How to become less needy?

[Having_hope]

I'm talking now for 3 months with a guy. He's the first guy I'm dating for a longer time. We're really chatting a lot. And it's disturbing my day. And I want to find a balance. I came across as needy. And honestly that's exactly what I feel about myself. I don't like it. Any advices on this? Also he yesterday agreed to stop talking for today. I asked him this question and he agreed. I think he felt a bit overwhelmed yesterday. So, actually, my main question is: how to have an healthy relationship.

[Whatever2929292]

Finding another person who is also needy. Needy people many times need to be with needy people. It is not really a bad thing. It just does not many times work when you are a needy person and the other isn't or vice versa.

You are just dating for right now and I am NOT telling you to stop dating him. I am just saying as of right now you're just dating you aren't together. As long as you are interested in him keep going out. But he might not be the one for you.

Being needy is again not a bad thing. You date to see who you can be with. I think you need someone who is also needy though.

[Having_hope]

The thing is, I also don't like neediness. It's disturbing me from my daily focus. This guy is better than the 'others' I dated. But although this the case, still want to thank you. It's not about him. It's about me and my needs (in the first place).

[Whatever2929292]

Having_hope well I am not being mean but it is kind of hypocritical if you are needy but don't want your partner to be needy. But I digress. It is about both of you to be honest a relationship is give and take. You both have needs.

You have needs and the person you are dating has needs. If you don't fit each others needs then... I am sorry you both will end up miserable. I mean hopefully you don't think it is all about you but yea if someone does not meet your needs you won't be happy.

You're welcome. I don't know how to stop being needy. I think there are soulmates out there and there is someone out there who you both will be happy with.

[PlayfulSpirit]

I have a set schedule that I speak with my partner. It is 7:30 to 10:30. We have been doing this ever we met virtually. We don't talk throughout the day unless it is something that will affect our schedule. Try it out.

[Nahid1707]

Remember to have good respect for a healthy relationship
And remember to take charge too

[Anonymous]

Learn to me more self sufficient.

[EaterPeter]

Therapy

[Having_hope]

What kind of therapy would you suggest?

[EaterPeter]

Any kind you prefer. Meditaion 🧘‍♀️, with therapist.

[EaterPeter]

With therapist would be best

[EaterPeter]

Lot of time we need to get back into past to see what is causing such feelings we have no control over

[EaterPeter]

No one can help better than trained professional