Which is better-the safe choice or the unpredictable choice when it comes to finding love?

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HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

This all comes down to preference. I don't personally like surprises. I like knowing what I can expect from my partner. I like knowing them inside out, understanding their mind, their character, what they'd do in every scenario, and having genuine faith in who they are as person. I like being around genuine people.

In my opinion, I think desiring someone "unpredictable" is a sign of immaturity. It shows you're not ready for something stable and you're hoping that your partner brings excitement to your life. A partner that "entertains" you. That's not what a relationship is about. It's about having someone who's consistent and you know is in your corner.

I'd choose the safe choice every time. I can still have exciting moments with that girl.

Unless I completely misunderstood the context of the question and you just meant someone who's afraid to go out of their comfort zone vs someone who's adventurous and up for anything, which case I'd choose the latter.

Bklynbadboy12 · Accepted Answer

I dont know but I love and unpredictable person if not I'd get bored

Zionne · Accepted Answer

It depends on what you want and how willing you are to take risks. The safe choice—someone familiar, stable, and predictable—can offer security and comfort, but it might lack excitement or deep growth. The unpredictable choice—someone spontaneous or different from your usual type, can bring passion and new experiences, but it might also be unstable or challenging. Ideally, a balance of trustworthiness with a bit of unpredictability often makes for the most fulfilling relationships.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Unpredictable choice in the beginning like if you’re choosing between two people but only if that’s what your instincts tell you. Once you’ve been with somebody for a while you feel safe and warm, and then the unpredictable choice is less desirable.

Summeroflove · Answer

Well picking someone because they’re “safe” but you aren’t attracted to and being dishonest is WRONG. Not only does this hurt you but pretending to love someone you don’t can be devastating especially when there is someone out there who could genuinely love them. Now… If you both are honest with one another. Then that’s one thing. If that’s what you choose to do…

Now people who intentionally pick bad people typically aren’t good people themselves. But someone can also present themselves as safe until you get stuck with them… So it’s about finding someone compatible

People who pick partners who they don’t generally love are dark personality types who cannot form genuine connections.

AviatorTom · Answer

The question is incorrect. You do not find love, love finds you. And since you have no control over it, whether it's a safe-choice or unpredictable is not a choice, it just happens.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The answer depends on whether your goal is to have a lustful, animal encounter or to find a partner who will love you.

Purpleronnie · Answer

for relationships , I think age / maturity play a considerable role here as well as basically what you think you want vs the type of person you actually need and all that dependent on your outlook / viewpoint at any given time.

Safe / predictable can carry a stigma of boring , the latter being viewed more exciting by just being opposite , but that’s hardly the lived reality because we all need a certain amount of structure and consistency in a relationship and this varies / is complicated by , as we mature and or add further responsibilities into our lives e. g more demanding career , kids , etc

Sometimes it seems what we love is almost contradictory to what we need and I think is the better part of us struggle with the perceived choice

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

It depends on what you’re looking for.

The safe choice offers stability and predictability, which can be comforting.

The unpredictable choice brings excitement and growth, but also risk.

Love often needs a balance, someone who challenges you just enough without destabilizing your foundation.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I’ve been choosing unpredictable my whole life

Still I’m single and walking away from yet another train wreck relationship

I think deep down I know the right answer is “safe choice”

But I can’t bring myself to make that choice

And if you feel the same way then you’re doomed to have unhealthy relationships

Clearly we have internal things that need fixing before we find the true best partner

abc3643 · Answer

Neither.
If the safe choice doesn't inspire you then you will never be fulfilled and not truly love.
However, the unpredictable choice is a crapshoot. It's like seeing the buds of the first plants beginning to pop-out of the ground in early spring; it's exciting and fills you with hope, but you don't know yet if you have a fabulous daffodil or poison ivy. You just gotta wait and see.

FreyaRed · Answer

Depends on you preferences. Generally unpredictable means just you don't have enough information about someone or some situation to find behavioral patterns and applying human nature knowledge on their behavior.

sage2021 · Answer

I'll stick with safe as far as personality goes. I sure wouldn't want to end up with a guy who is unpredictable and irresponsible. Who needs that?👎🏼

katiesmuff · Answer

Either one could turn out to be the smartest thing you ever did or the biggest mistake and those are things you unfortunately don't find out until it is too late.

Screenwriter · Answer

Safe sounds boring, unpredictable sounds crazy. I'd say right down the middle: someone who's not dull and not crazy.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most people eventually seek a healthy blend of the two. You would rather not settle for an unpredictable relationship.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

A lot of different ways to imply the question intent but, it is possible to have someone that both unpredictable and safe.
Unless you’re talking about emotionally unpredictable or abusive unpredictable that’s just not ok

queenofcardio · Answer

Safe choice sounds boring. I'd choose the unpredictable choice

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Depends on which leads to a healthy long lasting relationship.. Really ultimately you want something that's stable but enough to excite you..

AgentG111 · Answer

Honestly the safe bet has never gotten me very far. Unpredictable has been more fun and lasting but not a forever as this point and I'm totally okay with that.

Jennz6 · Answer

I never found out about true love? @simslover92 💕

exitseven · Answer

I think long term it id better to play it safe.

virgo2267 · Answer

You want safety? Marry a goon… you want adventure, ride the bull or marry me

Alex-Snow · Answer

Safe is probably best but taking a chance could pay off sometimes.

msc545 · Answer

The safe choice is always safer and, in that sense, better. The unpredictable choice is likely to lead to some very, very serious trouble.

Dina88 · Answer

Safe choice the unpredictable can be dangerous my ex gave me an std that was fun.

NathanDavis · Answer

unpredictable is asking for trouble...

Keyboardkat · Answer

You must have a whole lot of choices!

Anonymous · Answer

I never had any choice when it comes to love, either would be good for me.

Shiprex · Answer

Both are worthy. Depends what you're after

WonderingManII · Answer

Always a risk.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Neither figure into who I pursue.

dudeinohio · Answer

I'd go the safe route.

Anonymous · Answer

Wdym

cavedweller1973 · Answer

Unpredictable

Raydergman26 · Answer

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