socialize to learn how to do it better.

[zagor]

LOTS of girls don't date by your age. Don't read too much into social media.

[Starlover2222]

It’s not even social media. All my friends have boyfriends and wanna talk about it all the time😭

[zagor]

"All my friends" presumably isn't a huge sample size. If you go to a college, see how many girls in general have boyfriends. It has been a long time since I was in college but of the dorms I was in I would say a minimum of a quarter of girls didn't have boyfriends.

[Slim57]

My girl is 25 and never any of that before me so don't worry much about it, I was also 24 myself before I really did anything, you don't have to compete with everyone else

[Anonymous]

Don't worry, you're still young. You can still meet someone, high school can be drama with clicks and stuff. Just go out and be nice and you'll find someone. Don't be negative and good luck :)

[bteNjenn]

As long as you're 18, find guys you trust extremely well and bang them all

[sarasubmis]

Is it the vibe you give off, maybe?

[Starlover2222]

I don't know what vibe could be so off though. I’m very friendly helpful etc women tend to love me on spot and i mak friends with girls super easily but guy just avoid me like the plague. Like they’ll start talking to someone I’m actively talking to and completely ignore me.

[sarasubmis]

Are you flirty with guys?

[Starlover2222]

I can’t be flirty if they don’t talk to me. I don’t think I’ve ever really even had an opportunity to flirt or know how

[sarasubmis]

You could initiate talking, maybe? Or does it not go anywhere

[Starlover2222]

I’m usually not quite sure how to start conversation without sounding weird. I don’t wanna sound like I like them off the bat or they’ll reject me but usually I get pretty bland responses and they’ll never talk to me again

[sarasubmis]

Why would they reject you if they think you like them?

[Starlover2222]

I don't know guys tend to get mean if they think I’m interested in them.

[sarasubmis]

What, really?

[Starlover2222]

Yeah like they’ll start being like “whoa whoa” and makes jokes to their friends it’s disorienting😖

[sarasubmis]

Well that sounds like they’re flirting back. Kinda teasing you

[mattissebfan5]

I am 23 and not had date your fine