If the goal is only to get a date and that's it, then I guess guys have a harder time, but honestlyif got no standards its not hard... guy or gal.
Most average to better than looking person that has ever gone online can contest... getting dates isn't the problem. The problem is getting dates with people you'd want to date.
Average looking women can date better than average looking men. Where as better than average looking womenseem to make it to difficult to want to date them. Like I get it your sexy, and good looking... but I am no chump, and sure I ain't all that, but neither are you. But the next guy in line will bow down to her, tell her everything she wants to hear... and probably get dates with her.
Women in general, from my experience, will not pander to the egos of men, like men will pander to the egos of women. Again that is men will until they achieve what the wanted and then realize it wasn't with it. But these women, constantly fall into the trap... then complain about how they can't find good men. Maybe consider a man that won't lock your feet, and is honest about it.
So honest sincere people with standards, have the hardest time finding dates.
It is hard in very different ways for women and men, so I don't think it can be properly compared. Men have to compete a lot, they have to stand out in a sea of other competing men of which most go completely unnoticed. Women on the other hand, while having countless options all of the time, have to not only weed through all of these options, but on their way they have to deal with all sorts of creepy behavior, animosities, shaming and harrassment.
So if your only criterion is quantity, men have it harder by far. But if you add quality to the equation, women have it harder by far. So I voted C - "other".
As for myself, my biggest issues finding a date always had to do with how I was mentally doing at the time and what my attitude towards myself was. And also with how important it felt to me to find a partner. The more you emotionally fixate on the idea that you need to find a partner to be happy, the less success you have with dating, which leads to feeling like you'll never find a partner again, and so on.
Simply finding a date is easy, I can make a online profile on a non-hookup site and in four hours have 800 or so people talking to me, wanting to get to know me.
I know I've done it before, its crazy easy.
Now 99.9% of these guys suck, so they are a waste of time... which is why I don't do online stuff hardly ever. As I want to take it slow and easy and get to know someone, which means, even if we do chat online. I want to chat for weeks or months before we ever move to texting or video chats.
Guys that are rushed, often just want sex.
Most guys don't have it that easy, to just get a date with nothing else, but it also isn't something that great to begin with, kind of sucks.
honestly, from what i've noticed, a lotta guys i've been around are like *sludge sludge* "i need a girlfrienddd" and they put a lotta effort into gettin one, which is cute and all.
for females, on the other hand, it's not that we expect this behaviour and don't put any effort into the dating game ourselves, it's just that we aren't always horny and desperate.
for me, i struggle to be a very romantic person and i acknowledge that and i do feel bad but tryin to change feels awkward and desperate and i don't want to be TOO much.
@desiUwUYou are way too young to be thinking seriously about this BUT there are some primal differences that continue beyond men and women well beyond adolescence here.
uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh yes? some of us are, no surprises. i mean, our bodies are changing and we're all very curious i'd say, and if it isn't the females, it's the boys.
c'mon you guys, don't pretend that when u were my age you didn't wanna stick your dick in smth or SOMEONE i'm not super horny or anything but boys my age are terrifyingly hormonal and horny
No I do not need to fact check that. I am not even going to deny it because it is true that a lot of dudes portrait themselves as super horny. Just look at all the e-girls doing social media, boys will always be dirty, some girls actually seem to be enjoying that, or they play along with the boys because they can make money off of some men. Aside from being a gamer on let's say twitch, they do some alluring stuff on o***f***... If you never have heard about that website I did not fully mention, I hope you do not stumble upon it, quite dirty website.
@DesiUwU Darn it! There goes another lost innocent soul... A lot of things started at the age around 10 years of age for me. Started playing computer games then, both grand theft auto and The SiMs. Started chatting online back then too, on a newspaper, not much later I stumbled upon corn websites too. Which means I cannot deny Bo Burnhams song The Internet what so ever because it is hella accurate! How ever, I would like if someone educated me more in health class in general to be fully frank.
@DesiUwU That means your brain is trying to protect you from it until you are ready. Which means you could learn something actually important first. Then come back when time has come. I also want to get rid of adult content from regular social media platforms like twitter, facebook and instagram for one reason only. Age limit is too low if you ask me.
@Chris_u006 what is it? 18+? i'm ready for it. I need to know about my sexual health (especially since certain laws have been passed) i'm just not interested in it. that's like saying i should be protected from math until i'm ready. i have to learn it.
bro if i don't know about sex and i get curious and let someone stick their ding dong in my hoo-ha cuz i didn't know that could get me pregnant then that's a bad situation. it's also, unfortunately, very real and happens more than u know
@DesiUwU Age limit to get social media is usually 13, pretty much everywhere. Why do I think like this? It is important to know that there are some horrifying creeps out there. By creeps I mean people like the current potus, or his son so forth and so on.
@DesiUwU BIG time. Since it was an Hunter Biden laptop, there must be a Joe Biden laptop somewhere. What's been found on Hunter Biden's laptop? Hunter posing while doing drugs, Hunter filming himself having intercourse with Asian minors. Documentation leaning in the way of deep corruption. All of this is illegal and now people try to hold that hidden for as long as possible so maybe they can swipe away some evidence. But it spreaded so widely at first, that when enough evidence have been brought to the police, they must start investigating. Need some context? Listen to the song Fire Emojis by Adam Calhoun, Tom Macdonald and Madchild.
