Can women be put in the "friend zone" ?

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becccccccccc · Accepted Answer

YES! It’s happeneds to almost everyone. I liked this guy about a year ago and we had been friends for about 2 years. He was everything I wanted. We would hang out all the time and I thought it was going somewhere. Then one day he came to my house and we were joking around about us dating because one of his friends asked him if we were together. He said “that would be weird, we are such good friends and I couldn’t imagine being your boyfriend” I wanted to cry because I liked him a lot. But now we are still best friends and I’ve excepted the fact that we won’t be together!

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Yup! Sometimes she's too naive or she's too immature or she's emotionally unavailable or shed be a good friend. Many guys when they are young may not be able to get around their own sexual thirst that project onto females, but as you become more mature it becomes easy to know what is good for you, vs what may look appealing for a day or two.

dragonfly6516 · Accepted Answer

NO ONE is PUT into the friend zone, they choose it. Once you've been rejected, if you stick around, that's your choice. And it happens to both men and women, it can happen to anyone.

I don't keep friends if they express interest, because I don't want someone hanging around pretending to be my friend when they really want more.

DatGuy2018 · Accepted Answer

To "friend zone" people in general is quite pathetic in my opinion, if you don't like someone, just come out on it and don't pull strings on them for the sake of either your own ego or selfishness (not saying you as in you but people in general).

Sure either boys or girls can/get friend zoned for whatever stupid reason they can come up with, but i do think that the whole concept "friend zone" is becoming a bit of more a useless low-case "trend", rather than the actual reason it would have behind it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The friend zone issue has more to do with women having too many options and men wanting to date and have sex with any woman he finds attractive because most men are flat out sexually deprived.﻿

coachTanthony · Answer

The friend zone doesn't exist. "The Friend Zone is a psychological place in which you put yourself when you behave like a friend with the person you like, because you don't have the courage to behave otherwise."

ChronicThinker · Answer

Any one can end up in the friendzone.

ak667 · Answer

It's easy to friend zone a girl you aren't attracted to whatsoever, so absolutely for that. But I've friend-zoned even women I was attracted towards for reasons that involved putting principle in front of passion. For example, one of them was an ex-girlfriend of my best friend: "bros before hoes", that sort of thing. Plus I wasn't interested in her for anything beyond sex, since I got to know her character and didn't think she was a particularly great girlfriend (very high maintenance).

djmzes · Answer

Yea  Cuz if guys can be put, girls also  Equality but is it right or wrong? U find out.

Sucram · Answer

Yes, done it already... I'm looking for a girlfriend right now, met a nice girl, get along well with her, theoreticallt even living together would probably work out, but there just aren't any feelings beyond friendship. Even if I myself think it would be nice if there were, there just aren't, and probably aren't going to be.

Darknut · Answer

I've belittled and ridiculed by women juat because i let it be known I liked them. Its the weirdest thing. I'm not sure where I was raised differently or not, but I really dont think you're supposed to be me or hateful to someone who likes you. If there's any decent, just politely delcline, abd act like it necer happened, keep being friends. It takes a lot out of somebody to be that open and vulnerable, dont know how its gonna go. Such a harsh punishment to be nasty to someone for liking you... Its a catch 22, you hear women want men to be upfront and speak what they want, but when you express it they reject it.

VaIiant · Answer

As @kaskas19 said,
Just because women don't throw a pissy little tantrum about how men led us on and what a bitch they are and how all men are evil bastards and how we're gonna join MGTOW, doesn't mean men don't reject us. We just handle it better <3

Anonymous · Answer

Yea they can. My bff turned into my friends with benefits and for a while I thought everything was ok but then she suddenly began changing. It turns out she wanted more than just sex but I didn't catch on. The worst part of this is that I'd asked her out a few years prior and she said we'd be better off as friends so I never questioned it again.

splashofyellow · Answer

While I don't believe in "putting" anyone in the friendzone, men can certainly have female friends that they're not sexually attracted to regardless of the woman feeling differently. It's definitely happened to me.

bubbatxman · Answer

Absolutely. I have some friend zoned females. One of my former co-workers told me the last time we had dinner that she has wanted to have sex with me for years. I really care about her as a friend, and if she had made this offer 10 years ago when she was hot, I might have done it. But she’s 5-6 years older than me and let her body go about 2 years ago. Now, I think it’s just best to be friends.

brennanhuff · Answer

Yes, but it's most often would be a fat chick, ugly chick or at least below average in looks and body. I don't see many hot women or attractive women that would be friendzone by a man. She may only be in the friendzone by a guy if he's a loyal and faithful man and doesn't want to cheat on his girlfriend or wife. But chances are, most guys would bang said woman if he's single or she wants it from it.

