Do men like successful women?

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OpenClose · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. Especially in terms of education (in the broader sense, not just years of school). I simply have difficulty connecting with women who I can't have deep conversations with. If conversations are stuck at surface-level, the relationship is stuck at surface-level.

I mean, bonus points if we can share technical hobbies.

I also really appreciate an independent woman. I don't like the idea of someone else's life style being dependent on my own success. If she is successful, too, then we aren't dependent on each other, we simply augment each others' lifestyles.

You might find boys your age struggle with this a bit. I know I did, anyway, because I grew up believing that if women didn't NEED me, they would just get up and leave at the first opportunity. That's actually a rather consistent insecurity that men and boys are raised on. And it seems like it was strongest in my early teens.

Jabberjaw · Accepted Answer

I've sincerely never cared. Hot is hot. A hot girl in a law office or a hot girl behind a Host stand at Olive Garden are of equal value in my eyes.

If they're equally hot I'll choose the one that has a better schedule that works for me. I would date a lawyer, but I don't care she's a lawyer past interesting conversation topics.

Like cool we can talk about the Job if there are interesting cases. And I find certain aspects of law interesting so I would uniquely be interested on certain topics. But that doesn't get my dick hard and I would just as easily get along with a Starbucks barista working through college 🤷‍♂️

SkyCastle90 · Accepted Answer

Depends on your definition of successful and the attitude associated with it. A successful person depends on what accomplishments that person is proud of doing; a successful woman could be a stay at home mom if she's doing a great job with the family and home.

If you mean in a professional sense then it really depends on how she carries herself and if she can leave work at work. Men don't like bossy, entitled women because she works X job or X amount of hours or make X amount of money; majority of men don't care about our job or money, because if they love you then they don't mind protecting and providing for you. Most men want a lady who can be vulnerable, emotionally available, and open; it actually pains men to see they woman they love stressing/slaving away at a job, it makes them feel useless to help because they can't punch her boss or make her quit.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes and no.. they like successful woman to kinda see if he can control her.. but when it comes to relationship s I don’t think they like successful women.. men want to be stronger and powerful than their women.. it’s not just back in the day but I still see it all over today or most of the people today are like that..

FactsRULE · Answer

ALL men do not care about any woman's success or intelligence level AT ALL, looks are king. YES ALL MEN! There is no if and or but's about this fact.
Young women basically under 30 get confused about this ALL MEN fact because no matter their looks level men from young to super old are coming at them from all sides, mostly young men. This is nature men are programmed to spread the seed, thinking about the future beyond doing the sex act doesn't happen. Young un-physically attractive men all the way to total hottie men rich or poor will lower their looks standard just to get laid but when they are older and have a decent amount of sex experience ALL men re-up their standard to MUST BE attractive to them. Even the fat bald poor lacking intelligence ones, these not so attractive all the way around men like all men go through the Power Flip Years (P. F. Y's) where attractive women are coming at them from all sides.
It gets worse for women. Men go way beyond face, figure, and breast size, that's when the clothes are on that's only the half of it. The other when her clothes are totally nude and in good light men are looking for what they like. The from breasts to vulva all the features of them need to be acceptable, even if she looks to be a 10 with the clothes on and no clothing tricks to artificially enhance visual beauty can go from a 10 to a 0 in a nano second. With all the women who share images of their nude bodies men have something to compare.
Mixes an matches of all the couples out there range wildly but the ones that are ideal where both male and female are physically attracted to each other are rare. Today a good looking man rich or poor has plenty of options that all lead to sex with women they are physically attracted to and has no need to commit. Cheating in another subject.
The rest are people who married for other reasons but you can rest assured these other reasons couple just gave up and in and lowered their standards to low, or they got together for money issues.
For the successful woman out there or who show to all they have an excellent chance of "arriving" out there who lower their standards and ALL attractive successful women out there have to because their initial standards list no man can meet, not even close to it. For these women- men who leave them or ones they dump who don't try to get back together are they ones they should be with because the ones who want them or all the way to propose are the right ones.

DaySpring · Answer

Men like women. Success, for a reasonable man, has nothing to do with it. Please understand that because so many girls don't. Some out there really believe men aren't attracted to some women because they are a success in the eyes of society.

It always goes back to the individual and character. People don't dislike others inherently due to shallow reasons. They dislike them due to 2 reason: #1 that person doesn't allow for the fulfillment of what THEIR vision (relationship/life) is. #2 The couple or potential couple don't harmonize. There are no other reasons why people dislike women or men in terms of relationships.

ohshee · Answer

Yes I do I like a woman that is confident who has a beautiful heart who is kind who's giving who is happy.
One who doesn't talk about other people or put other people down to make yourself look better somebody that can read people to know if they need help before they even ask for it when does pets kids when they can smile somebody that can laugh at herself when joking around when did is a good lover one that can speak with her eyes as well as she does with her mouth when they can become anybody that she wants at any given moment because she knows she has the confidence to do so

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Sometimes. It's more a question of her attittude than her level of success. It's unfortunate that many of the most professionally successful people (both men and women) also tend to be disagreeable.

