I'm 31, M. She's late 20s.
I don't have much experience with dating, well not recently anyway. We're talking on messenger. We live about an hour's drive apart, but we have met irl. She's a friend friends, we met at a shindig in autumn last year and then saw each other at a party in December. There's definitely vibes, like.. it felt like there was mutual attraction. She even made a point of saying "no I'm not currently seeing anyone, I'm single yeah" basically, at the party.
So then the day after the party she added me on social media.. but I didn't talk to her for like a month because it was Christmas time, and I wanted to play it cool, and I felt like a worthless nothing that no one would ever want to be with for a while as well, because of something else I was struggling with that had me in that headspace.
So I didn't speak to her for a month, but then I said hi on messenger just a few days ago and we've exchanged a few messages, and it seems to be going well. She's sent some long messages with loads of smiley emojis and called me a "stylish chap" at one point. But now I'm wary of chat stagnating because I find conversing by text difficult, because it's unnatural. Y'know we got on really well in-person, those two times.
But also I have a crack in my windscreen that I need to get fixed before taking the fairly long drive if I were to drive up to see her or something. So it's not like I can just say "oh hey do you want to do something on [insert date]" because I need to get my car sorted before I can make a date.
But it's only been a few days since I started talking to her on chat anyway, so I don't want to come on too strong or rush it or anything so how long should I wait before asking if she wants to do something? Also I don't want to talk too much by chat y'know don't want to overdo it either so... like should I wait two or three days or something before I text her again? Because the chat we were having just kind of reached a natural lull or whatever, y'know.
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