EpicDweeb · Answer

I believe the friendzone only exists to the extent you believe in it. If you don't consider a girl an option as a romantic partner but DO consider her a friend then you've effectively friend-zoned them. The same can happen to men. It's exclusive to neither because members of both sex believe in the friend zone.

frustratedgirl87 · Answer

I've been friend zoned before. Once it turned out that the guy had a girlfriend. The other time the guy came right out and said that originally he was planning on using me for sex but decided that I was too smart for that and wanted to be friends instead. His honesty was awkward.

kmayer01 · Answer

Yes! 100%! I had been pursuing a guy for about 3 months and I thought that things were going somewhere. Then one day, he straight up asked me how I felt about him, completely out of the blue. So, naturally, I panicked and didn't have anything intelligent to say. He then said, "I like us better as just friends"

olivine · Answer

Yes. Guys have put me in the friend zone and that too for no reason. As weird as it sounds I had been told by a guy that I looked way too desperate so he wanted me to back off. Sad but true. I was just being way too friendly I guess. *Whatever*

Anonymous · Answer

No, because even if the guy thinks the girl is unattractive (acne, bad hair, overweight/underweight, etc.) once he notices that she’s changed and now he finds her attractive, he will want to bang her. For guys, women aren’t necessarily “friend zoned,” but just kept on reserve in the case he thinks she looks hotter or he finds that he is desperate enough to settle for her in the future.

whiteyw80 · Answer

Definitely. Me and a girl had a crush on each other and fooled around, but I put her in the friend zone because I wasn't feeling that desire for her and I wanted to stay friends.

Anonymous · Answer

No or at least it's extremely rare.

Friend-zoning describes a specific psychological mechanism that is typically seen in women.

Guys can think of girls as friends but that doesn't mean the girl was friendzoned.

You need a whole separate definition for some kind of equivalent thing that guys do as a male version of friendzoning.

Redf00q · Answer

If your a straight guy attracted to women's you'll find it very hard to put women's in the "friend zone" however is possible. Depends how educated you are.

Caaarl · Answer

The friendzone is people you're not interested in dating but you want to stay friends. It's where the people go who you are unattracted to romantically. But you find them someone who you could be a friend with.

kaskas19 · Answer

Just because women don't bitch about it, doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

confusedapplepie · Answer

um.. yes? Just because we dont whine about it all the fucking time doesn't mean its not happening

peachblossomluck · Answer

If they aren't hot or the guy thinks of her as a sister. Hopefully he doesn't find her hot if she reminds him of his sister 😂

Logorithim · Answer

Yeah, it's possible, but I suspect guys may be as likely to use her as a side girl or stash her in the friendzone for future use as a side Girl.

Shygirl666 · Answer

Yes. Women get put in the friend zone too. I'm just lucky to have never had that happen to me... Because I'm mistrustful of everyone and don't socialize.

Jaybear0123 · Answer

Yes it has happend to me. Me and my ex “dated” for a month and then he broke up with me and decided that we could just be friends

micahelg1212 · Answer

The friend zone isn't real. A woman will just not like a man or the other way around. It's a good coping mechanism for people that are rejected. But RIP the bandaid off now. she's just not that into you.

JamesCarterBegin · Answer

Yes of course.. I'm not sexually attracted to every female there is. Sometimes she can be attractive but I just don't see her in that way.. Men are less choosy but that doesn't mean anyone will do.

DaddyslilGoodGirl · Answer

I have been put in the friend zone. Wasn't a nice experience at all. Since I'm bisexual, I confessed to a girl that I like her but she didn't feel the same way about me. And then after a month or so, she showed me her crush and I was dying inside

ronaldo75 · Answer

Women get friendzoned a LOT and 99% of the time it's because of looks. When this happens they complain about it and say men are superficial but these are the same women who will friendzone a guy over his haircut and then complain they can't find a good man.

