Ladies, can you please explain that women get put in the friend zone as well?

[Justneedtokno]

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Friendzone and fuck buddy are two different categories guys

[razelove]

Yep yep, though when both of you are drunk it can be the friends with benefits zone. Anyway if there was some red flag or complete lack of attraction I'd create that bubble of distance, get with her friends, use her as a wingman. When I was still a little duckling to ask questions and try to understand women better.

It just means the pieces for a relationship aren't there, but there are at least some pieces that fit where you aren't outright rejected from that person's life. Conversely, you can use them to meet more guys that may be like them, and as a totem to keep you safe if they have new things you want to try in their life.

I mean, it does depend on if they're actually willing to be friends, or even acquaintances rather than using it as a soft landing to just get away.

[msc545]

Women get friend-zoned but not nearly as often. Guys have far fewer choices.

[Justneedtokno]

Women don’t have choices as well. You’re either a ho for chasing after a guy Spencer if you’re not chasing anyone stuck up if you don’t talk to someone a bitch slut if you talk to multiple guys. It’s all bad

[msc545]

yes, I get that. Nothing is easy anymore.

[Justneedtokno]

Or you just wanna be a good person and not just have a bunch of babies everywhere or think sex is actually important as looked down upon now to think this way

[DizzyDesii]

Its rare but yes. And what sucks about it is when a guy friendzones us AFTER we’ve admitted our feelings for him, he’s never the same. He begins “unintentionally” distancing himself and flirting with other girls in front of you even more to make sure you get the hint and that it sticks. Now with girls, we’d still befriend the guy but we were already talking about other guys TO HIM before he even admitted his feelings FOR US so I don't know where some dudes even thought they stood a chance 🤷‍♀️ You just simply don’t bring up other girls/guys to the person you're interested in. Simple as that

[DizzyDesii]

Anytime i was friendzoned, it literally had something to do with race or age. They weren’t racist. They just preferred a different race or age

[melanieeeB]

Yeah of course but from my experience, women don't stay there and move on and don't complain.
I have seen with most guys who still stay there and hope she might change her mind when she sees how nice he is... what doesn't happen

[pass_the_celery98]

Girls manipulate guys though. I hear girls often say “I want to be friends with him first and get to know him”. So is a girl basically weeding out what guys she finds hot on who to fuck first? The term friend zone is not clear. If a girl says I have no feelings for you I don’t like you that way and I don’t find you attractive, uhh yea forget that girl. No need to waste time with someone who’s rude and doesn’t value someone. The way girls friend zone guys is like he’s this dirt poor, horribly disfigured male and majorly obese, even if the guy is decent looking has a good education, independent, funny, caring, etc. younger girls will friend zone. Women who know what they want won’t pull that stuff. A woman who finds a decent looking, hard working, loyal, charismatic, charming, funny man won’t be friend zoned. Why? Because a woman knows the fun and games are over and she eventually needs to settle down. It’s tough to find someone loyal, trustworthy, hardworking, decent looking.

[Justneedtokno]

Yes my sentiments exactly

[Justneedtokno]

Or we find a way to prove that we are better or find better

[Justneedtokno]

And they come back

[pass_the_celery98]

I’m not saying women or girls should settle for losers but all I’m saying is I think girls and women tend to overlook certain guys or men without giving him a chance and it knowing him. I know you might say “why would we give a guy a chance if we don’t find him attractive or he’s boring”. I’ve had girls tell me online, get lost after asking them “can I ask you a question?”. I know the general response will be “she doesn’t owe you anything”, but that right there proves why she’s not worth chatting to in the first place. I would never be that rude if a girl approached me. Guys/men although we have our flaws, we do tend to be more chill to talk to.

[VIVANT]

@pass_the_celery98

Being friends first isn’t manipulation. Not everyone wants to age. Sex while getting to know someone and it’s not irrational to not jump into relationship without knowing someone. Diff if she’s playing games but I don’t see friendship as a game if she’s genuinely interested. For a few weeks or months anyhow i don’t see the problem.

[pass_the_celery98]

@VIVANT yea im cool with that if she wants to be “friends” but want to know me more or go out later. But the minute a guy hears a girl says “can we get to know each other as friends”. Most guys will think those words of the death of doom.

