So … I have been interested in a woman for a while now that I only ever see at my church. Due to factors in both of our lives, either she or I had been absent from church a lot since Christmas. Of the few times we were both there I never had a good opportunity to talk to her. I finally got a chance yesterday and asked her out. She told me she was flattered but that right now she is too busy to date. I know that can be a way a woman turns a guy down if she wants to be nice.
With her, I genuinely think she’s being honest. She is one of the busiest people I know, working full-time for her dad, part time for her mom, doing lots of things for the church and going to Montana here and there for one - three weeks at a time to help with her family’s ranch.
Is it a good sign or am I reading too much into it that she still took my number after turning me down? Does that leave the door open or would you say she slammed it shut?
I live in a small town with very few singles around our ages and even fewer Christian ones. And there aren’t a lot of options on dating apps that aren’t at minimum over 75 miles away. I’m just curious if I should wait to see if she calls or texts me or should I try to find someone else? The lack of options is the major factor here. And if I do wait, how long should I before I start looking again? This one checks off almost all of the boxes for me so I want to be smart in whatever I do.
With her, I genuinely think she’s being honest. She is one of the busiest people I know, working full-time for her dad, part time for her mom, doing lots of things for the church and going to Montana here and there for one - three weeks at a time to help with her family’s ranch.
Is it a good sign or am I reading too much into it that she still took my number after turning me down? Does that leave the door open or would you say she slammed it shut?
I live in a small town with very few singles around our ages and even fewer Christian ones. And there aren’t a lot of options on dating apps that aren’t at minimum over 75 miles away. I’m just curious if I should wait to see if she calls or texts me or should I try to find someone else? The lack of options is the major factor here. And if I do wait, how long should I before I start looking again? This one checks off almost all of the boxes for me so I want to be smart in whatever I do.
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Anytime a post opens with "I have been interested in a woman for awhile" then I know it is probably too late. Women move on or some guy moves in IF you do not act. You must ask her out next time you see her. Who cares if she has a boyfriend... she will tell you. At least she knows that you have an interest... and always have.
You are letting life, fun, and joy slip through your fingers. Act on your feelings in this case.
Do not wait, you will miss your chance.
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