So basically, I've been with him for 5-6 months now and honestly he's a very quirky, fun loving guy. And very popular. Everyone thinks he's too good for me, I've felt awkward in the presence od other women including my own friends around him because I feel like everyone wonders how in earth he wanted to be with me. A lot of random women act really stuck up towards me and look me up and down.
He is a really lovely man and this is no fault of his own. Should I break up with him? He's gorgeous inside and out. I really really don't want to let him go. But our relationship has put me in a very awkward place.
This isn’t about him or other people it’s about you
I know it feels like it’s about the relationship but it isn’t
Life is going to throw this stuff st you constantly
People will judge everything you do and it’s best to not let yourself get into the habit of quitting things you love and also things you don’t care for but are responsible for
You can’t walk away from stuff bc you feel people judging you bc they will. You have to have the strength of character to persevere in spite of that not just In the absence of it- bc that wlll never exist
If You guys are happy together thst means you are good for each other and no one rise gets to decide your relationship but the two of you
If you want to break up with him for other reasons you have thst right but it woujd ge incredibly lame to break up bc you feel like other people think you don’t deserve him
It’d be like giving your house away bc your neighbors thought it was too good for you ( bc they want it) dumb right 🤷♀️😊
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I'm not breaking up with him. A few comments on here helped me realise I'm being stupid. But yeah its ginna take some getting use to
Yeah I didn’t mean to imply your feelings are not legit... and it will ge challenging but ultimately you’ll be stronger for it and can draw on the experience in other spheres of life. Sorry if yhst sounds cliche’ but I really find it to be true.
So you're going to let other people and their pettiness pressure you into dumping your boyfriend? No.
If he likes you, makes you happy, and wants you, and the feeling is mutual? Why do you care what other people, especially catty females think? He picked you, NOT them- obviously he thinks you're good enough or he wouldn't be dating you.
In other words, don't let other people make you feel guilty or lower your self esteem. As long as you two care about each other, that's all that matters.
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I completely understand what you're saying. And I know it's a silly thing to break up on, but I honestly feel like he's out of my league or I need to dress or look a certain way to be with him.
I don't think I will break up with him. I really don't want to and what you're all saying is true. But it's really going to take some getting use to i just wasn't prepared for this
all the girls looking you up and down are jealous of you majorly and want to make you feel like you're not all that but you are special to him because he chose you. Follow your heart and do not care what anyone says. If people say something to you just laugh it off and say well he loves me and thinks i am special and yes I am! lol are u mad?
You are deciding for him that he deserves better and you are making the decision to break up supposedly because HE deserves better even though you ought to be happy with him.
Girl, screw what other people say. They're just jelly that you got a good guy, and want a chance on the goods. He chose you for a reason honey, don't let insecurities ruin your chance for happiness.
I'm not saying I'm out of his league. I just don't like the judgementental looks from other women that make me feel that way. At the end of the day I'm proud of how who I am and how I look. But I feel vulnerable when people automatically judge me like that
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