Men don't generally look at women as providers and sources of income. So, your level of success may be nice, but it's just not the thing we need you to be able to do. Like I'm glad you can run a surgical center, for example, but that doesn't really help me if I'm looking for someone who knows how to cook.

Anonymous · Answer

The trouble with "successful" women is they tend to lose respect for any man who isn't more "successful" than them.

A girl is wired to want to look up to and depend upon a man because biologically she is looking for a man to provide for her and her children, as well as improve upon her position with "better genes" in making such children.

It is very difficult for people who focus so much on their feelings to overcome such instincts.

Unless that man is genuinely more successful than her, she will start to feel will make her unhappy and eventually abusive.

razelove · Answer

It wouldn't factor in too much. I wouldn't like someone who chronically fails at things stupid simple. Success is relative though, the higher you rise, the higher you realize the sky over your head is. Anyway, if there's mutual attraction, it's there, if not, it's not.

Their W-2 isn't going to affect that feeling much unless finances become a dynamic of the relationship. It happens, but is unlikely for women to put forwards money for a guy, especially early on.

MCheetah · Answer

We don't care about the success or wealth of a woman because women still expect men to make more money than them anyway, and successful women *never* share any that wealth with their man or "date down" regardless, making their success insignificant to men. If anything, successful women are slightly more of a turn-off, because of the aforementioned reasons.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

See, no problem with being successful.

But definitely not arrogant or full of themselves or just arrogant women.

I prefer free girls. I can laugh with, talk comfortably with, just be myself. And I have seen such girls, trust me. They are my friends right now.

I do not want to always think if this will be appropriate or not. Or that will be or not

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Depends what you mean by "successful". But in general her level of material success means very little to me, if anything it can be a setback long-term because how can she make a good nurturing mother if she's putting in 80 hour weeks at the office? But that's another subject for another time, when it comes to dating, I'm more concerned with "is she kind / genuine / empathetic / encouraging / playful / sensual?" than her material successes or lack thereof.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Everyone likes successful women, unless they give Prada a bad name by gender association.
She Devil's wearing Prada are uncool.
Femme fatales are admired if they only kill with their good looks.
Woman born of old money don't count as successful in my book, unless they do something meaningful with that money.

Reaper1985 · Answer

considering about 7 of 10 females tend to date males who are equal or above them when it comes to things like income, social status, etc. while about 7 of 10 males tend to date females who are equal or below them when it comes to income, social status, etc. I would say it could be rather tricky for her to find a partner that isn't already taking or who even wants to settle down.

CindyRuns · Answer

As a woman who is quite successful in several ways.

Some guys I dated were intimidated by it and others were just fine with it.

I ended up married to a guy who is very supportive of me and I adore him for that.

Anonymous · Answer

No we like losers. Just kidding
Well for me I like some one who commits to something and does not quit. Has a goal in mind and does what needs to be done for that goal. Because that is what it takes to make a relationship work. Its definitely going to make her successful in all she does.

Anonymous · Answer

I think that success is attractive I guess in some way either way. But I don't like to judge people long as she's a good woman then... I can love her and I am not in it for those reasons.

I suppose if someone is too caught up in work being a man or woman it can be hard on a relationship

ODC2112 · Answer

A successful woman can please men, always and only if she is not intelligent. The average man values a woman's intelligence as a factor that diminishes her social worth. So if your question is about whether a woman who is successful because she is smart is attractive to a man, well the answer is no. The smarter a woman is, the uglier she is. Unless you find a man smarter than you.

007kingifrit · Answer

decades of research show if the man doesn't earn more money than the woman they are almost certain to break up. she just won't be attracted to him. so no. it is important to date a girl younger or less accomplished. really no degree at all is fine aslong as she is intellectually curious about the world

Lliam · Answer

Definitely, as long as they are not constantly busy with work. I mean, there's isn't any point in being in a relationship with someone who has no time for the relationship.

But I do admire a bright, hard working, successful, independent woman.

0xArize · Answer

it all boils down to the mental and emotional state of the Man

While some men would be happy and do their best to support her so as to ensure that no part of their marriage is faulting

Some men would actually feel less then their wife, feeling that as the husband they should be ahead of everything and this results to a lot of Things.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

It's half and half probably. Most women in my life are somewhat successful and have decent partners but then so do women who spend the day chilling. So just focus on finding a man that appreciates the life you chose.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Some do. But that’s like literally true of all these types of questions. You really can’t generalize.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

I mean yeah financial stability is a plus definitely especially if you're aiming for something more permanent.

