Is a safe choice the same as settling?

[Anonymous]

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Should we stop chasing passion and risk and that tingly feeling that you get with someone and go away practical things. Stop chasing feelings

[TheSpaceGnome]

Well you shouldn't stop chasing passion, but you shouldn't chase risk, and if risky people are what attract you, you're built to fail at relationships, because you can't settle, but you also should avoid risks.

To me the safe choice is by default the more attractive and passion inducing one. Smart people who aren't risk prone are more entertaining to be around, and tend to have more in common with me hobby and interest wise.

[Asker]

It’s not wrist like that it’s more risk to try put yourself out there. I really don’t think we have no common interests we have morally the same thing

[TheSpaceGnome]

Putting yourself out there isn't a risk, not putting yourself out there is.

The risk is accepting advances on people you don't know or aren't mentally similar too, so you would need to develop relationships slowly.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm not sure.

I do, however, think that a woman's attraction towards a man can grow over time as she begins to bring him out of his shell and he shows more of himself to her.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO!

[DizzyDesii]

Safe is not settling in my opinion. Its the smart choice. You’re only settling if you know the choice isn't enough for you AND you know you’ll crave “something more” some day

[LazerBean]

I don't consider being smart and making good choices to be settling. I do consider letting your feelings guide you to be stupid, though.

[NathanDavis]

a life without passion is just waiting to die... and it will go quite slowly as well, lol

[RingusUrDingus]

The term settling implies you are taking less than what you believe you deserve.

And if thats the case, save him the trouble and leave.

[Asker]

There’s an old saying be with the one that loves you if you can’t be with the one that you’re in love with

[RingusUrDingus]

If you want your choice to be to someone you believe isn't worthy of you, or you're with someone that believes you're not worthy of them, then be my guest lol

[Asker]

I don’t think that they’re not worthy of me I don’t probably think I’m good for them. I have never really been with someone so that also scares me potential anger issues. Not that attracted to them. But that’s OK attraction can grow right

[Zolly99999]

Yes it is.. I have been told I was the "safe " choice and not their first choice a few times.. I kicked them to the curb immediately.. that is so insulting..

[DizzyDesii]

Well i told one dude he was my first choice and he got mad that he was ever an option at all. He said he deserved to be the one and only and that i shouldve never chosen between him and someone else in the first place 💀

[Zolly99999]

@DizzyDesii wow really. What the hell is he thinking. . Of course we all have options. It's not like he is the only guy left in earth. He sounds immature and insecure.. I would love to be someone's first choice.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats what i told him. But he couldnt get past it

[Zolly99999]

@DizzyDesii then he is not worth your time.. move on. He sounds insecure..

[DizzyDesii]

This was last year. I’m good now

[Zolly99999]

@DizzyDesii glad to hear it...😁

[serious]

It depends if you want to settle or not.

[Asker]

Not really having the same feelings for someone as they do for you and maybe it’ll grow one

[AviatorTom]

Maybe, depends what you're settling for

[Asker]

Maybe I can hide the way I feel until maybe I feel something

[Jamie05rhs]

@Justneedtokno No; don't hide the way you feel. Be honest with him. That way he will know that he needs to work to earn your interest.

[FilmGuy93]

No, but people certainly conflate the two

[jengeorge26]

No, it’s like a compromise

[roy_ricky09]

What is life without passion and risk

[msc545]

Feeling toward women will get you in deep trouble.

[Alex8736]

Can you be more specific?

[AFretiredTXn]

Safe choice is better than not even considered.

[Guy13]

No, it is not.

[Guy13]

Sometimes, settling puts one in an unsafe position.- Compromise or a Settlement, by definition, is to be exposed in some matter. A safe choice is one that seems to be made without compromise or settling.

[Asker]

Great food for thought

[JohnK123]

About what topic

[Asker]

Should we stop chasing passion and Love and feelings and just go for someone that loves us

[JohnK123]

Oh yeah

[legalboxers]

½ and ½..

[Anonymous]

It could be.