Here are a few thoughts on your situation:
- It's understandable that you want to be with him and start your lives together. Waiting 2-3 more years apart must be really difficult.
- At the same time, his desire to pay off his debts first so you two are more financially stable is also reasonable. Debt can be stressful.
- Is there a compromise where you both meet halfway? Like you move in together sooner but contribute what you can to help pay down the loans faster. Every little bit helps.
- Talk to your medical team too. See if there are any programs or options to keep your benefits even if you move to be with him while staying in the same general area.
- Make sure you really communicate openly about finances, expectations, caring for each others' needs - get on the same page so no one feels overwhelmed or stressed.
- Counseling might help if you're at an impasse. A neutral third party could offer perspective.
The main thing is that you both care for each other. Maybe there's a solution you haven't thought of yet. I hope you're able to work through this in a way that makes you both feel heard and supported in the relationship.
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Is there a friend of yours who could help mediate a discussion on this topic between you both?
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I saw this question yesterday that he made I don’t know man this is a real tough one. I said yesterday he should live with his parents until he gets on his feet, but I don’t know if you need help either. This is a very tough decision you guys are gonna have to talk it out one on one
from what you have put here there is something else holding him back you may want to find out what that is before moving in with each other. home life for older boys is hard to give up due to the freedom that it gives. moving in with you he loses out on that freedom. and he may be frightened of taking that step, and giving up that freedom. in your shoes I would look for a new boyfriend, sorry to say that, but love is strong and it dose not look that way after reading this.
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