Survey: How hard is it for you to get a date?

[MCheetah]

"I just joined Tinder!"

Myself?
I'm only 71 inches in stature and I'm a little overweight. Obviously I'm option A.

EXTREMELY DIFFICULT: I'm a man who is considered unattractive, have really bad luck finding someone compatible with me, almost never get dates, or I'm not interested in dating.

DIFFICULT: It's hard for me as a man to get a date and takes quite a lot of effort, but it does happen with enough persistence.

MODERATE: It takes a little effort for me as a man to get a date, but it's really not difficult.

EASY: I'm a Ladies Man, tall, wealthy, or really good looking; I can pick up women easily and getting dates are no problem for me.

I'm a woman. (EXTREMELY EASY)

[TheSpaceGnome]

F. I'm attractive to women who like cute or smart or talented guys, I'm short (but thats never mattered), and I have low-moderate income (though no woman has ever asked me what I make before hitting on me, or really at all tbh).

Lots of the single women who meet me and spend time gaming with me tend to hit on me eventually for my personality alone and then asks for pics after, but the ones who share my hobbies are almost never in my age group, so I can't find anyone I want.

I have never hit on anyone/flirted/asked them out, I'm a shut-in nerd by nature, and very picky, I don't go to bars or clubs or any sort of outings, and most dating sites are designed to hide matches to keep you paying.

It is very difficult to find someone I consider a match, but easy to be seen as someone else's match by someone else if I meet lots of people.

If communicating by typing, I tend to have to put in lots of effort, if communicating by voice, just being myself and showing zero interest tends to work, and I usually find myself trying to change the subject or explaining why it won't work out.

I don't date in the conventional sense, I make random friends, and sometimes randomly they are women, and then sometimes randomly those women either are near my age or share my hobbies, and then rarely she is both, but is either taken or I'm not physically attracted to her.

I'm unsure how to actively put in effort to find this sort of woman, there does not seem to be a way to do so as far as I can tell, so I'm currently at the mercy of random chance, she kinda just has to "bump into me" online and happen to be a match. As such, I can't tell how much effort is needed to get someone to date me, because I've never had the opportunity to try.

Also tinder is a worthless hookup site.

[TheSpaceGnome]

The best way I can describe it, is I know exactly who I want, but I don't know her name, what she looks like, or where she is, and I'm tasked with finding her by accident, which feels impossible, but once found we would click immediately with zero effort. So is that easy or hard?

[MCheetah]

Your ideal partner would be "Difficult" to find (I know 100% exactly who I want too, but don't know how to find her and statistically am extremely unlikely to be her - or any woman's - physical type), but your encounters with average-looking chicks you don't want would be "Moderate."

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've never had issues with attractive women finding me attractive, and moderate income doesn't matter, I've never had income even come up in conversation with any woman who found me appealing, regardless of them being ugly, average or hot (all of which are subjective). Thats more something that gold diggers and basic people do (basic as in no hobbies)

Because I only meet women (or friends in general) in online gaming, (and I avoid free to play games) she at least needs to already have enough money to fund her gaming habit to even meet me.
And personality wise, if she doesn't draw on top of being a gamer, we are unlikely to talk long enough to become friends, so that process tends to weed out most gold diggers, since making art and gaming is expensive, so any woman who can't fund her shared passions is not going to stick out enough to notice.

My hobbies basically weed out most of the women who have children or want money from a guy, those types of women don't have the time or the finances to even bump into me online.

[MCheetah]

Maybe I'm just closed-minded or insular, but I find it super-hard to believe that there are hot or attractive looking hardcore gaming, artistic, and nerdy women out there. (Cosplayers don't count; they're basically already professional models who pretend to be into nerdy sh*t for the $$$). Hell, that even applies to the dudes. You can't get abs from sitting in your gaming chair all day. Cardio is basically the bane of all gamers. Plus, I've actually met "my kind" of people before. Even in places like South Korea and Japan, you don't get "hot" gaming women (or men).

Again, just my opinion here.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've met plenty online, but thus far the ones in my age group are all snatched up, ironically enough by guys very similar to me, which, is usually how I meet these women.

As for being fit, I have a high metabolism, so yes I can actually get abs sitting in a gaming chair all day and eating junk food like I was goku, I don't find that sort of "ripped" look attractive in women though, a small amount of fat that hides abs and ribs is better.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm the type of person who can eat an entire extra large pizza and a bucket of wings every day for a month while sitting on my ass all day every day, and not gain a pound.

[MCheetah]

I don't agree with your points, but you argue them well, so I'll give you the other MHO.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Just callin em as I see em.

Would be nice to be on the other end for once though, it gets quite frustrating when your friend's gfs hop on to play halo with the guys, and when you ask your friend how they managed to meet a girl who likes everything they like, they say "we met in highschool"...

Great, well I''ll just get in my time machine then and become 14 again... worked for ant-man right? -_-

[JesseJayNeak]

So hard I just quit

[Aerissa_Jade]

Getting a date is easy, getting a good quality date not so easy.

Like the current job market, getting a job is easy... getting a decent job is hard AF.

[MCheetah]

Where I used to live, even getting a sh*t job wasn't easy. When you need a college degree and experience to get hired at f*cking McDonalds and 7-Eleven...

[Aerissa_Jade]

I has never been that bad here as long I can recall, even before covid... always crappy jobs for high school kids or desperate people.

Worse now after covid, too many jobs not enough workers but mostly crap jobs.

[hahahmm]

It was never hard for me to get a date. But it's like asking how hard is it to find a car. The devil is in the details if you actually have more requirements than "any car with wheels". Lots of times I thought I wanted her & later changed my mind. On the flip side there were women who would never want me. I guess I was good at zeroing in on ones that would say yes. Ha ha.

[ShadezMcgee]

Man, back when I was single I will just say in terms of getting a date, I had better chances of surviving a charge against a machine gun nest head on over getting a cute girl agreeing and showing up to a date.

[RealMarek]

My ability to get a date improved with confidence and not being worried about whether a woman would decline going on a date.

[exitseven]

I say B. I used to have to try pretty hard but I would somehow find somebody who would go out with me.

[SlothySlob]

"I'm only 71 inches"
Making women do maths, are you insane?

[Abilb]

I am a woman but anyone don't approach me in real life and i am a outcast don't have any friend so extremely hard.

[Abilb]

I am okay looking just over weight maybe my dating life would improve after weight loss

[Abilb]

And tall for my ethnicity 5'5 or 5'6 .

[boredguy007]

I could be your friends.

[UniquelyBasic]

Wow!! 5'5. You're a Giant

[Fuentes]

Moderate and easy because i don't date infact i have to explain why to women mostly and then the ones who do accept it will be ok for a one night stand and thats it.

[UniquelyBasic]

Dont know as I've never put myself out there.

[moonpie89]

It's literally so easy for me

[Oppsididitagain]

Easy but uts not someone I actually want tho

[lofii]

Moderate