My boyfriend, while on vacation told me I have a deadline to let him know about whether or not I can go on a boat ride with him. Is he being a jerk?

[Anonymous]

He said my 30 minutes deadline of giving my answer was almost up. My boyfriend is in hawaii on vacation with his family. After his hawaii trip he and I are going to meet up on his hometown to meet his parents and do vacation things. My mom and sister are following me on this trip to his hometown because my parents want to make sure I have a chaperone so I won't do premarital sex. My boyfriend is okay with me having a chaperone but prefers if it is my sister. He called me this morning and asked if I am going to the boat ride with him which he requests to just be me and my sister. He requested for my mom not to come. I told him I was going to ask my mom if she would be okay with staying back at the hotel for 2 nights while me and my sister (my chaperone) go on the boat ride with my boyfriend. He asked for me to let him know within the next two hours. He knows my mom is the type to get heaed and feel hurt if she is not invited to things. He then texted me saying my 30 minute deadline was almost up. I had to explain to my mom that she wasn't invited on the boat ride which would make her feel bad. Two hours is a short span of time to explain to her since it made her upset. He's been like this before where he would remind me that my deadline to respond to him was almost up. Is that inconsiderate of him to say?

[1GoldTwins]

He needs to know if he has to reserve a spot for one more person or not, of course there is going to be a deadline. If he wants to go on that trip, he needs to know in time, because you can't say that you want to go when they already booked because you won't be able to join :( it would be too late then

[jshm2]

WTF are you? A kid?

You are with your boyfriend, and he has to book a boat for you and one more. He couldn't give a shit about your mums feels as he's paying for himself and another two.

4 people in a boat is a crowd anyway.

[PastorJohn69]

I apologize
Please know I don't mean to disrespect you or anything about your family, but I just find it different to have a shaparone at your age.
God bless you

[slatyb]

Your parents? Isn't it time for you to make decisions about your sex life?

[Asker]

I am the one who wants to abstain from sex until marriage

[slatyb]

How does he feel about that?

[Asker]

He said he is fine with it because he said he plans to marry me soon anyway. He is not as religious as me so I doubt he likes the idea. Honestly I would not be surprised if he is scouting sex while on vacation. I asked him one time if not getting laid causes men to get depressed, he said yes. He has been distant with me while on vacation and has checked out women in front of me before. I don't belive he is committed to saving sex for marriage

[SeekingVirginWife]

I give virgin women 30 minutes to marry me, they always say no then get divorced years later with a child, regretting their decision.

[genericname85]

`well i'm assuming he has to plan for shit. so he gotta know yes or no at some point or the planning won't work out.

[Guy13]

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