Really like this guy, but feel like he's too good for me?

[FashionNerd]

I have this guy friend and I really like him as more than a friend. He knows this, and he's so sweet about it, he tries so hard to make sure that its not awkward now that I've told him, and we stayed friends and we actually got closer since I've told him. The problem is, with every passing day I like him more and more. He's pretty much the best guy I've ever met, no lie. I live in a place that is one dominant religion, and although I was baptized into that religion, I don't really believe in it anymore. He's part of that religion and he really believes in it. He's so strong in it and all about doing what's right, and I'm all the things that this religion is against. I feel like I'm not good enough for him and he'll never like me because of how I am. I love talking to him, but I don't know if I should start talking to him less because the more I talk to him, and the more I text him, the more I fall for him. So I don't know what I should do or if I should continue with how it has been. The thing is, he never actually said he didn't like me back. So I'm left with a kind of hope, that maybe he kinda likes me but wanted to get to know me better. Today when we were talking about how he's like my little angel on my shoulder but I always listen to the devil, he replied and ended his text with "Love ya, little devil." I say love you, or I wuv you to him all the time, cause he knows I mean it just as a friend love, not as I think I'm in love with him, so I know that's how he meant it too, but still I couldn't help but get excited by that. Like he said it, without me saying it first. How can I make stuff like this not such a big deal? Should I stop talking to him, or at least reduce how much I talk to him. I've been texting him like every day for almost a week except Sunday. and its not just like, oh I'm going to text him hey, to start a conversation, it's like oh I have to tell him this, so it's hard for me not to talk to him..any advice?

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+1 y

I don't need my self esteem pumped up, and this is irrelevant now anyways, because we're just friends. is there any way to delete questions? Idk...

[Lovelesspassion]

First.. Never think your not good enough for him.. He may be thinking the same thing.. And you can guess what happens from this...

Second.. Religion is not a key factor in a relationship.. Its barly one in a marrige..

The girl I like is just like you.. She's part of my religion but from what I've been told she thinks she's everything there against.. She's not but she thinks she is.. But I don't care... She's also into oils and rock healing from what I found out.. But so.. I like her.. It doesn't matter... I like her for her.. Not what church she gose to if she goes..

Third.. How sure are you he's a religious person as much as you say.. I'm sorry to say it but this question is really important.. And I'm sorry to say it but I'm not as religious as my friends my think.. I look like I am from my friends point of view because I try to act like I am but I'm not really..

But I ask her to a lot of my church events because there great date activitys.. And friendly faces because it is a church.. But when she's not around or any of my friends I'm not that religious..

Never belive your not good enough... Your perfect the way you are... If you still don't belive me then try acting more religous show him you want to be a better you.

If you want to text him and have a reason text him.. Even at 5 in the morning.. I loved it when the girl I liked texted me even that early... She wanted somthing at random I couldn't give her untell morning but still I was happy..

But if you want him to talk you need to talk with him.. Don't just send him "questions" about this and that.. ask him about himself.. Or your self.. Also it sounds he likes you...just be your self.. As you said he never said he didn't like you.. I'm guessing he never said he liked you eather right? Again be yourself... You are good enough for any guy alive but its you who needs to see it..

I really like the girl I like id be sad if she just stopped texting me because she thought she wasn't good enough... Oooo poor "C" I wonder if your thinking this way to from time to time?

[FashionNerd]

ok. Yeah, I know he's really into the religion and stuff, from talking to him and whatnot..If I hadn't really known him, I'd think he wasn't cause of the people he hangs out with...so still I don't know. But thanks...I guess I have really low self esteem and such, I've been feeling a little better about it, we've became better friends and such but I still am liking him a lot.

I'm trying to move on now and find other guys cause yeah, he never said he did like me either...

[JohnnyTsunami]

religion is def a factor in marriage, smartness ;)

[markml]

Oh my...when you throw in the religion aspect, that's a really big wrench to throw in there.

I understand how it's going with your feelings being amplified by the amount of time you're spending with him.

I would say that you can pull back a little, but try not to pull back too much. Guys hardly ever understand why a girl goes from hot to cold, so if you just stop talking to him, he'll be pretty confused. Whatever you do, do it gradually.

It's really hard to say if he will ever pursue you as more than a friend. Although, I should add that having a guy like that as your friend is not the end of the world either, if it's something you can accept.

And guys are not immune to developing feelings over time either. Usually, you think that a guy is very decisive with these things and that's often the way it is, but if he doesn't have his sights on any other particular girl right now, then the fact that you were always there for him will be something he will remember.

It is a question of patience. I wouldn't automatically assume you're not good enough for him, because he doesn't seem to mind spending time with you. Regardless of what's going on in his head with the religious issue, he can't control if he starts developing feelings for you. At some point, giving him a little distance may actually cause him to realize those feelings more, because it's true what they say about distance making the heart grow fonder. But I don't know if now is that point, and since he's been such a good friend to you, I wouldn't do anything to disrupt that.

[FashionNerd]

Thanks. You brought up a lot of points that put it in a new perspective. So thanks so much.

[wallaber]

Lol I was about to answer then read this, and decided not to cause that about sums it up. But one thing, never ever feel like someone is too good for you, everyone is equal and no-one is 'better' than someone else.

Good luck :)

[peeweelove117]

Number 1: No one's too good for you(: you can do anything! Have confidence in yourself and he'll see your true beauty, I promise! And if he doesn't, someone else will and he's not worth your time!(:

Number 2: I would reccomend staying in contact with him. You like him and he obviously likes you or he wouldn't be friends with you. If you're not so sure about that, then step back for a little while. Let him text you or come up to you first. Usually if they notice, they say something. I dated this guy and he always acted annoyed when I texted him, so I just stopped and left it up to him. He came up to me the very next day and asked if something was wrong because I hadn't texted him and I told him that I was tired of being treated like I didn't deserve him. Be strong for yourself and other people will react to you(:

Also, I'm definitely NOT religious, but I know that that doesn't make me a bad person(: you should, too. You're great because you're you. Just give him a chance to catch up; boys mature slowly(:

Feel better about yourself and good luck!(:

[veronicababy89]

well if you guys are friends and speak a lot he must care for you in some way.

no one is ever to good for another person. everyone is equal .

[Anonymous]

hes stringing you along. honestly. he should be able to tell you if he likes you or not. I've had girls tell me they like me and I didn't feel the same. I just enjoyed the attention. that's kinda what he's doing, he's using your attention, unfortunately. the best thing for it, is just to let time go by, your feelings will fade eventually, as you'll meet other guys etc.. that's a part of life is getting over feelings. :(

[FashionNerd]

Ouch.. I can see that though. I've done the same thing.

[MyNameIsJonas]

Once you feel good enough with yourself, you can start a healthy relationship. I don't know why you think that you are not good enough, but you should spend some more time getting to know yourself before you pursue a serious relationship.

[suavaye]

yu could try and be his girlfriend, like when yu watch a movie on the couch get a little closer than ussual. lay on his shoulder or something see how he reacts. or get him drunk >:)

[7gnat]

hey stick to what you believe and it is fine to have two different views. you are just as good as him. go for it

[sam240]

nobody is too good for anybody...always remember that...true story

[Shadoww]

i know!

[martyfellow]

Lesson #1: No one is too good for anyone else.

[Anonymous]

he is too good for you, get over it and find someone you are on the same level with

dumbass

[Shadoww]

everybody, is the same

[Anonymous]

Whats his religion?