GWolfe · Answer

That "friendzone" claim is annoying. Those who use that term tend to be those with entitlement issues.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Probably yes. The male enjoys her company but doesn't see her as a sexual being or as relationship material.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

well yeah, guys don't just like every girl they see. Growing up a lot of my crushes didn't like me back, they didn't exactly friendzone me but they let me know they weren't interested by going after other girls.

ninja9898 · Answer

Yes I do it all the time to women I know what more from me than just being friends. I am not attracted to them or am not feeling them so I put them in the friends zone

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Yeah, but they're fine with it as long as they still get all the attention. Same reason they'll keep a man around that obviously wants to fuck, but they have no inition of fucking him... they like the attention.

_lauren_ · Answer

The friendzone is a social construct. Do you mean can you have a woman as just a friend? Yes. Are women okay with just being friends with guys? Yes. Do women get turned down? Yes

scottalanmiller · Answer

Can, yes, but iti s RARE and doesn't mean the same thing as for guys.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Yes. I got rejected by an extremely intelligent and hard working guy last year cause he didn't think i was as smart as him but he was still warm and welcoming and respectful and loyal as a friend.

Anonymous · Answer

LOL @ that girl that said women handle it better. Yea, keyed cars, accusations of being gay or being unable to handle women, or outright anger are all handling it better LOL.

vishna · Answer

Absolutely XD one of my friends plainly tells me I'm mom-zoned.

A-man-22 · Answer

Not in the same way as guys get friendzoned. There is a different term for it, look up ' one of the guys' . It's different because of the difference in male and female dating.

RationalMale · Answer

Yes. It's not as common as the reverse, but there are indeed women who are romantically attracted to men who legitimately enjoy their company but only in a platonic fashion.

Aguysopinion4799 · Answer

Yes, but from personal experiences, it is less common for it to happen to girls and when it does, they get a LOT more pissy about it compared to when guys get in the friendzone.

BigJhon · Answer

I kow a VERY hot girl. When we first started hanging out she whas extremely into me and I where into her. But my friend (who's the typical guy to be put in the friend zone) also liked her and asked if he could have her. And I knew that I would not have any problems picking up other hot girls, so I gave him a shot and put her in the friend zone so he could have her. But in the end she put him in the friend zone, so now we're all just friends.

lumos · Answer

I don’t know any girl that HASN’T been friendzoned at the very least once lol. We just don’t talk/whine about it so hard. And we probably appreciate the friendship we get more than men do.

CandacePerry · Answer

Yes, I reject in high but we remain friends. I didn't rely on care about one guy anyway. I before to be friends with a guy. by the way I happy in a relationship with someone else.

demonics · Answer

absolutely! she was attractive but damned near illiterate. I thought English was her second language at first, nope! Just had a room temperature IQ.

ItsJulie · Answer

Of course! I've never been friend zoned (because I've never asked anyone out 😅) but I'm quiet sure that many ladies out there have been rejected.  Being friend zoned is not only a "men's issue"

Anonymous · Answer

Hell yeah we do, I’m deep in the friendzone at this moment tryna claw my way out for his fine ass... but we just dont necessarily broadcast it

karamelia · Answer

Is it a choice (for boys) to be a friend with a girl at the begining of a meeting or it's came with time by knowing the person and deciding to be in a friendship zone or a relationship zone ? .. (I hope you understood me haha, I'm new here 😂)

Andrew428 · Answer

Yes, think of it this way, if I enjoy a girl's company and friendship but I've identified character traits that make me not want to spent the rest of my life with her then it's best we just remain friends.

beebella · Answer

Of course. Guys put me in the friend zone all the time.

achezc · Answer

Fuck yes… I do it all the time and actually is a way to get her interested, or more interested… if she was not…

WalterRadio · Answer

Yes. I have many female friends that I would never sleep with. It would be like sleeping with my sister, eeew.

Benedek38 · Answer

Sure, but unless they are ugly, it is significantly harder for them to be put in the friend zone than guys.

bacca400 · Answer

Yep. There were a bunch of girls interested in me (it was pretty clear) and they just weren't my type, so I had to friend zone them.

Lostranza · Answer

Definitely especially if they are not conventionally attractive by their societies standards. In fact I think that it happens all the time.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I have had a few there myself. Which is not to brag but just to let me say this; It is pretty awkward letting people know friendship is as far as you two will go. Heck. I find being friendzoned easier than friendzoning.

hereforthefunofit · Answer

As a guy, no. Guys can start out as friends but it always turns to wanting more. Even friends wives become wanted. I have a coworker that I great friends with. But over the 4 years of knowing her I want more.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah... every time I’ve ever worked up the courage to talk to my crush, I was told they really liked me as a friend... guess I must be nobody’s type... after that we become BFFs...

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