My boyfriend doesn’t like my weight loss and prefers me chubby. What do I do at this situation?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I was a little chubby when I met my boyfriend at mutual friend’s barbecue four years ago. I was 160lbs. We started to hit it off pretty well. We were friends for a year because he had just got out of a terrible relationship. Then after five dates we became a couple and things were going well. Then last year, I decided to make a change after my mom noticed that I’ve put on a lot of weight. She was concerned. I went to the doctor and she gave me a meal and exercise plan. No diets. I’m 5’4” and 189lbs so I’ve gained 29 pounds. My weight has been up and down but I try not to focus on the numbers too much. At first my boyfriend was supportive but then earlier this year, he said I’m getting too skinny and he doesn’t wanna bony or toned girlfriend. Now I’m 122lbs and felt better than ever! My boyfriend won’t even touch me and we haven’t had sex in a month. I want good sex but he refused to give it to me. Now he’s pretty hostile towards me. I like the way I look, I still have my curvy figure and not losing anymore. Plus I’m medium built and I don’t wanna be too thin. I lost 67 pounds and I feel so much better. Why wouldn’t my boyfriend, a fit man who takes fitness seriously support me in my healthier life.

[Oliverlogan263]

That's a tough situation sis. On one hand it's good your man was there for you at your biggest, but it ain't cool how he's acting now that you're at your healthiest. I'd say first have a serious talk with him about how his rejection is making you feel bad about your body after all the work you put in. Ask why he preferred you bigger and listen without getting defensive. Compromise might be keeping your curves in the gym, not losing more.

But girl, don't ever let no man's opinion make you go back to feeling unhealthy! You did this for YOU and that's what matters. If he can't support the new you too then maybe him not being attracted is a sign it's run its course. Don't settle for anyone who don't treat you (and your smokin bod!) with love and respect always. His loss if he can't see how fiiiine you are! Keep shining sis.

[mrkdvsn]

You should be very proud of your weight loss, and the benefits it's given you. Your boyfriend 's going to have to get used to the new and healthier you. If he really cares about you, he will stop pressuring you to gain back weight that you've worked hard to lose.

[HelpfulWoman]

a boy who won't put your health and wellbeing before his "preference" of your weight is DEAD WEIGHT. ditch him as well <3
So proud of you for your journey! I wish I could do it as well as you :)

[Nikki1989]

You have to make yourself happy first.

[BarryLiverstone]

He is probably joking. What does he mean by too skinny?

[Asker]

Like model type but not all models are skinny.

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh I was thinking he meant if you kept going and lost more. It’s odd he stopped wanting sex tho, is he ok?

[cootjuhh]

I don't know i would love to have a healty body in my bed now

[Billlewis]

Gain some of it back.

[Asker]

Hahaha funny. After all that hard work, I’m not going back to the old me. I like my new body and I felt better then I did in 189lbs. Never understood why people don’t want their partner to get healthier.

[Sevenpointfive]

you're not supposed to be with him. move on

[Asker]

I guess that’s the best thing for me. My sister just told me just now he’s a loser and dump him.

[Sevenpointfive]

that's insanely coincidental, but it's probably for the best. i know your going to scream out your new body girl! i'm so happy for you. leave your past behind