Should I give this guy another chance after ditching me?

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So this guy I went on a date with the Friday before last. He is my friend’s cousin who introduced me to him. So we talked and decided to go on a date. So. I met him and I say him and getting him. He was so shocked about how tall and am. I am 6’4” barefoot. So we did talk and he kept saying he isn’t used to seeing a woman almost as tall as him and always preferred women under 6ft. Then he claimed he needed to use the “restroom” and he said we will be right back. I’ve been eating for 20 minutes and he never came back. I was hurt so I called my friend and explained what happened and she was pissed. So she told me after I got home that she called him out on his bullshit and for ditching me just because of my heart and he should’ve be ashamed of himself. He ain’t a real man and he acted like a pathetic little boy. She also told me that if he thinks that I may give him a second chance, don’t get his hopes up. He’s 6’7 and said I’m WAY too tall.
So last night he called me and apologized for ditching me and explained which his reasons is so pathetic and I did call him out because he did hurt me. He asked if I wanted to try again and redo the date again like after Christmas. To tell you the truth, I don’t even know if I want to give him a second chance. I told him that he really hurt me and how do I know that he’s not gonna ditch again, even though we just met. I’ll have to think about it, really hard. He said he understood and hung up. I mean he did sound genuine, but I don’t know. What do you guys think? I’ve been hurt a lot in dating and I’ve been dumped for my height. Should I risk it and give it another shit?

Likes2drive · Accepted Answer

What’s his problem? He is still extremely tall and still a few inches taller than you so you guys wouldn’t even look funny like the couples I see looking ridiculous when the girl is so short compared to the guy it looks like his kid. You guys would have NBA players as kids if you got serious. But if I were you I wouldn’t bother with him, he obviously doesn’t like women that can look him the eye with heels on , the way he ditched you at the restaurant. That was immature and the only reason he called you back is because of your cousin. Must be hard for you getting dates normally since you’re taller than most men though

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Fuck that. He’s taller then you lol. No. Doing something like that is cowardly and if you wouldn’t do that to someone you don’t deserve to have it done to you.

If something isn’t working out. Then he just needs to say so. Did he pay his half of the tab even? If not. Don’t pay for it. Let the cops get involved if they have to.

I wouldn’t and to each thier own. I kind of like women taller then me.

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn’t do it because it sounds like this is out of guilt and not genuinely wanting the date. He’s feeling like an asshole after being scolded by his cousin, so I think he wants to redeem himself but just so that he can afterwards end things without feeling bad. If things ended now he’d feel like shit because of his cousin and you expressing he hurt your feelings. But it isn’t your job to make him or anyone else feel better about being a jackass. It was a cruel, mean choice to act how he did and I wouldn’t wanna date someone like that.

AutumnSerenity · Accepted Answer

Wow, he’s a coward. He could’ve simply told you “Sorry, this isn’t going to work for me.” I wouldn’t waste anymore of my time on him. I hope you find someone that finds your height to be one of your best qualities. I wish I was taller - being short has its disadvantages. Merry Christmas.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

He has already shown his true character. Anything different he does now will be pretending.

Dandelion1994 · Answer

Guy acted horribly - as if he ditched you mid date! A person who can't show the basic courtesy and respect of sticking out their dinner or at least being honest and upfront that they aren't comfortable and would like to end the date early aren't worth your time.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I wouldn’t. I know that meeting guy that’s taller than you is appealing- but cancelling is one thing. Ditching you in the middle of the date is really messed up. Especially for a superficial reason like your height. As cliche as it sounds, you can definitely do better.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly he sounds like one of the biggest losers on earth. If a cousin sets you up with her friend, he literally has an obligation to at least stay unless some serious shit was happening. What an embarrassment to the family. I'm literally ashamed of him and I don't know him at all. Seriously if he left cuz he didn't like your height, he has issues. He owes you way more than a dinner. Maybe you should humiliate him somehow

renodnol32 · Answer

No. He did it before. Maybe his cousin called him out for it and he feels guilty so he called against his will to clear his guilt. Also, it was disrespectful what he did. You have self respect. He missed out on a woman (you) he could possibly connect with. He let you down and ended up embarassing his cousin too who is a friend of your's. If he can't even honour a date for what an hour or so? Why bother? You are a human. You are a person. You are not disposable.

Dinklex3 · Answer

I wouldn’t, lol. Saying he’s going to the restroom and just ditching you is completely fucked up and a slap in the face. I wouldn’t give someone who thinks it’s okay to do that a second chance at all.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Fuck him! He doesn’t deserve a second chance.

chrissykerdock · Answer

i would give him a 2nd chance only if he agreed to being handcuffed to you this way he can't sneak out again... and wear heels

Amara_09 · Answer

No. He lost his chance and I want you to not make the same mistake again. Girl Be Smart, he lost his chance.

Katebfun · Answer

No. It's a PITY date he is not interested. Cut your losses and move on.

AmeerX · Answer

Are you stupid or something? No don't give him a second chance. That was really pathetic what he did. If he ditched you now imagine what else he might do when things get bad and ugly

Surely · Answer

I could see him not asking you for a second date. But not letting you sit while he bailed on you at a restaurant!  Your call.

syncheart · Answer

I don't think you should give him another chance. The guy sounds stupid to me.

Paris13 · Answer

Um, I would Feel Insulted. But give it One more Try. xxoo

lightbulb27 · Answer

Only for practice dating and resolving issues. He needs lot of work

Berethor · Answer

It hard for you to find a guy taller than you, so yea I think that you should try again.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

What harm does one more shot do? He realises now he made a mistake. He's been called out and apologised. One last chance.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I wouldn’t risk it. If you do, be careful. He might flake out again.

Minahh · Answer

He should be careful not to fuck things up if he is really into you, if he's complaining about your height imagine what else he's going to complain about later

iFarted · Answer

Why would you even entertain the thought of another chance? You want to give a second chance to a guy who ditched you at a restaurant? okay...

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