I have gained weight. About 10 kg (22 lbs) sice last Summer. I'm kind of embarrassed about that because I was normal (average) built (not skinny and not fat) but now I'm really plump. To make things worse my boyfriend insistently remainds me about it and insists that I should eat less and start working out. What are my options?
It's important to remember that your worth is not determined by your weight or physical appearance. If your boyfriend is consistently pressuring you to lose weight and making you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable about your body, it's essential to address the situation and communicate your feelings to him. Here are some steps you can consider:
1. Reflect on your own feelings: Take some time to understand how his comments make you feel. Evaluate whether his behavior is negatively impacting your self-esteem or mental well-being.
2. Communicate openly: Have an honest and calm conversation with your boyfriend about how his comments are affecting you. Explain your feelings and express that his approach is not helpful or supportive. It's crucial to be clear about your boundaries and let him know what kind of support you would prefer.
3. Seek support from loved ones: Talk to friends or family members you trust about the situation. Share your feelings with them and seek their perspective and advice. They may provide valuable insights or support during this time.
4. Set boundaries: Clearly define your boundaries and expectations regarding body image discussions. Let your boyfriend know what kind of conversations are acceptable to you and what is not. Boundaries help maintain a healthy and respectful relationship.
5. Consider professional help: If the situation persists or worsens, you might want to consider seeking couples counseling or individual therapy. A trained professional can help facilitate communication and provide guidance for both of you to navigate this issue effectively.
Remember, your body is your own, and your worth is not defined by your weight. It's important to surround yourself with people who support and appreciate you for who you are.
We should always strive to be our best for our partners. As soon as we stop, it means we don't care about our partner in that way. And judging by his asshole demeanor, There's a good reason you stopped caring about him that way and stopped taking care of yourself. Find a better dude that motivates you to try. The path you're on now will lead you to a life of unhappiness and early death.
Well keep in mind, he's probably telling you this because he cares and wants to stay with you- he's not being mean (or so I hope not). Heck, I wish my friends and family would have told me when I gained weight years ago: that would have egged me on to lose it rather than pretend like it wasn't a problem.
So if you aren't happy with your weight, are you willing to lose weight? If so, then ask him will he exercise with you? If he's so insistent on you losing weight, he should commit to doing so with you! Ask -him- for advice and what he recommends: not just "eating less and working out." Ask him, "Hey, want to go for a walk with me?" Or, "What kind of foods should we eat?" Make it a team effort.
Now if he's pushing you in a rude way, comparing you to other women, or not being helpful? Then I'd be insulted and tell him to back off or dump him.
Do 20 minutes of walking 3-4 times a week and as you get bored, you will naturally upgrade your work out, even with no trainer or accountability party necessary.
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Do it for yourself - not for a significant other. You know for a fact that you would feel better about yourself if you created this change for yourself
You could lose weight if you want, it's healthy, but he should be super nice and careful with your feelings when he discusses this with you, and should also understand and accept if you don't want to lose weight, also he is still young I'm assuming, the older I get the more I accept and even appreciate plumpness and on many ladies I find it super hot! So don't feel bad about it
Eat less and start working out
or
Not.
Or
Say "F it, go big or go home, I'ma do 100lbs"
I don't follow. What are you asking? You said you put on 22lbs. That's a lot of weight, so unless you were severely underweight before, now you're overweight. If your boyfriend cares about you then he understands how unhealthy that is.
With regard to your relationship, consider whether he has been mean about it or whether he is just concerned because he cares about you. As for the weight, a mix if high-intensity interval training, strength training, and moderation in eating junk or starchy food can be very effective.
22 lbs isn't a lot especially if you were really thin already. If you're happy with your weight and feel healthy, then don't lose weight. It depends how he said it, was he concerned about your health or about your appearance? If it's the latter, then he should accept how you want to be or find someone else. I'm sure he's not perfect either.
He's right to do so. Being overweight is ugly, unhealthy, and disrespectful to both your partner and yourself. Here are your options: you can either start cutting out the carbs and trying to be more active so that you lose weight or you can listen to the body positivity idiots and ignore your boyfriend, love your jelly rolls, keep eating what you want and getting fatter, and then die alone from heart disease at 50. The choice is yours.
Tell him to f**k off if he insists on you losing weight. IF you don't want to lose weight and he keeps telling you to, you should leave him. He clearly cannot accept who you are and you clearly don't want to do something he's asking you to do.
Unless you're extremely overweight, I don't think you should feel obligated to lose even an ounce of weight for him or anyone else. There are too many guys out there who would love to date an attractive plus sized woman.
He wants you to be healthy. Thats great! Start working out. You dont evan need to go to the gym you can go for a run once a day and eat more healthy.
If you yourself don't feel comfortable with the extra weight just try to lose it. Use your boyfriend as extra encouragement. Don't know why you would need any advise on this.
You do of course realise that only you can do something about this... But only if you want to. x
Well, you should be more concerned of your health. If it's affecting your health do something about it.
Lose weight for you not for others. If your boyfriend demands it then drop him, that'll be weight off your shoulders.
Do it for yourself if you want to, not because he tells you to
Unless you're addicted to sugar, you can lose 22 pounds very quickly on the Atkins diet.
Tell your boyfriend to be willing to support you in the process as in you both can go exercise together so that can feel encouraged.
It's ok that's not bad he's just being a spoiled ass and doesn't take into consideration about your feelings or understand what it does to your self esteem I think you should tell him to go f* off
Tell your boyfriend fuck off who does he think he is. Wtf telling you lose weight what a dick
I've lost 29 pounds this year... so it's definitely possible
QUEEN FUCK HIM ITS YOUR BODY NOT HIS FUCKER