CarolineW · Answer

I've never had a problem. But then, I don't feel I have anything to prove, so men don't feel threatened by me

Lionman95 · Answer

Depends on the guy and her field of work. I'd say most guys would avoid a woman that's more successful than they are in working in the same business.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Yes, if they are really successful.  Plenty of them deceive themselves while paying with their youth for clown world careers. Those women are ridiculous

ArchivalMars2 · Answer

I like them fine, my issue isn't their success my issue is whether or not we can get along and not want to get away from each other immediately.

chris_987 · Answer

Successful doesn't really have anything to do with why man looks for a girl. When I guy ask a girl out he doesn't turn her down because she works at McDonald's

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Her success should be for her to to want, or not as the case may be. It doesn't mater to me either way.

TheLoneTerran · Answer

I would want any woman in my life to be successful. And for all woman to have an equal chance.

Sia_nee · Answer

Some don't, some do. You owe it to yourself to be successful if that's your goal if not then still your choice.

SlothySlob · Answer

Based on culture or how traditional they are, I'd say you're more likely to find one who dislikes them.

Berethor · Answer

Not if she more successful than themselves, though some male gold diggers exist.

soe11 · Answer

Yes I prepared, but moral and honesty are first, without dominated. Must be sexy and attractive as well as not consecutive, not shy in public and finally respect each other.

Avicenna · Answer

Yes, unless the women are arrogant and have the attitude that no one is good enough for them.

Ditto626 · Answer

Yes it's great but it's not necessary for us to like her. The money is nice though.

20yearsolder · Answer

I can't speak for all men but I do. I want her to be independent and self-confident

Apulu_Imback · Answer

at least my cousin is glad that I dream big rather than working as a slave under boss.

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

Yes, probably do not like those whom throw success in their face and claim they're insecure if angered

Valso · Answer

It depends only on their behavior, not on their status. If she behaves like a bitch who believes the world exists only to serve her and that she's the center of the galaxy, fuck off!

exitseven · Answer

As long as they don't think it makes them somehow better than me.

sheikalana · Answer

They do! My partner is very proud and supportive of my success and achievements and vice versa.

Subarugirl · Answer

Depends on your definition of successful.. the data suggests that men are uncomfortable with their female partners making more then them

VV3ZZY · Answer

Just because someone has a High Paying Job doesn't make them successful. They could still be a horrible person.

zagor · Answer

Most men do. Men who are insecure in their own accomplishments and abilities sometimes feel threatened by successful women.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Since you're 14, I'm going to answer yes, because I want you to follow your dreams and live up to your full potential.

Wazzaman88 · Answer

A rich and successful woman usually has an alpha mentality. Men don't want an alpha as they get competitive when we like submissive women. Alpha women are not submissive.

Alex8736 · Answer

It's a positive thing which shows she is goal oriented and can make her own decisions regardless of what others think whether they approve or disapprove

Anonymous · Answer

Probably some does, I personally rarely met men who showed genuine interest in my career.

Anonymous · Answer

I think most men do, but some men I have meet or dated in the past seemed to get jealous or seemed to get threatened by it.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I like sweet, bubbly, kind hearted, talented women, who are successul but humble about it.

QuietRunner · Answer

yes we do, but only if they are successful white, East Asian, Latina, Arabic,, West Asian, South Asian, Southeast Asian, Southwest Asian, Arabic, or Hispanic women Also if she is a Pacific Islander or First Peoples

StickStickity13 · Answer

I think it's cool, and I don't want a loser, but I don't actively look for super successful women. It's more important that I like her

msc545 · Answer

Maybe - will she pay for my stuff the way I am expected to pay for women's stuff?

Anonymous · Answer

Successful educated confident men tend to prefer women within their own

genericname85 · Answer

Nothing wrong with success. But we don't like cocky boss ass bitches.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Yes, but unfortunately the bad snobby attitude from some of them makes me not like them at all.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Yup , but if you see succesful women don't want men in most cases

Anonymous · Answer

It probably depends on the woman. I assume you mean someone who has a high-powered career? That's nice and all, but honestly not really something we care a whole lot about either way.

lofii · Answer

I only like if she can successfully make me a sandwich

Waldoe · Answer

Men like attention, if my successful wife was too busy, to pay attention to me, I would find a poor girl that would...

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I like them. She just can't be a b@&% about being successful or trying to disrespectful to me or others just because she has good money coming in.

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