My boyfriend keeps telling me to lose weight, is he being too controlling?

[Liz2001]

He saw a picture of me of two years ago and said "I feel in love with the slimmer you" Ever since then he's been telling to lose weight. I feel like it's only for his benefit. He keeps saying stuff like "I'm afraid once you lose weight men are going to want you" but honestly I look at myself in the mirror and I look healthy. The picture that he saw was when I was not eating enough. I would starve myself and eat until 4 or 6 in the afternoon. What should I do?

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I weigh 145 and 5'5 ft tall for anyone asking.

[boggboss]

So here is the thing there is no right or wrong here just what u want and what he wants and if the other can be happy with ther others choice as u have the final say but we do too some degree take what the other says on bored just about working out what is too much to request

[slatyb]

Are you at a healthy weight? Then tell him that you were not healthy then and you are happy and healthy now and happy with your weight. He sounds rather selfish, more concerned with himself than with you. Maybe you should find a more supportive boyfriend. I dint think he’s good for you.

[Syd345]

Depends on your weight. If you are overweight, it's good for your health to lose weight. You will also feel better after losing weight. You don't even have to exercise, just go on a calorie deficit, say 500 calories a day. It will also strengthen your relationship. Anyone who wants you to change and improve yourself is a good friend/boyfriend in general.

[jasco]

Maybe a little but sometimes its good to lose weight because not all men wanna have a fat girl as a girlfriend

[Jmmmfi4]

Don't let someone bully or control you

But a little exersise never hurt anyone

[Agape93]

Yeap and he’s an asshole

[maryisbreathing]

whatever you do dont starve yourself again

[MrSkin]

Doesn’t sound like a guy you should keep around.

[CriticalDiscourse]

Dump his stupid ass.

[In_Trance]

Yup. Dump him

[harry7825]

What's your weight

[Liz2001]

145 , I'm 5'5

[harry7825]

145 kg