21M & 18F advice please?

[Anonymous]

So I started talking to a guy who is 21, I’m 18. I don’t see a problem with the age gap but some people talk bad about it saying it won’t work this and that, we get along really well and spend a lot of time together pretty much living together. It was so good at first but as we got more serious I kept finding little things out about him that are crazy but I still accepted him.

But then he changed, He started saying I can’t hang out with friends, he’d get mad ANYTIME I would leave the house calling me a whore and asking who I’m going to see behind his back and it’s super overwhelming because we seem so good for eachother and the relationship isn’t ALL bad, we just have our moments then we get over it and go back to normal.

I love our relationship but when he starts dictating what I wear, making me ghost friends, stop going out even if it’s to the grocery store and calling me names it’s draining. I love him and I don’t want to end the relationship but I want things to change:/

advice pls

[MaKa_newbie]

Age doesn't matter. I started dating my boyfriend when I was 20 and he was 27, now three years later we're still together planing future. But, I am not sure why did you mention age when it is the least problem in this situation.
It is NOT normal for him to be like that and for you to let him do that to you. It is VERY toxic and controlling. You both NEED privacy, friends and freedom even tho you are together. I had a friend just like your boyfriend. He is very good friend, very sweed, kind and would do anything for you. So, I hooked him up with my bff. He was like that (kind and loving) with her in the beginning and then everything else started. Controling, guilt-tripping, cursing, name-calling and in the end even physical fighting. You need to get away from him as soon as possible. If he is like that now, who knows what comes after.
DON'T LET ANYONE TREAT YOU LIKE THAT! You are your own person, with your own friends and life. A partner is just someone to share a good time together and build better life together. BUT, you still need to have your own separate lives.

[ImJustSomeGuyLol]

Oh nah you need to leave, I'm sorry that shit is toxic af. It will one day be a choice of either you, your health and safety or stay with someone who will make you unhappy to the point you don't recognize who you are.

I had a friend who sounds exactly like you do, we told her to leave, but she didn't listen. Now she is trying to pick up the pieces of her life without the friends she once had, and gave up the opportunity to graduate and possibly start a career and move out of home. It's depressing to be around her, she doesn't even know who she is.

[Avicenna]

Your respective ages aren’t a problem (I had an 28 year old girlfriend when I was 22), but his abusive and controlling behavior toward you is. You need to break up with him.

[Woke51]

That's not exactly what you see on Pinterest tagged as "couple goals," is it?
You don't love him, you're just addicted to an abuser.

[Guy13]

Rarely do things dramatically change. More times than not, what one sees now is the tip of the iceberg.

[Anonymous]

Move on. You're dating a boy, not a man.

[Preeti161101]

Not a big gap