Should I just start being happy for other people who get girlfriends and have relationships?

[Anonymous]

Like I’m almost invisible to women so I have wondered if I should just start being happy for people in relationships and just try to live the best I can as a single person and if I get too down maybe do research on a AI girlfriend

[imtiaz45]

It's natural to feel a mix of emotions when others find romantic relationships, including happiness for them and perhaps a tinge of longing or loneliness for yourself. Choosing to focus on genuine happiness for others can cultivate positive feelings and strengthen relationships. Celebrating their joy can also foster a supportive and empathetic outlook, enhancing your own well-being. However, it's important to acknowledge and address any personal feelings of longing or dissatisfaction in your own life. Practicing self-compassion, nurturing your own interests and relationships, and maintaining a positive mindset can help you find contentment and fulfillment regardless of others' romantic status.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/z7-H3C4s3tQ

[Anonymous]

It’s natural to compare yourselves to others and have feelings of jealousy/envy from time to time. When you have that negative feeling don’t resist it but recognize and then ask yourself “what am I going to accomplish by feeling that way?” Nothing good obviously. It’s your choice to indulge that feeling (or worse act on it) or just recognize what it is and let it go.

Anyway I rarely if ever get upset at respectful people who have good things going for them. But if they are dbags about it (criticizing/mocking me) then I will just end all association with them.

My romantic life has been less than stellar. There is a whole myriad of issues. Some my fault, some rotten luck and other reasons that I have zero control over.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to just not give a f*ck anymore. And if someone else wants to criticize me they kindly go f*ck themselves. I’ve even had to call out relatives that have criticized me and create boundaries.

[Anonymous]

You need to get a sense of purpose in your life my friend. You are way to focused on other people and their relationships, trying to feel happy for them and shit, like why do you specifically have to feel anything about anyone else’s relationship? Focus on your betterment, so you aren’t feeling so lonely and lost without a woman.

[IslaTheWitch]

ffs... why people can't work on themselves, just prefer giving up as a first possible option?

read about retrospective, work on your weaknesses, develop your strengths. The natural confidence comes from inside. So start to accept and love yourself. Be the best version of yourself

[JHAYES317]

@islathewitch if the guy is invisible then his weaknesses are likely physical…not much he could do about that without tons of money to get cosmetic surgery…

[IslaTheWitch]

@JHAYES317 lmao...

I know many guys who don't look like Brad Pitt, but they glow between people... they are not handsome, they don't go to gym... but they are aware of their value, they know their strengths, they were born with or hard worked to posses social skills and something what would make people feel good with them... they glow with self-acceptance and confidence...

[JHAYES317]

@islathewitch I didn’t say they couldn’t have value lol I just said they weren’t gonna get laid without a lot of effort…

[IslaTheWitch]

@JHAYES317 as most of us... I'm autistic... do you think meeting people is easy for me?

[JHAYES317]

@islathewitch no but you’re a girl so you’re gonna have no shortage of interest…autistic guys have it much worse in the dating world tbh. I’m not autistic but I am neurodivergent and I get ghosted constantly…my best friend is autistic though and just got his first girlfriend at 23 but she is also autistic…

[IslaTheWitch]

@JHAYES317 lmao...

I'm a girl who always stays far away and observes, in the group i speak too slow or too fast, too loud or too soft, I laugh in wrong moments and can't keep eye contact... we have a word for such people, awkward, and believe me, guys are not interested...

I spent years learning what for you and most people is obvious... yes I put an insane effort to be able to connect with people

[JHAYES317]

@islathewitch I told you…I’m neurodivergent it’s more ADHD/OCD but still…I have a lot of the same issues. I still have yet to be in a relationship yet and I’m 25 because I often say the wrong thing and get ghosted on apps

[IslaTheWitch]

@JHAYES317 so you know what to work on

[JHAYES317]

@islathewitch I can’t just get rid of the social awkwardness…so I’m not sure how I can work on that…my brain just works differently than a neurotypical person…

[Dongie]

Awe, that's so positive. We're not all witches with love potions, Isla. Bitterness and alcohol that's the ticket.

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to spread the love and positivity here! You know, embracing the joy of others can genuinely lift your spirits. It's not about giving up on love for yourself but rather opening your heart to the happiness around you. This shift in perspective can be magical, not only making you a magnet for good vibes but also potentially catching the eye of someone special. The world of relationships is a roller coaster, full of unexpected turns. And hey, while exploring the AI girlfriend territory could be an intriguing venture, remember the human connection has its unique charm that technology can’t quite replicate. Keep shining, stay open, and who knows, love might just find its way to you when you least expect it. Keep the faith and keep flirting with life! 😉

[Awesomesauce2005]

Wow, he just said we are better than him lol

[AviatorTom]

Why would you just start doing that. Wishing happiness to others, especially your friends, is a something that should come naturally... something you should already be doing.

Perhaps the fact that you're not already doing that is one of the reasons why you are single. Others recognize people who think only of themselves. Maybe it's time to change.

