In love with boyfriends friend?

[Anonymous]

I know whoever reads this will think I’m a horrible person right off the bat…but please keep in mind I can’t control how I naturally feel. I know it’s a bad situation, and I don’t want anyone getting hurt including myself, but it’s a lose lose.
I met his friend a few months into our relationship, and it was like something clicked between us instantly. Nothing intimate happened, I haven’t cheated…but we’ve been talking a lot and I’m really interested in him, and the feeling is mutual.

Part of me things I should leave my boyfriend, part thinks I should stay and see if the feelings fade out for the friend… Any advice would be amazing

[Turtlewax1994]

Honestly,

I get where you’re coming from. You never meant for this to happen. It’s clear you don’t want to be with your boyfriend so I’d end things. But casually talk to the other friend as time goes on. Going head first into this would end bad

Can you please answer my most recent question?

[HighValue]

You shouldn't be making NEW opposite gender friends once you are in a relationship. If you do, you will continue to have those kinds of problems with each relationship.

If you don't want your boyfriend I'd suggest leaving AND not having contact with that friend either. Start totally new with someone else and remember to NOT become new friends with any opposite gender people or you will end up in the same situation again.

[Someone80004]

Either stay with him and forget about the other guy, or tell him the truth and break up
Don't cheat on him

[Someone80004]

But yeah my point is you should forget about the other guy and stay with your boyfriend

[Iron_Man]

Good 👍

[AADIDEV]

Okay... it's better to create a line in your mind that you only love one person and that is your boyfriend.. none else... or if you don't believe in this then you should leave your boyfriend and his friend too.. coz you may broke their precious friendship...

Just think... if you broke your relationship with your boyfriend and get in a new relationship with his friend than this road may take a sharp U-turn... just supress this thought... 🆗

Hope my answer help...

[IJhonnyI]

That "friend" of your boyfriend isn't really a friend you just gave me another reason on top of a bunch of other reasons I don't trust people no offense but wow insane life we living in

[Asker]

He feels equally as guilty and horrible, we’ve agreed to not really talk to eachother because of this
I know it’s bad 🙁

[IJhonnyI]

Ummm wow okay

[Shamalien]

Do women get off on this disgusting shit? I swear they actually get turned on by destroying friendships

[Asker]

Nope, he’s my friend too, all 3 of us started hanging out together.
I hate myself for how I feel very much, but we can’t choose our emotions🤷🏻‍♀️

[Shamalien]

Well stop talking to him

[Asker]

I did 👁👄👁 but now I have to figure out who the heck I wanna be with

[Shamalien]

Now you gotta fuckin chill is what you gotta do. Forget that other guy. You will RUIN a friendship

[Shamalien]

You sound very selfish

[Asker]

I’m not selfish for having feelings that I literally have 0 control over

[Asker]

Also, my boyfriend was planning on cheating on me in the beginning of the relationship, was beating off to a pic of his ex a few months ago, kept his ex’s panties that I found in his room…and I also found another girls panties in his room that he’d kept for years- nobodies innocent

[Shamalien]

You have more control than you want to admit. You chose to message him and send funny shit back and forth. You followed these evil feelings. Now you are saying you gotta “decide who you wanna be with”. Here’s a fuckin prediction, you get with his friend, that shit will not last. Not a chance. You also scar your boyfriend for life. I mean shit there are always exceptions but in general this sounds like a bloody awful idea

[Shamalien]

LOL well some people are more innocent than others, clearly you two ent. He was planning on cheating? Wow. What a mess. I’m done here LOL

[Asker]

I get that :( I know, but then what about me? Like I care about him but I don’t want to just settle, it’s a lose lose for everyone involved no matter what

[Asker]

Bruh I know it’s a disaster 🫠😂

[Shamalien]

Tbh idgaf about either of y'all. Enjoy the disaster.

[Shamalien]

You’re both unfaithful and his friend is a POS so you all deserve the ensuing nightmare

[Avicenna]

Stay away from the friend and hopefully they will fade away. This sounds like an infatuation.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Love triangles always end up ugly... I think it's a lose lose situation with either of them

[Asker]

Fuck 🫠

[Rockstarrrrr]

😂😂... I'm just being realistic

[Iron_Man]

That’s horrible confess your sins to him now

[Asker]

Bruh I haven’t sinned

[Iron_Man]

What makes you think that did you flirt did you talk did you snuggle with each other these things you don’t talk about also would if you sinned in your head how did you fall in love you didn’t answer that

[Asker]

I’ve never “snuggled” or done anything bad. We talked because we are friends, we send funny posts back and fourth and share similar interests. I’m trying very hard to suppress the feelings I have, because I care about my boyfriend very much. But I think the type of love I have for my boyfriend is more of a best friend type of love. I love him as a person, but I’m doubting if I’m *in* love with him. It was a rushed relationship. Regardless I know my feelings are horrible, but I have no bad intentions

[Iron_Man]

That’s another reason why I don’t like my girlfriend to have friends of the opposite sex too many things can happen

[RuthlessAggression]

Just means you have a commitment problem

[one1wild00]

Stay with Boyfriend , ignore boyfriend friend.