First off, I'm all for losing weight. Of course I think it's a good thing to stay in shape. But, it's not like I'm fat. I'd say I'm definitely average, on the weight scale (Like 120lbs?). I already have really bad body dysphoria too. It's unfair. Right now I just want to focus all my energy on doing well in school and at work for once. But I can't help but think about how ugly my body is whenever he mentions it.
Anyways. Am I overreacting, or should I take his advice?
Most Helpful Guy
120 pounds? According to the BMI calculator, that is a normal weight if you are between 4'10 and 5'7. Your boyfriend is both ignorant and obnoxious. Do not attempt to lose weight, 120 pounds is perfect. Your boyfriend is both ignorant and obnoxious and he's stressing you out. Who needs that? Dump him and find a guy who appreciates you.1
Most Helpful Girl
You should tell him to kiss your ass.
Why would you want to be with a man that insults and degrades you? Is he perfect? in my opinion you should tell him this is unacceptable and you are not going to become anorexic to please him and that if he truly loves you, he needs to accept you the way you are or find someone new.
If he truly cared about you (especially since you say you suffer from dysphoria) he wouldn't be encouraging you to change your appearance whatsoever (unless he hears you complain about being fat and is trying to get you to do something about it) That would be one thing..
However, its my own personal experience that when a man starts bugging you about your weight, it means he doesn't find you appealing anymore and is most likely cheating or at the very least, considering it.
You should rethink the relationship if looks are more important to him than your health.