Should I ditch this guy?

[Anonymous]

We went on two dates which he initiated, and it went great for me. Then I initiated a third date for Monday to which he said he can't but suggested Wednesday instead. I said Wednesday is cool and to my understanding that was supposed to be the plan (even though we didn't agree on time yet). Wednesday comes and no word from him until late at around 11 pm when he texts me to apologize that he forgot to let me know that he won't make it today. I asked him what happened and he said he got stuck at work. Then he continued texting me with kisses and all that, was curious what I was up to and all that. I asked him what he's up to and he sent me a video of a club that he went to with his friend... So he ditched our "plan" for Wednesday to go out partying with his friend, and even "forgot" to let me know. Pretty lame if you ask me, my interest dropped instantly. I didn't respond anymore. This morning he texted me good morning and to have a great day. WTF?

[Anonymous]

Well I think with how you feel now, it doesn't matter now. But this is a tough one. Maybe in his head, because "definite" plans weren't made, maybe to him it was like a "we'll see on Wednesday"? I can see possibly being busy and forgetting to text/call, but I personally wouldn't have forgot about seeing you, so? And like you said, went out with a friend as well. It would be one thing if it was just work. That makes me think that maybe he had plans with the friend all along, and maybe that's what he really forgot about and didn't want to disappoint either of you? I'd say he still has some interest though. But how you feel is important also, and if a woman did this to me, I'd also feel like you do and assume that they didn't have much interest in me (or enough). So yeah I'd probably move on. And it didn't sound like he wanted to reschedule either. If I were him, I would've not only apologized, but be making a new date asap.

[Asker]

I replied with "Have a great day too!" and will leave it at that. If he eventually initiates another date I'll see how I feel, but I certainty won't tolerate that kind of flakiness again.

[IJhonnyI]

Seems like you don't need anyone's opinion with what you are saying, you lost interest no point in asking for an opinion if you really want an opinion I understand why you would think it's lame but at the same time if it's for someone he's really close with then it's okay but at the same time it's possible he's doing other things, yea since you said he went to a club yea you should dissappear from him and move on

[Beatrix7]

yeah that seems weird a hate guys av been way that have fone that why give a girl that likes you fslls promises yeah it ok for men to go out way fruends but if he has a plan with you first then shouldn't do that it seems quit off but men are like that mostly nit all but sometimes just ditch her for mates nd a want a kind of guy that will be there for me keep promises av never been treated like the lovley women iam from men just used for diffrent things nd cheated on or ditched after they begin to see i like them more av never had a loving relashionship nd am 33 still shit ma ex boyfriend just left me because he cheated on me for 2 years but i hate when mwn so that somerimes

[anton_dee]

He lacks basic courtesies. Not to mention the lacklustre behavior. If it had happened to me, I would do the same to her to show how it feels. Then go along how it goes from there on.