@Chris_u006 I really can't believe that you are arguing with an adolescent. What a poor child. She's just growing up and about to discover life, herself and the world
@DenizLikesTennis If you do not see her potential, too bad for yah! Sorry not sorry! She is behaving more mature than any of us dudes who have replied to her. I only say that because that is what the world actually needs more of nowadays. If you deny that, your wakeup journey has not even started yet and you are what I refered myself as as a teen until I was a young adult: Sheeple. I am not any brighter than anyone else, I can live with the fact that I am an idiot because that is how I see people in general, that rule sticks to myself as well as anyone else. I dare to speak my mind. Argumentation is one part of what holds up one part of a society, to specify briefly: political debates, biased media and such. Not only for those two reasons, it can also be helpful if you want to market something, like product presentation or association activities. A few examples right from the top of my head.
My biggest issue, which makes it almost hard to date, is the following: After 3 months of her and I alone, I know what I want to do. There’s one more thing and it goes like this. “Look, I tap my phone password in front of them, start going through my phone, and here…look through and questions. All of that takes hourish. She doesn’t off hers in 15 minutes post, “let me see your phone, opine it up”. Varied reactions BUT there were 2 long term though would marry quality relationships that jumped this hurdle. I’ve had people who “wanted to be with me forever” after 3 months parents etc say No and disappear. What you see and what you are getting disparity avoidance mechanism. It is what it is….
Any chick asks to see my phone ain’t a chick I want. Luckily my wife is trusting. Maybe I’m biased because we’ve been together for awhile. We don’t mind each other talking to opposite gender etc…
We’re different... my response to you would be what are you hiding. FYI, the girl who followed me to graduate school…after we exchanged phones understood. When we were at my place…”same password as she was sitting in front of my laptop 💻. That’s a keeper right there ❤️ Unfortunately my Corporate units job, at that time, required absences as long as 1-2.5 month. Not conducive to 4 kids, all brick 5 bedroom on acre, and homeschooling dream. Anyway….
I respect a woman that sees herself as high Value Assets and is going to check things out. We never talked about this kind of thing again and she used my phone when convenient. And 💪 moments where girls were called from mine, didn’t answer as unrecognizable number, and she had to leave voicemail. You think that’s bad outcome of being honest. Only people those girls knew with this arrangement and saved my Number 😎
If you can’t do a criminal, credit, medical test and share your phone before you get married in this world…. before one gets engaged, shacked up on a lease and find out he has a Felony etc then that’s Stupid. The BEST thing I’m discovering about Feminism is the tendency of the women to push these approaches. It’s good Business. and “all the worries and guessing”. And the higher Title one acquires in this serious world, the more common it is for the couples.
I mean…I see your side of it. But it just smacks of untrusting partners. Honestly, you could spy on her phone all day and night and she could still cheat on you.
When it comes to dating sites, Men have more trouble. Statistics and reality proves it. Read receipts, unopened DMs, Catfishes, scammers, or women that'll just use them for attention, money, free food, or free entertainment. Let alone a lot of men are marginalized when it comes to a love life. They don't want to say No because they'll lose their chance. They aren't confident in themselves and have little emotional and sexual control. It's embarrassing and bad. That's why it's better for men to meet women in person and try their luck. It's so much better I promise it is. You can throw out all that superficial crap out the window and get to know someone.
Women on the other hand are split. Some have it real easy because they get simps or easy guys who just want a lay. Some have it real hard when they have standards and actually date outside of superficial reasons. Some are really odd.. like looking for a date and pregnant especially have kids previous from a previous relationship or from the man that got her knocked up... That's dumb as hell.
I pick other because both have a hard time finding someone that fits for them.. everyone is looking for a SO that’s on their level of standards if you don’t have what I want then you have to bounce.. and sometimes both genders are going for looks which also makes it more harder.. dating isn’t about gender, age, shape, height, weight, or skin complexion (however some people do make it as a skin complexion thing when that’s not what dating is)
My biggest issue is honestly finding a woman I want to date long-term since most of the women in my social circles are taken. Online sure there are a lot of women I could try to date just judging from the physical aspects but the problem is that I regularly had different goals than the women I was interested in and it never worked out.
I have a hard time because I am naturally flirty so the ladies, I find myself interested in most of the time don't know if I'm flirting with her or if I'm just being myself. As far as who has a harder time, I admit I think the ladies have the hardest time. Granted most ladies can have the pick of the litter when it comes to getting a date, but she has to think harder than we do because she has to be sure he wants to truly get to know and understand her, not just get into her pants.
My issue is guys not being respectful enough. If you don't kiss on the first date, you're a prude. If you put out on the first date, you're a slut. And I'm an impulsive yet private person, so both scenerios are likely to happen.
I see hypergamy falling as they are becoming more equal at making money. But yes, a lot of pressure is put on guys at the beginning. And so many gals take advantage of free drinks at clubs.
I don't know about 'girls' biggest issue finding a date', but I know mine at least.
I'm not allowed to date until I finish college, get my degree and go to uni xD
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Women are generally entitled, shallow, and give us stupid endless shit test, make us jump through hoops, act like they are the prize but literally bring nothing to the table besides there ability to give sex.
Both have a harder time because men can't fucking groom or work on personality and that's why women ignore. Yeah women can be too shallow, but when I find a man I'm attracted too he has a shit tier personality