[coachTanthony]

I would be more worried about why women aren't attracted to me and try and fix that or at the very least boost other qualities that I have.

[handsomelad70]

Yes, because hopefully EVERYONE, including you, will find a happy relationship.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you have failed to launch in the dating world, maybe you should have some counselling.

[Asker]

How is that gonna help you can’t make women want you

[OlderAndWiser]

The single biggest impediment that guys have for attracting women is their lack of confidence in themselves.

[Willoughby23]

I've never had much success dating and I don’t think counseling will help. All they do is sit there and tell you to be more confident. Maybe I would be more confident if I had all the positive reinforcement most guys have been getting since they were 16.

[DishLady]

Ok. Eeyore... if you don't want to be invisible to women... then stop being invisible. You have to put yourself out there, style yourself and try to meet someone. Sitting here on G@G with Love Doctor Brad and contemplating AI SOs... is not going to lead to happiness.

[JHAYES317]

@DishLady seems like a lot of effort for likely little to no results

[Willoughby23]

@JHAYES317 It is

[Fireguy17]

Sure, why wouldn't you?

You time is coming.

Think of it this way, if they are friends, or al least one of them and she sees that you are happy etc. she might know someone that she might be willing to set you up with.

If you are bitter, angry what would she tell her friend, I met this guy who might be just right for you.

He is angry, bitter, has an awful outlook on life, just what you are looking for!

It pays to keep your options open.

[padrepiedra777]

Yes you should be happy for others.

No, you should not get an AI girlfriend.

You need to stop focusing on women and work on what you're passionate about. If you don't have a passion, find one. Women are not interested in men without a passion of some kind.

[Asker]

Ok I have been doing that eventually you progress to a point where you want to experience a relationship

[Asker]

Also why not on a ai girlfriend

[padrepiedra777]

Strait up dude, keep working on it. You're going to keep wanting a relationship regardless, its hardwired into us, but that can't be the main focus or you will most likely fail... or you will succeed and live to regret it.

[padrepiedra777]

If you have to ask this dude, its hard to know even what to say.

I'll just say (strait up, no shade, but just man to man) that you need to keep working on becoming a man. A man does not need a woman, even if he might like one, and for sure, he does not ever need to stoop to a fake computer program emotion simulator.

[scott04sa22]

There's a difference if wanting a girlfriend and needing a girlfriend. I'm happier without having any girlfriend's because I'm happier on who I am
Both my ex-girlfriends never care about me because they need relationships then wanting a relationship. I'm fine with or without relationships.

[Anonymous]

No. Just don't hate on them.

And yes, live the best life you can as a single person.

You want to know what's worse than being single? Being in relationship and still being alone. I promise you man about half the people you see in relationships, are not happy. Many are quite miserable. What you see for many of them, is and act they put on for the world.

Try to remember that.

[Asker]

What about the ai girlfriend

[CriticalCatDad123]

I’m just indifferent to those who do. It’s their choice. Doesn’t affect me at all. They’re the ones who will be experiencing heartbreak and not me 🤷🏻‍♂️ I’m in the Better position being single than those who are in a relationship

[SotiCoto]

Nah. You don't have to be happy for anyone else.
You're probably best off not thinking about them at all. Or maybe hate them if you have the energy to spare, but I wouldn't, as hating everyone is exhausting.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Why not look up social clubs in your area for your age group? Nobody has to be alone, even you with that defeatist attitude!

[magneto912]

You are at least 30 and you base your happiness in a relationship... ?

Find fulfillment and confidence in yourself and who you are! Live a life that you are proud and happy with.

Learn to be happy living alone.

[laly520]

focus on working on urself rather than focusing on others

[itsclearlynicholas]

I realised this a long time ago by mid late 20s. I'm 30 now. 👀👀👀😉

[Anonymous]

No because those very people in relationships end up miserable within a year lmao 🤣, and they become even more miserable when they have kids.

[Dongie]

Sure, outwardly, then comes a time in your life where you'll suddenly realize the bitterness has become an old friend. 😵‍💫

[DrPepper12]

Why wouldn't you be? It's not about you it's about them. Don't bench yourself. Stay in the game!

[Awesomesauce2005]

For some couples im happy. For others it kind of pisses me off because i know she could do better.

[LiamJHayden]

Just start being happy, period, and that will draw the right women.

[FuqUFggt]

Ou should take out your incel rage in hilarious fashion

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah. Otherwise the far side will forever dominate your destiny.

[Willoughby23]

Dating for men who don’t look like movie stars is a lost cause in 2024.

[Anonymous]

Listen buddy don’t mean to be a dick but not everyone finds love.

[WhitneySnow]

It’s always good to be happy for others

[slatyb]

How many women do you know?

[GoGetitGio]

Yes!!! Don’t be a hater it benefits no one

[sheikalana]

Sure!

[DreamLife7]

Mind ur business wtf