[Justneedtokno]

@pass_the_celery98
I think it’s just in the way that you approach them. Asking someone can I ask you a question seems as if it’s a little intrusive instead of like hi how are you I was inquiring about some thing about you I think it’s just in the way that you deliver it

[Justneedtokno]

Also when you think about it you’re online so the most we always get hit with is a bunch of sex questions and some misleading concerning dialogue

[pass_the_celery98]

I’ll take your advice since you’re a girl. You probably gave me a warning not to act like a jackass and avoid getting kicked in the nuts. You’re gonna read this and think, “lol ahh yes the dreadful chick kick to the balls when a dude is being intrusive and doesn’t realize”

[pass_the_celery98]

I disappointed @Justneedtokno with my response lol

[Justneedtokno]

@pass_the_celery98 no no no. This is wear the miscommunication between men and women happens we’re thinking the worst for or towards other. I just think it an odd way to start off talking to someone especially when you don’t know them

[pass_the_celery98]

I’m going to follow you @Justneedtokno so I can DM you since I want to discuss some stuff girls think or talk about regarding guys.

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT Who said anything about sex?

[Sorbay]

fat unattractive = friend zone

Friendzone - when there is 2 people but one of them doesn't want to fuck the other but they keep in touch because they provide a different benefit like ride to work, or someone to bring to the movies so you dont look like a creep going by yourself

Hope this helps

[Justneedtokno]

You don’t have the courage to go to places alone by yourself eat out by yourself and do things by yourself that’s weird lol

[Sorbay]

in the hagiarchy of the sexual marketplace you can only friendzone someone who is under you so if a guy is friend-zoning you he doesn't think you have much value in the sexual market place anyone who says different is kidding themselves

[Justneedtokno]

No I think for me it’s always willing to have sex but not dating or cheat on their significant other with me

[Whatever2929292]

Even attractive women I only see as friends or acquaintances if I am in a relationship or there is some reason that I would not want to be romantically with her. Does not mean she is a bad woman. There are other factors as to why I might not want her that way.

There is also times where there is nothing wrong with her I just see her as a friend

[1GoldTwins]

That's right, that is not a fairytale. If he doesn't like you back, that's the friendzone for you! You CAN get a yes, you already have a no. Remember that. If you expect him 100 % to say yes, it might leave you crushed if you have such expectations.

[Anonymous]

This has happened to me. We went out on one day and he kept stringing me along making me believe he had a romantic interest in me. He kept telling me I have everything going for me. But he ended up friendzoning me. We are still friends and we message every day, but it hurts that's he's friendliness me, because I wanted more. It's going to really hurt when he does start seeing someone 😩

[Opinion Owner]

Friendzoned***

[dustybiker]

Some men will never understand this as they refuse to learn. It isn’t worth the effort. All the others already do.

[Avicenna]

Women don't get friendzoned. If he doesn't want to date her, he sees her as a potential friends with benefits or something he is keeping on the back burner, especially for sex, if he's ever in a pinch.

[DizzyDesii]

No, trust me, there’s a difference. I’ve been both friendzoned and fckzoned before. The friendzoned stuff often had to do with having a type. And us not being it. Friendzoned was also similar to being sis-zoned. Some people have standards enough to not date NOR fck someone who isn’t their type. Like i for sure won’t even flirt if he's not my type. I will brozone him and tell him he’s like a “blood” brother just so he understands how much i’ll never be into him

[Avicenna]

@DizzyDesii: I believe you, but that's rare.

[Justneedtokno]

@DizzyDesii yes exactly

[Agagagagaga]

@DizzyDesii You seem to know a lot about these zones.

[DizzyDesii]

@Agagagagaga because i had a bad habit of friendzoning and brozoning guys who werent my type. It was legit a thing of grade school. I matured around college and just stopped befriending guys if i didn't see them in my future. I also stopped settling for being friendzoned and would just ghost the guy if we werent gonna be what i hoped for 🤷‍♀️

[Agagagagaga]

@DizzyDesii Depressing.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

How does it happen?
How do women get put in friend zone?
I have never seen one till now.

[genericname85]

exactly like men get in the friendzone. one sided infatuation. i mean how is that hard to believe? did you never ever meet a girl in your life that you wouldn't have wanted to be in a relationship with?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@genericname85 No.

