Honestly, don’t ask your girlfriend to marry you if don’t already know what the answer is going to be. The big questions in life shouldn’t be something you surprise somebody with and ask them to decide on in the moment. If you’re unsure, then don’t propose. Instead, have a conversation with your girlfriend about marriage to see where her head is really at without you trying to analyze and assess on your own. Something like “hey, I’d like to talk about our future as a couple a bit. Do you envision us getting married someday? What’s your timeline for that like?”. Be sure to communicate your own thoughts and desires as well. By having that talk, you two can compare notes and see if you want the same things long-term. If you do, then you can propose at the appropriate time with a lot more confidence. There will still be that surprise factor in proposing, because she won’t know when it’s happening and you can plan it your own special way. The thing is, if she’s not the sort of person to want marriage, but you are, then that is something you need to know so you can decide if there’s true longevity in your relationship. Sure you love and only want her, but it would literally mean depriving yourself of an important experience that even if it’s not important to her, it is to you. Kind of like if you want kids and she doesn’t, why rob yourself of fatherhood, you know?
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I feel like maybe she just isn't ready yet but she needs to communicate this to you and not just change the subject. I think maybe it made her uncomfortable it does not mean the she doesn't love you or anything like that.
Let me say this. If you propose to her. Please don't do it in public. You can try for that and see what she says. But She might say no pretty fast or something else and don't do that in public unless you're just sure that she is going to say yes which...
I think that you need to give it some time maybe to just bring it up to her and see ask her that if you aren't really ready for that then you understand but you need to know this stuff and you need to communicate.
You could also wait and see if eventually she brings it up.
I don't know the reasons in her mind on why she might not be ready yet or if she isn't ready at all. I would say that you need to communicate with each other and if she can't do that then this might be a problem
She’s already uncomfortable. She may not see you as marriage material. Don’t sound like she knows much…dated much?
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