Boyfriend thinks I’m too fat what do I do. Weight loss help?

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Okay so I been with my boyfriend for 2 years and this past year I gained 25 lbs. (bad I know) but I been trying to lose weight. And I saw him text his friend that I’m getting fat etc. and he also told me “I’m getting too fat and why did I gain weight? Who told me to do that? We matched better before “ I cried etc but that was months ago and I been in the gym for months and literally I’m the same weight. I don't know what to do. ): I feel stuck and trapped in this body. I did a lot of cardio and protein. I would workout for like 2/3 hrs a day. 5 days a week and still the same. Anyone have any tips of what I should do. Being undesirable to person I need to be desired by DOES NOT feel good I need help.

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Boyfriend thinks I’m too fat what do I do. Weight loss help?

Massageman · Accepted Answer

Get a new boyfriend with better eyesight, first of all. OK, maybe you can just help him to be a bit more cordial and understanding. He could have been more tactful, even helpful, instead of just critical!

It is possible to stay the same weight, yet get "out of shape". This happens because lean muscle is more dense than adipose (fatty) tissue. The plain simple truth is that if you don't keep using your muscles, they risk being replaced with bulkier, fatty tissue.

You can do lots of little things: use thinner bread for sandwiches; park the car further from the store so you have to walk further, or just walk to the store if it's close enough; do dog-walking for a second income and for more exercise; etc.

What I'd be most concerned about is that you said you were exercising 2-3 hours, five times a week, and you are "still the same". As we get older, our bodies will need more and more "exercise" to achieve the same result. Yet, it really is not rational thinking to believe that a 60 or 70 year old body will work off calories as a 27-year old one.

I will be happy to go into some details. Send me a follow, I'll do the same and give some pointers. Don't give up!!!

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Okay, so what is your dude attracted to and how have you changed from that and away from that? Obviously, there are going to be plenty of guys and gals on here that will just compliment you and try to inflate your ego, but keep in mind your goal is to impress this guy, not them. So what does he point and look at and go hubba hubba over? Give me that and I can give you a strategy. Otherwise listen to the other people that tell you to get someone new.

seestar · Accepted Answer

I think it's time to break up with him. Sorry for being mean though. He just doesn't deserve you. You actually look super hot right now and many guys would be dying for your attention

wittymilf · Accepted Answer

You seem really happy with how you look and really confident, maybe the problem is with who you’re with 🤷‍♀️ Easiest way to loose weight would be to ditch him 😊

Thatbaldguy · Answer

Your boyfriend sounds like a problem “why dod you gain weight?” “Who told you to do that?” That last one is VERY concerning. It makes it sound like he thinks he has control over you and that you didn’t get his permission to gain weight. That’s a problem. I hope you see that. This whole thing screams red flags. What happens if you get pregnant? Weight gain is very natural during pregnancy. Sometimes a lot. Will you need permission to eat more while pregnant? Will you need permission for your belly to grow as the pregnancy progresses? I mean whats next? “Who told you you could get stretch marks?” Anyways.

The question I have is how do YOU feel about your weight gain? Do you think its an issue because YOU want to loose it. Or are you feeling pressured by him?

Either way you could loose a lot of un needed weight by ditching what sounds like a problematic boyfriend.

Oh and my opinion? You’re gorgeous and plenty of guys would like to be with you just as you are. But what is most important is you being happy with you. You being comfortable in your own skin.

Th3ft · Answer

You look great! It sounds like you need more counseling then weight loss? But anyways cardio doesn’t really take weight off. You need to target areas and you need to eat well. Like if you aren’t eating healthy and filling food your body will just hold on to the weight you have and cardio is only raising your hart rate. You need to work on building gluts and strangthening your core. Like back exercises and ab workouts.

Sandeeppingping · Answer

Bruv it's diet first, you could no cardio and lose weight through diet but can't do the opposite, but yea being active is very important for overall health so that's good regardless, also make sure you're not taking some medication that fucks such things up, also no sugar and no fried food that's too important, I'm thinking of more alsos, nahhh I think that's pretty much it, eat in a caloric deficit after you realize how much you've been eating calorie wise...

exitseven · Answer

Dis he gain any weight? The only one you need to lose weight for is yourself. But if you want to lose it, cut your caloric intake and eat more whole foods. Fruits and vegatables, lean meat and fish. Don't eat processed sugar and cut back on carbohydrates.

If you exercise, step up your training and do more cardio. Look on the web for resting vs. target heart rates. Lose 1 or 2 pounds a week.

Missgingles · Answer

Leave that boy. You are BEAUTIFUL! No need to change anything but the boyfriend. Switch him with a real man.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Americans have two standard mistakes when it comes to overweight/obesity:

- Drinking sugar water all day every day instead of pure mineral water.

- Eating fatty cheap meat instead of high quality groceries, including meat.

--> Most excess food intake cannot be trained away, it's impossible!

JosyJosy · Answer

You decide what's best for you. Being at the weight you're happiest at, or what he's happiest about.

20yearsolder · Answer

Find a new boyfriend. A guy should never say that to his girlfriend. You're smokin hot. I want to see those pics without the strategically placed obstructions.

Zolly99999 · Answer

First of all that's extremely mean of your boyfriend. You look pretty good... but to lose weight I suggest no fast food, processed foods , hunk foods etc. Eat smaller meals every 4 hours or so ( I eat every 3) lots of lean protein and fruits and vegetables..

Hope this helps

AsaKyo · Answer

Your boyfriend must be blind if he thinks you're fat  You're not

maximumpower · Answer

Find another guy from whom you can fish for compliments. That way you won't feel the need to look for them here.

Jessica405 · Answer

Sorry to say, but your bum is out of proportion with the rest of you. The rest is good!

Snsl153 · Answer

What do you do? Get a new boyfriend, that's what you do!

Billlewis · Answer

Oh my goodness... at the risk of stating the obvious, may I please tell you that you are drop dead gorgeous?

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

You can not listen to him, I feel like that's always an option that's there

Googlemyahoo · Answer

If you don’t have kids yet you will get bigger. Just sayin.

9inchestrong · Answer

You're fishing for compliments. If you want to lose weight do it. If you don't want to don't. It's up to you.

Nikki1989 · Answer

He needs to get his eyes checked.

JonesT10Apr · Answer

do not worry much.. just try to be best fit  .. have a happy and healthy life

EaterPeter · Answer

If that is you in pic. Get the new boyfriend.

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