Should I start dating again?

[Anonymous]

So I have been single since 2020. But the summer of 2021 I moved to Florida. I tried meeting guys and going on dates for over a year. Most of the time I wouldn't connect with a guy, with a few exceptions. Those connections would fizzle out quickly though. I kept dealing with terrible experiences from dating apps, and single events. Between those experiences I was disrespected, mostly uninterested, ghosted and gaslit. Because of those things, but mainly the last one I quit dating.

It has been over a month and most of my experience has been good, other than me being nervous to tell people about me quitting dating. I was so scared to tell people but when I did I felt better. Most reactions were sympathetic, but family and friends kept saying I will find someone. I doubt it at this point. Even though I live in a city II was struggling, but I feel most people where I live are already married (in my age group anyway).

I do have a slight temptation to try dating again but its just a temptation. Logically speaking I do not want to date after dealing with all the BS I had to. I know what I want in a guy but I feel like he is impossible to find/doesn't exist. Yet I have had the urge to try again.

I don't know if it is because I am going through a rough patch with my career or if it's because I know more people now who are getting married or are in relationships. As happy as I feel for them I just can't see myself being like them anymore. Yet I feel like I want to try again.

Based on my situation if you were me would you try again or just stay single?

[GreekLorrd]

Ultimately, the decision to start dating again or remain single is a personal one that only you can make. However, it might be helpful to consider a few things before making a decision.

First, think about why you want to start dating again. Is it because you genuinely want to meet someone and build a meaningful relationship, or is it because you feel pressure from societal expectations or your friends and family? If it's the latter, it might be worth taking some time to focus on yourself and your own goals and desires rather than feeling like you have to be in a relationship.

Second, consider what you've learned from your past dating experiences. Are there any patterns or red flags that you've noticed in the types of people you've dated? If so, it might be worth reflecting on those patterns and making changes in your own approach to dating or the types of people you're seeking out.

Finally, if you do decide to start dating again, it might be helpful to approach it with an open mind and realistic expectations. Not every date or relationship will be a perfect fit, and that's okay. Take things slow, be honest with yourself and the people you're dating, and prioritize your own needs and happiness above anyone else's.

Ultimately, there is no right or wrong answer to whether you should start dating again or stay single. It's important to do what feels best for you and to prioritize your own emotional well-being and happiness.