How would you feel if your girlfriend has a very close guy friend, and vice versa?

[Horse-girl]

[Anonymous]

Well if she's my girlfriend I have to trust her. Or there's no point in being in a relationship with her. If it really bothers me then I will say something. But jealousy is not an attractive look. So I would only say it once. Afterwards if I felt she didn't listen to me then that means she doesn't really care about me. And then I would have to end it.
Now do you get the point I am making? This should go for both genders. If you love somebody you RESPE T THEM! You don't make them insecure. And it's their DUTY no matter how insecure the may feel to TRUST them! If this is not possible you need to end it. Because that's NOT a healthy relationship.

[Horse-girl]

Very good point, thank you. 😊

[Anonymous]

If it's a true friendship, not a big deal, however as a guy myself, I can say that if he's single, he most likely likes you and/or has at least thought about the two of you together before, even if he hasn't said it.

[Opinion Owner]

Especially around your age.

[Horse-girl]

He has asked me out before and I know he still likes me.

[Opinion Owner]

It could make your boyfriend a little insecure (as it would you if it were reversed with him probably). If you knew he had a close girl friend, that likes him also.

[Horse-girl]

I see where you're coming from.

[ohshee]

Well in life things happen for a reason sometimes
And how you deal with it is what's going to make you stronger or weaker
This is a very good question is for so many different reasons this is a learning experience question let's play pretend for a second let's pretend you and I have this long distance relationship there has to be a trust and respect Factor there and that would be beautiful but since it is a long distance relationship you're going to have your friends there I'm going to have my friends here and if we're being honest with each other I'm sure that you would tell me about your friend that is a guy and if I had a girl that is a friend I would tell you about it but it's that trust in that respect it allows you to keep growing and when that happens that becomes a deeper deeper Bond that is just becomes beautiful and hot I don't know if you know what that feeling is but it is very very beautiful but it's how you handle that situation that will only allow those two people to grow and become even closer as one or if you get jealous did it kind of starts dividing each other and you can't grow together and what's that happens everything goes downhill from there

Personally I know and I have accepted no matter what type of relationship I get into everybody has friends it would be for me so either I accept that or I do if I don't accept it then I shouldn't even be in a relationship but if you want to relationship you have to accept it and you have to have trust and respect and once you have that then your relationship and flower becomes the best that's why I love this question I've always wanted to do an experiment like this just to see where it goes what happens it's hard for me to find somebody that wants to have that same experience but look everybody has friends heads the new boyfriend over the new girlfriend they have to accept that if they don't they shouldn't even be in the relationship this is a good learning question so I think you for it

[Aliismyusername]

That's kinda sketch. Guys typically don't like that sort of thing when it comes to girls they are serious about. If they are casually in a relationship with that girl then they probably won't care if you had guy friends. Personally not for me.

[Horse-girl]

So even if they had been friends for years and never done anything, even if you trusted her completely?

[Aliismyusername]

It's not a question of trust, it's more about comfort. Its like if you always had to live at home feeling uncomfortably because people keep bursting into your room and you don't have a lock. You could tell people to stop doing that but it is more comfortable to just get a lock.

Not saying you gotta lock down your relationship but you gotta let the guy your with feel comfortable 💯. If he comfortable then whatever but it's always respectful to make the other feel comfortable. I'd rather keep my door locked than leave it up to other people to choose for me.

[Horse-girl]

Yes I get you.

[HighValue]

I have some rules.
1. No NEW opposite gender friends.
2. If guy friends are touchy feely, sit next to/up against her, hug on her, make sexual jokes with her, I leave her.

[Adronicus]

Leave her, at best she's cheating emotionally. I would advise woman to do the same.

[Horse-girl]

I have male friends and I don't think of them romantically even though I'm single.

[Adronicus]

I know, women put men in the friend zone for a reason. I'll say another thing too; those nervous guys? They're nervous because they invested themselves emotionally. They care about the outcome & thats why they're nervous. I have female friends as well, none of them in attracted to.

[mandyfire98]

I have very close guy friends and have had bfs in the past that have had very close friends that were women.

[IJhonnyI]

She wouldn't be my girlfriend point blank period 🤨😑

[Anonymous]

Ummm nope.
Guys are only “friends” with girls that they want to fuck.
Girls have guy friends for that attention.

[Horse-girl]

My friend definitely likes me as more but I'm friends with him because we have same interests and get along well.

[Opinion Owner]

But he would be with you in a heart beat.

[Horse-girl]

Yes I know he would.

[Opinion Owner]

So my point stands.

[007kingifrit]

i said it once i'll say it a million more times on this site

men and women are NEVER just friends, you don't have close guy friends, he just wants you

[exitseven]

If they never dated or had sex it would not bother me.

[In_Trance]

Her: I get along better with guys, there's no drama

[BarryLiverstone]

Happy that she has a good friend

[Horse-girl]

What if you knew the guy friend had a crush on her?

[BarryLiverstone]

Then I would expect her to have a talk with him and establish proper boundaries. Also she could be his friend by helping him find someone else

[Horse-girl]

Okay, thanks for that. X

[MrTaboo]

Yeah, theure doing it. I'd dump her

[2021biguy]

Not very happy :(

[Horse-girl]

Would you feel like your relationship would be threatened by him?

[2021biguy]

I could trust her if she really loved me but I get jealous and wouldn't like it.

[Luckycharms12]

Not worried