I think he's too good for me....what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Okay that's a lie I know he is too good for me. Don't get me wrong I'm not down rating myself but I honestly feel like this guy that I am dating is too good for me.

We've been seeing each other for about 3 months and slowly I have come to realize that he may just be out of my league and probably does deserve someone better.

He's really fit as in he works out and trains a lot and you can see that, whereas I am just normal, I'm not super skinny or mega fat but I am definately not toned at all and really wouldn't want to be, I appreciate food way too much to get fitter :P

He's also really ambitious as in yeah I may be more intelligent than him academically but at the age of 19 he's already started his own construction business and is earning big bucks. Whereas I am a poor student who never has any money and won't do for another 6 or more so years.

Hes also really funny and confident, sociable and generous whereas I am well just sort of crazy and possibly a tad immature at times but hey I like to have fun.

Anyway my point is he seems pretty perfect to me and I know he could do better so part of me thinks that I should split with him because I don't know how good I'm going to be at always feeling slightly inferior to him, plus he is a great guy and I want him to get what he deserves, but on the other hand part of me knows it would be totally crazy to ditch a guy for being too good.

so yeah I'm slightly confused so if you have anything that could help me out please say I could really do worth straightening out my head x x

[mattmcrae]

Realize that as a Man, he doesn't want someone who is "equal" to him in every way as the world would have you think. Opposites attract! Male and Female. The fact is, as a woman, you ARE "slightly inferior" to him. And if you follow his lead, he will love you for it and put you first.

Instead, focus on being WHAT HE IS NOT!... Which is FEMININ, SOFT AND BEAUTIFUL. Us men NEED REAL WOMEN who will love us and take care of us and our children. We DO NOT need you to make money, be strong and tough and challenging us for who will be the boss... Follow his lead.

I once had a girlfriend who told me the same thing and I eventually had to end it because, truth is, she felt that she was in a slight competition with me. In her mind, one of us had to be better than the other and she didn't like not being the better of the two of us... Why all of that conflict when NATURE has already made the choice. She actually LOVED feeling loved, protected and provided for, but her feminist friends (who were single of course, or lesbians) had her convienced that she needed to be equal to me in every way. Please realize that it is not possible to be equal to him and let your relationship be peacful.

[Blondrizzl]

This is horrible. A man who is intimidated by a woman who wants to be his equal or better needs to get with the times. Women are not supposed to just “follow” a man, and no, we are not inferior just because we are women. I’m sorry but this comment is just wow

[Saajay]

@Blondrizzl I don't see how this is horrible. How about instead of suppressing everything a woman is naturally meant to be we embrace being woman and encourage men to be who they were made to be. Stop becoming masculine with the excuse that it is more powerful you just degrade yourself and in the process you discourage men. And the truth is as woman we are inferior to most men in many ways such as physical strength. Not that we should be treated as less or disrespected for being inferior in these ways but I don't think that's what he was saying. He was just saying a man wants a woman who will be feminine and come along side him to support him and be there for him. He doesn't need a competitor he can find that in a guy friend but he surely doesn't want that from a lover.

[Anonymous]

my girlfriend said to me the same thing and broke up with me, I don't know if it was just an excuse but she always felt that she's not good for me as I'm fit, ambitious and confident but also respectful and down to earth and had more experience in life.
I think you should talk to him about that and stay with him, because I was really in love with her and it made me sad to loose her for such reasons.

[TheCheshireCat]

Try to be the best person you can be, & realize no one is perfect. When you put others' on pedistals you are setting them up to fall.

[Hartmut]

If you 'weren't good enough' for him, he'd likely have dropped you by now. You're probably fine. Why ruin what appears to be working?

[Ezmotts]

He probably likes your for characteristics about you that even you don't realize and that far outweighs physical appearance or money any day.