How did you overcome neediness?

[Hankypanky0250]

Were you ever needy in a relationship or dating? How did you overcome it? Tell us your thoughts here

[Chris_Chambers0010]

I was single for a long time just raising my son. Eventually I got used to the Bachelor life and having my whole bed to myself. Sometimes I even tell my bed that I love it because I do. I never got a good night's sleep being married. Now my bed is so wonderful.

[Hankypanky0250]

If I'm understanding correctly, you stopped needing the affection of women by finding validation within yourself. Is that right?

[Chris_Chambers0010]

I was single for so long that I just kinda forgot how it felt to hold a woman or kiss her or anything.
The intense cravings to be in a relationship that I used to get just became less and less intense.
I still like women, but I used to be totally addicted to my ex-wife and my girlfriend that I had after my marriage. Over time I just started to enjoy the benefits of being single especially the money I save on gifts and food, and not having to worry about her plans or what she's doing, or if she's mad at me, or what I did wrong, or missing her when she's not around, or her moods, or cleaning up after her.
Sleeping alone is a lot easier now as I mentioned.
These are just little perks of single life. It's still lonely at times, but overall single life is good.
I preferred being in love, but if I can't have that right now I'll have the best single life.
I'm not as needy as I used to be when I was having withdrawals from relationships.

[Hankypanky0250]

I see. So you learned to be content with being single and got over an intense desire to be in a relationship/marriage.

[Chris_Chambers0010]

More content than I used to be anyway.
As long as I stay away from my ex and block her from messaging me, she becomes out of sight, out of mind. As far as your issue of being needy within a relationship I kind of think that's more of a compatibility issue than an individual issue.
I feel like needy people should date other needy people and they would both be in absolute bliss together. Non needy people should date other people who like their space so they can do whatever it is they do and not feel smothered by anyone.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I didn't, I'm a needy person who only dates needy people, and that just works better than ignoring needs.

[Juxtapose]

I accept that no lover will never give me enough attention to the degree I want so I suppress the urge 🤷‍♂️

[CuriousMufuxka]

Us? Hmm.