I want to start dating again but should I wait until I reach my weight loss goal?

[Anonymous]

I have lost 50 pounds so far since the new year! My thing I am worried about is gaining weight back if I date again. I typically exercise 2-3 hours a day and have a strict diet. My diet consists of no sugar (ie cakes), no dairy, gluten, no processed foods, or eating out. I want to find the right person who supports my life choices. I am curious is it better to wait until I lose the 135 pounds or wait until I lose around 80 pounds. I don’t want to accept any guy in my life because I want to take my health serious this year! Thank you for the suggestions!

[arodriguez664]

First of all, congratulations on your weight loss! It's admirable the amount of time and effort that you've been putting in to lose that weight. I would think that if you have strong boundaries and are good at communicating, You could get into a relationship. However, if you struggle with communication and boundaries, there could be issues. Even if you do find someone who supports your lifestyle they might do something that makes you uncomfortable or they want you to do something that cuts into your routine. Relationships are always work and if you have a strict routine it becomes harder.

[Anonymous]

'My diet consists of no sugar (ie cakes), no dairy, gluten, no processed foods, or eating out.'

None of that sounds sustainable. Exercising 2-3 hours a day sounds inefficient and also completely unsustainable as well. The key is doing something efficient that can be sustained for the rest of your life. Therefore my suggestions are to find a more sustainable way of maintaining a good weight that doesn't involve much impact on your diet or lifestyle. You could get more done in 20 minutes with overcoming isometrics using a commercial isochain or a DIY build every 2 days, than the 2-3 hours you're doing every day. That I can guarantee. Getting the nutrition that increases your metaolism, stomach acid levels and using subliminal audio to create new beliefs will take care of the rest. You can use the subconscious mind to remain at a 'specific' weight.

In answer to your main question, you should wait until you're happy with your progress before dating.

[siseñor]

Bruh are you a duck?

[ryanrhino]

Once you get to your desired weight, you'd have to balance your diet and your significant other, so why not try now? You could do walking and exercise dates, as odds are you want someone who desires a healthy lifestyle. And, I would bet the right one for you would support you even more in your goals.

[EmyyWolf]

I’m in the SAME EXACT position as you. SAME EXACT position. 😣😣😣

It’s so hard cause I have a high drive. And because I’m so single it feels so lonely and I desire intimacy and love.
I guess do what your heart tells you.

I do think it’s better to go into it in a healthy weight because that’ll show healthy and fitness and that you love yourself enough to care for yourself.

Rather when you’re a whale, men tend to pump and dump you. Because they feel they can do better 😒😒😒

[Jdjfjcjj]

Just realize that you come in at your best, you gonna expected to maintain that level, just as he is expected to maintain his personality he showed when he was on his best behavior to attract you

[EmyyWolf]

@Jdjfjcjj
Yeah but he also better keep his looks that also attracted me wtf. Women are more visual than men.

[Pinay_ako]

Up to you. But don’t be too hard on yourself or to the person who would want to love you and embrace your uniqueness.

[MisterKuulius]

If you find someone now and then lose more weight, there is a good chance he will stick around. If you find someone later after you lose weight, you should find a more desirable guy, but there is a good chance that if you gain the weight back he will leave to look elsewhere for a more desirable woman. I'd say that it all depends if you think you can actually keep the weight off.

[FifiJones]

Perennial question. I have jaw arches and some crowding to still fix. And my cringe reflex at my nasty fosterfather who intentionally injured my genitals and used to severely physically and mentally abuse and torture me (or fostermother, since that thing might be transgender)

[AdithyaR]

If you're attaching your self worth and confidence to your weight then that's a bigger problem than the actual weight.
If you wait for this hypothetical ideal state then you'll never reach it cause you'll constantly feel like there's more to improve in some or other aspect.
Keep the weight loss journey and your dating life separate. If you feel ready to date, go ahead and do it, let the weight loss run its own course.

[Jdjfjcjj]

If you find a guy now, your current weight is your baseline.

If you lose more weight and find a guy, that's your baseline and I doubt he'll be sympathetic should you put back some of the weight.

[4ngelic]

you probably should because you'll be much more confident then and you'll be a lotttt more attractive which means you'll have a lot more options and a lot better ones, and just it will easier getting dates and stuff

[b-river]

I believe that someone should have themselves at a stable point before trying to bring someone else in their life.

If you think you need to be alone to figure this out. Keep focusing, and get what you need.

[JonesT10Apr]

glad to hear. weight loss is very happier thing.
hard work pays you. I'm also overweight person.

keep going. everything will happen in correct time.
Don't worry. don't stress yourself much.
keep doing what you do and excercise and follow healthy diet. be healthy and fit

[rosemilk]

honestly i think you should continue working on yourself. love can wait, but this sounds very important to you so it's important that you have no distractions
congrats on the weight loss so far!

[yourlocaltherapist]

you shoudld definetly focus on your heath gouals before jumping into a relashinship if you jump into a relationship now you may fall behind your goals and loose all the effort you put in so far

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you've answered your own question. You don't want a man in your life. And if that's your attitude, would be great if you could leave them alone to find women that can appreciate them.
Good luck on your journey though.

[LogicalGal123]

No. If u wanted to start dating again, go date. No need to wait to lose wait. Find someone who is willing to go on the journey WITH u. Someone who accepts u for who u are. Not the way u look.

[TheBootyChest]

Since you mentioned not wanting to take a guy to focus on your health it sounds like you have your answer.

[Jamie05rhs]

How is your mental health? I think the biggest question to consider is if you can handle the ups and downs of the dating process without throwing you off your health journey. Dating can be quite volatile emotionally.

[Jamie05rhs]

by the way, congratulations on your progress so far! That's amazing!

[jshm2]

You'll still look average, just lighter round the belly average, kiddo.

You're too insecure to maintain a relationship.

[RavVid]

Well done with the 50 lbs! You want to get the new good habits well embedded I'd suggest. Chocolate needs to become a bad taste to you.

[Stevefiveo]

Yes, of course you can date. Congratulations on your weight loss. Keep up the good work. You just need to find someone that will support your goals.

[RockyHammock]

The best things in life are earned through hard work and delayed gratification. You have your goal and you are almost half way there, don't take the east road here.

[annabananna]

Congrats on the weight loss! I think it’s really up to you. You could concentrate on weight loss but be open to being with a person if the right person came along while not actively searching for it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You will hit a wall trying to lose weight starving yourself. Speed up your metabolism instead.