Am I weird for not minding too much?

[mono_gram]

My boyfriend asked me if it was okay if he traveled to Hawaii with a friend for several days to which I said yes. Then later he tells me that that friend is a female. (He also said that he didn't want to hide that fact.) He was worried that I would be upset or mad at him for that, but I said that I was okay with it. I think he still didn't believe me at first because he kept trying to defend himself. But I told him that I really didn't mind and that I'm not the type to get jealous or upset easily.

Am I weird or not normal for being like this? Should I be worried? I feel like it's more common to care or even be upset about it.

Maybe I'm like this because I don't know who this female friend is, or I'm just normally a very understanding person. If I were in his shoes I'd probably want to do the same.

Nonetheless, I'm still thankful that he told me.

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Kind of random side note, but why did GAG change boyfriend to boyfriend?

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I meant B F to boyfriend (it did it again).

[NathanDavis]

I would not "mind it too much" but... I always knew all of my girlfriends' friends, and exactly why and what kind of friendship they had and since when

and they would not "come clean" with it, because they would never plan anything like that in secret or something, and they would tell me about why and how come it is just them, that's why I would not see it as a problem... and it's something I've done myself with friends or mine and they knew there was nothing to worry about, and there wasn't

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about your update, I am not sure why... but I'm guessing it could be about the fact that this is in international site, and maybe not everyone is familiar with every abbreviation that some people use and so the algorithm just goes for clarity... boyfriend might be "boyfriend" in America but who knows... it could mean "butt fumble" for the people around New England area...

[spartan55]

Your attitude and mindset is VERY unusual regarding this situation. So much that boyfriend is likely worried you will bring it up later and rain hell down on him. I mean, I get being cool and trusting him, but at the minimum you should probably ask about this woman.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the sweet scent of trust in a relationship, it’s more refreshing than a morning coffee! You're definitely not weird for feeling this way. In fact, you're showcasing a level of maturity and confidence in your relationship that many strive for. Relationships thrive on trust, communication, and understanding. It's fantastic that you're okay with your boyfriend's trip; it shows that you prioritize his happiness and freedom, which, trust me, is a major love bomb in any relationship! It's also great that he was upfront with you about his travel companion; it shows he respects and values your feelings.

The real question here isn't about being weird or not; it's about making sure your trust and confidence are well-placed. Love isn't about chaining someone down but letting them have their adventures knowing they’ll come back to you. As long as the foundation of your relationship is solid and you both maintain open and honest communication, pack those trust issues away like last season's fashions! If you do start feeling uneasy, don't hesitate to chat about it with him; after all, communication is the sexy lingerie of relationships – it makes everything better. Keep being the cool, understanding person you are; it's a rare and beautiful quality!

[Makeushiver]

It depends. Maybe you're incredibly altruistic or secure. How pissed off would you be if you found out they fucked? Or stopped just short? How much do you trust these 2 people? Or how much do you care? Just curious because, as you pointed out, its unusual. Namaste

[SotiCoto]

If you start a question with "Am I weird", the answer is always no.
I can tell because LOADS of people ask "Am I weird" or "Is it weird" followed by whatever pointless insecurity of the day they have. They're common people. Normal people. Boring, mundane people.

You see proper weirdos like me don't give a single flying fuck if anyone knows we're weird or not.

[Chazmatazz269]

I’d be suspicious. The fact that he made the plans BEFORE saying something to you is fishy. It may be a perfectly platonic relationship, but it may be more.
I admire your confidence and restraint. Not sure i could not investigate further.

[bowenw]

A lot of girlfriends would be jealous/upset if their boyfriend wanted to go on a vacation with another girl. Hopefully he would be okay with it if the tables were turned.

[mono_gram]

If the tables turn... that's one of the reasons why I'm okay with it. If I were to travel with a guy friend I would want him to be understanding too.

[bowenw]

That may be something to confirm with him sooner than later.

[David94358]

What's the sleeping arrangements? Are you guys in an open relationship? Is she hot? Are you hot?

Lots of questions here that can determine if this is a good idea or bad idea

[mono_gram]

Not an open relationship and I basically don't know anything about her. But what I do know is that they're staying in different hotels and taking different flights + he's coming back earlier.

[glennos89]

That's what you call fully thrusting your men! Its a definitely green flag if you can thrust your partner 100%. Hopefully he doesn't do anything dumb to change that

[slatyb]

I'm concerned that he didn't tell you the whole story to begin with. That's not acceptable. You need to be able to communicate openly and honestly.

[DrPepper12]

What if anything do you know about her? Why isn't he taking you? Got bad vibes already...

[mono_gram]

I don't know anything about this friend besides the fact that she's a female. I actually don't know much about any of his friends (and the same for him about my friends) because it hasn't been very long since we've dated/known each other. I probably could ask about her but part of me doesn't want to cuz then I'll probably start to overthink the situation.

As for why he's not taking me, I think what happened is that this friend was originally gonna go alone but he ended up getting the opportunity to go. Plus, I'm busy during the time that he would be going.

[DrPepper12]

I don't know. You're trust level is amazing but I just don't want to see you get hurt.

[molonski2]

I'd say your reaction is perfectly fine , he told you the truth , let him enjoy his trip.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Hmmm. Thats a very intriguing question. I suppose I could answer a question with a question: "should" there be concern... ♀️ And a man ♂️

[itsclearlynicholas]

Unless he bluntly says privately to you "she's not my type/bluntly" 😆

[itsclearlynicholas]

If I wrote more explicit I'll get deleted comment reported lol sadly so you know, guys try to reassure by saying she's not as hot as you and hopefully mean it lol 😆

[Mrtcn01]

sorry but it is not normal... in one side it is but i can say that %70 is not normal... this means there is another girl/boy that he can enjoy more than when he /she is with me

[VV3ZZY123]

Yea I would be mad if my girlfriend went on vacation with another guy. I would break up.

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

I understand because if you reversed the same way you would never let it happen to you 💯

[exitseven]

If you were here I would pin a medal on you