Do you think I ruined my chances with this guy? How do I fix this and make him like/want me again?

[Anonymous]

So this guy kissed me. He confessed he thought I was extremely attractive. We made out then exchanged numbers. His friend actually likes me so it was very unexpected but now I can't stop thinking about him. He texted me saying he was sorry and that he drank too much I said "it's ok me too." The following weekend I texted him asking if he was out. He replied right away and said he was debating on going out. I told him he should come and he did. (It was his friends bday so he was socializing with other people but said he came just for me) i told him I had a crush on him and wanted to kiss him and he said the same things back. He tried to kiss me and I kept saying not here. I think I was really nervous because all I wanted to do was kiss him. He carries himself really well and usually I do but for some reason I really didn't, this time. He bought us drinks and then when we were leaving tried to kiss me again, said he wanted to hangout with me but I kind of just left to find my friend. All I wanted to do was hangout with him but I got really nervous and it ended really awkwardly. I asked if he had an after party (my friend wanted to go to one)... I just wanted to hangout with him but I don't think he knew of an after party.. he literally came alone. He ended up talking to a group of people and my friend and I were just kind of waiting. Then 2 guys tried to talk to us, 1 even bought me a rose. I was trying NOT to look at the guy I actually liked because he was talking to a girl (and group of guys) so I just talked to this guy even though I didn't like him at all.. my friend said he kept looking at me. I didn't see him leave. We then ditched the guys. I think maybe he felt rejected by me but I really like him. I texted him the next day thanking him for the shots and then asked how his night was and he never texted me back. I'm feeling so upset about this because I'm a really good girl, but I'm not sure how he sees me now. Any opinions? How do I fix this?

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+1 y

I know he was really into me so why not text me back? I think I made him feel bad or maybe he got upset/felt rejected because I was talking to other guys in front of him... I really only like him though..

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+1 y

Thank you so much for the honesty and kindness everyone :) I think I will wait until I see him again and then apologise and see where it goes from there. :)

[AmanoYin]

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You seem like a really honest and open girl, so you will go far no matter how his goes. You might be nervous but you know you're nervous and you aren't blaming others.
SO here's my advice.
Step1: don't blame yourself, don't beat up yourself, don't say "i ruined this" You did exactly what only you knew how and felt she could do, a person can only do so much. Be proud of both your cans and can'ts.. own no shame in yourself.
Step2: Post this whole conversation to him, screen shot it and send it too him, be honest. You don't honestly have to do it but do something like that. Get in contact with him and tell him everything you just told us. If he won't take your phone number, then use your friends phone, make it clear, say everything you just said.
IF he's truly a good guy then he will prolly easily give himself another chance to spend time with you. And if he doesn't understand you then simply move on.

[Rojaasu]

you dun fucked up however this may be salvagabl with a lot of luck I think the major problem is you wanted to kiss him told him then talked to other guys in front of him so he thinks you are trying to play him or are toying with his emotions try to send a text to him explaining what you feel and why you did what you did if that doesn't work go to plan b and call him and try to do the same thing if he doesn't pick up go to plan c and organize a meeting between you two through a mutual friend without him knowing you will be there and then say it to his face he can't ignore you to your face

[Anonymous]

He thought that you were not interested and he felt totally rejected. I know for sure that I would feel that way if I was in his position. You should apologize. You have nothing to lose.

[Mydiis]

Hmm so you told him not to kiss you there, and then you talked to another guy? he might think that that guy is your boyfriend, or he might feel like you're playing with his emotions, You should let him know how you feel about him and why you did what you did, honesty usually works great