[genericname85]

so you are saying you would have gotten into a relationship with every single woman you ever met in your life?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@genericname85 I did not want to be in a relationship. I have many female friends, but literally no one interested me enough.

The one girl that I liked, I asked her, she rejected me. Finish there.
Another girl I liked here, asked here, said yes. Finish.
I treated asking a girl like a priority task. Get done with it quickly ASAP. Do not dream about it. Do not think too much about it.

Its been like this since school. Now I am 3rd year of engineering. I think I have it easier when I listen to my friends stories. About all the time wasted just in thinking whether she likes me or not. What if? Things like that...

[genericname85]

that didn't answer my questinon. is there any girl ever that you would not have liked to be in a relationship with, if SHE wanted that. or in other word, was there never a girl in your life that you considered "not attractive enough to date"?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@genericname85 As far as I can tell, there has not been a single girl who thought of me in that way.

[genericname85]

that's still not what i asked xD can you please reas my question. i asked if YOU were ever NOT INTERERSTED in a girl. it doesn't matter if she liked you or not for my question.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@genericname85 On an average, for guys, it is not possible to not be interested in girls. So I was interested in girls.

In fact, I said this earlier, that I liked two girls in total. So, by default, I was interested in them right? Just the difference is, one reciprocated while the other rejected.

As for other girls, I am just friends with them, nothing more.

[genericname85]

" for guys, it is not possible to not be interested in girls" so let's say this girl approaches you and tells you that she has fallen in love for you:

do you say yay and get with her? or do you say "no thanks"?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@genericname85 I would refuse her politely. May be treat her to something in restaurant.

But would not be a jerk to her as she must have taken a lot of time to muster up the courage. Respect that.

[genericname85]

well then she'd be in your friendzone :D that was the whole point i was trying to make this entire time.

[genericname85]

so that's how it happens.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@genericname85 I thought people that were rejected but were still your friends are in friend zone.

Would not be contacting that girl afterwards. So how she is in my friend zone.

[genericname85]

well you just indicated that you would still be nice to her. maybe you knew her before. maybe she was in your circle of friends. so yeah.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@genericname85 Yes. I can at least be nice right? That's common courtesy. I am nice with everyone, same here.

But yes, you are right, if she is in my friend circle, then yes. But I myself know that the chances of that happening are very very very low, as there are better boys available in the division.

But you are right.👍

[genericname85]

no, the chances of that happening aren't low. you just often don't realize when it happens, cause girls don't usually approach men to confess feelings.

[genericname85]

it's that we guys don't generally assume a girl "could" be into us. it has nothing to do with the actual likelyhood.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@genericname85 If a girls confesses me, the first thing would be me asking her to list out all the points that she sees in me. So that I can be clear that I also have such positive points in me.
😅🤣🤣🤣

[genericname85]

yeah :D girls don't do that tho. they keep it to themself. they leave you oblivious to her feelings.

[Justneedtokno]

This is a mess we do talk to guys

[genericname85]

of course women get in the friend zone as well. who is contesting that? xD

[Justneedtokno]

A lot of people

[genericname85]

i guess it is rare that a girl makes the step, telling him about her feelings. i think most times girls end up in the friendzone, the guy never learns about the fact that she liked him.

[Justneedtokno]

It’s really not after while we get tired of not being approached so we talk to other people

[genericname85]

yeah which i think is dumb xD like if you want it, go and get it. why wait around and hope?

[Anonymous]

So are "not interested" and "ghost".
If a guy ignores you he DIDN'T GHOST YOU. He was never interested to begin with. Please explain that to your fellow women.

[Freyke]

I've banished a few to that realm, it is definitely real.

[legalboxers]

easy.. eliminate the fucking clique and the fat shaming culture.

[MCheetah]

Ha ha ha ha ha! ... No.

[Unlucky_JaneDoe]

In my experience and what I’ve seen and heard, women get friend zoned more than men.

[collie22]

is that when your person finds some one new?

[Justneedtokno]

Nope they generally don’t like in the dating kind of way. Probably still willing to have sex with you

[collie22]

O that's interesting

[RuthlessAggression]

There is no "friend zone". I guarantee it

[Diamold]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Flower7]

Yes, that’s true.

[Jmmmfi4]

Bull fucking shit they do