Should I dump this guy?

[rachvartannn]

Hi guys, my boyfriend was gaming as he always does and I was trying to talk to him about something important regarding the future and he was cracking jokes, super focused on his game, and said he would only be willing to move back to socal w me for me to finish nursing school there if he can make more $ there than norcal, he has not started sheet metal apprenticeship he has been doing delivery driving for 8 months after getting thrown out of the military for coke use, which I think is selfish since I already started school there and he just expected me to move here and leave everything and have to start school here which is a process yet he can't move there w me and wait a while to start his apprenticeship. he started getting pissed that i was trying to discuss something important, immediately lashing out, accusing me of trying to be loud "for the neighbors to hear" even tho I was speaking at an indoor level and have NEVER raised my voice on him, but he has, and then I tried to gently tap him since he had headphones on to talk to him, and he started yelling "STOP HITTING ME" like an insane person, and said "Leave, this is MY apartment" (even tho I pay half, he is on the lease and he moved in a few weeks before I did). He started recording us on his phone saying "she won't leave me alone, this is for evidence later" and said "you're not genuine" as he continued to yell "STOP HITTING ME" "STOP ABUSING ME, OW" as I stood next to him, not even touching him. He kept raising his voice yelling "STOP HITTING ME OUCH" putting on a show for the neighbors, as he accused me of doing lol all the while saying I'm not genuine (are you ok mentally at that point lol) and trying to record me, which was me standing there doing nothing while he kept accusing me of beating him up and abusing him, which I thought was a sick thing to do and I said why are you recording this I am doing nothing but trying to have an important conversation with you and he kept saying "this is MY apartment".

[ZSean]

I think you 100% should. He is hindering your future while also destroying his.

Get out before he gets more toxic and possibly traps you in to staying

[rachvartannn]

Thank you. And the way he acted is crazy right? If you read through my past questions you’ll see a pattern of me forgiving him and him acting worse. Would you consider it emotional abuse?

[ZSean]

Yeah I could see it as emotional manipulation at least. Probably could say it is emotional abuse if it was just relentless

[rachvartannn]

I thought it was so crazy he was yelling to stop hitting him when I was literally a foot away from him, in order to try to make me look bad in front of the neighbors pretty psycho huh lol

[ZSean]

That legit sounds like you need to get out of there before you get accused of anything.

We all know how that has gone recently! Get out before you get blamed for things you did not dooo

[rachvartannn]

do you count it as a threat if he was mad at me trying to tap and talk to him, get his attention one time while he gave me silent treatment, and he said "I swear, you want me to hit you"

[ZSean]

Ehhhhh kindaaa but that probs wouldn't really hold up sadly