Which makes more sense: to marry for love or stability?

[Anonymous]

Which makes more sense?

[rjroy3]

From the woman's stance stability.
From the man's stance love.

With full sincerity the man is safest in the most stable position when he's not married. The risk is investing his energy, resources, and true focus into marriage.

So you gotta pick well. That makes Love a higher priority because he doesn't get stability in marriage. He gets what he had before marriage, with a hammer ready to come down on him if it ends.

Not making this about not getting married blah blah. Just giving myself reasoning for saying it makes more sense for women in one and men for the other.

[Bean2k]

Marriage can be recognized by a state, an organization, a religious authority, a tribal group, a local community, or peers. It is often viewed as a contract. A religious marriage is performed by a religious institution to recognize and create the rights and obligations intrinsic to matrimony in that religion. Religious marriage is known variously as sacramental marriage in Catholicism, nikah in Islam, nissuin in Judaism, and various other names in other faith traditions, each with their own constraints as to what constitutes, and who can enter into, a valid religious marriage.

[Cathy7734]

My perspective is that inspiration and motivation can come and go. Don't depend on it. One needs to do things even though they don't feel inspired or motivated to do it.

I have the same attitude about love. It can come and go. Don't depend on it. I know stability can end by getting fired or something. But love is more fickle.

[Cherry234]

Both are important. If there are arguments over money or financial issues in a marriage then it's possible it may not work out. There's a fine line between being a gold digger and marrying someone who's very poor. Stability is especially important if the couple plans on having children

[Pj1981]

I'd rather live a rocky life with someone I'm absolutely in love with than a stable life with someone that you have no clue how they feel for you. In fact I divorced a stable life because I felt like my ex wife was more of a roommate than wife. It was convenient. I worked, she made appointments, paid bills and organized our vacations for the year. We divorced and I fell for a single mother of 2. We went through hell together and even though we eventually separated. I will always love her and the way she loved me.

[Cherry234]

It's like this with my mom and dad's marriage. She says living with him is like living with a roommate and there's no stability either. They're both poor

[HaveNoName]

Woman should marry for stability.

Man should look for a supportive personality.

Mutually, they should look for a respect of each other. It goes both ways. Of course, they also need to have a mutual chemistry for which it is important to have spent a little bit of time with each other in meetups. What worls even better is if you study or work together because that gives you the best chance to understand the other person.

Most important in my culture, it is not just a marriage between two individuals. It is a bond between two families. They need to have something common to be able to gel.

Infatuation or lust normally leads to a failed marriage.

[v666_]

Make more sense as in literal, logical sense? Stability.
Marriage was invented not because of love, but because of politics. It was a socio-economical/ political tactic. Creating alliances and things of the sort.
There's a lot of things people do for love that make no sense (at least to me, i. e. van Gogh and his ear mail)

[Starwitch23]

In any relationship, love is about 15 percent and rest is partnership.

But, if you don't address issues about your finance and career. You'll be living in a anxiety. God forbids if your marriage doesn't work out then again you will be back to that place. Marriage is not going to save you from career or finance problem.

Marry for the right reason. Marry if you can see you both are good partners to each other.

[molonski2]

Actual sense is stability , Love in essence may well sound good , but in real life its absolute bullshit , stability is life , its take it to the bank..
Never , ever marry someone who cannot control the financial.

[Anonymous]

Marrying for stability sounds to me like a gold digger tendency and establishes financial codependency. This type of codependency is evil. I've seen what it does to the woman and the kids and I've gone through it as a child myself. I'll never want to go through that toxicity.

therefore marrying for love sounds right.

[Kaamraj]

For a man, marriage itself doesn't make sense. Most of the divorces are initiated by women, child custody, losing half your assets, alimony, etc. But marriage should be about stability because financial reasons are the no. 1 reason for divorces.

[FilmGuy93]

Stability. Love fades. But two people who decide to be married and decide to be a couple and decide to build a life together are going to make that their focus and goal. It's much more definable goal than being in love.

[Mofunfour20]

Love is ambiguous. You should already be stable before entering a relationship. Id rather look for her respect, femininity, and ability to be peaceful.

[hannahjo022]

I want to marry for love and spend the rest of my life with the person who I love. I want them to feel the same way with me too

[AlexanderAnttila]

If you only marry for stability it won't be a stable marriage. Only genuine love sustains a marriage in the long run. Every "stability" based or money based marriage is miserable and ends badly.

[Anonymous]

I could marry a woman that's with me for stability... But...

#1 She must be okay with the fact that I can and will fuck other women during our marriage.
#2 It won't be an open relationship because only I will be allowed to fuck around.

Stability comes at a cost and since marriage is a contract, I set the rules.

[dray995]

You sound like a total douchebag!🤷🏻‍♂️

[notserana]

Depends on what you want in life. I believe marrying for love would make one happier later down the line though.

[Jlegacy]

Marry for thrive. Stability sounds too passive. What people call love is blatantly wickedness with some lipstick. Love is absent from many love stories. So if I have to choose I'd choose stability.

[SupremeWarlord]

Both, most people need love from another human to be happy. And you need stability in order to live comfortably (I assume you mean financial stability).

[JBlade]

For the average person, both. Personally, I don’t know what love is, I have my own stability, and I don’t care to marry.

[pleasestopthis]

You need both to make it work. You can marry for love but it won't last with no stability, while having a stable life in a loveless marriage sucks too.

[aliali8]

Marriage for love is more fulfilling. But statistics have proven that love marriages do not last. Marrying for stability is way more stable.

[Anonymous]

i would hope love and stability come together as a packaged deal if you're thinking about marriage...

[Opinion Owner]

we need both... have you seen what happens to marriages without stability? divorces.

[Ninjazzed]

Stability. Love isn’t enough to support a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine marrying someone I didn't love. I guess it's a woman thing.

[TheGreatAwan]

Stability. Love is not real I have never felt it and everyone else is lying when they say they feel love. Find me a woman who will do everything for me and then I leave.

[Jamie05rhs]

If you're not stable, then you need to work on yourself more.

[fred_durst]

stability of course , you can't buy food by with love

[ManHater]

Women don't care about money. They do stupid stuff for love.

[disgustingweebtrash]

No one marries for love, it's usually stability or something else.

[KrakenAttackin]

Stability. The idea of marriage for "love" is a relatively new concept in human history.

[Jamie05rhs]

But love is what makes a stable marriage. Unstable relationships are devoid of love.

[najekim]

Love, of course. Stability can come and go over time.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Marry for love.

Stability is an illusion.

[exitseven]

love, the stability can come later.

[Trpkjr]

Love!! Only marry for love!!

[Aquariusmystery]

I suppose stability but I’d rather do it for love

[GirlFromWork]

Why can you not marry for both love an stability?

[emilym12345]

I will never marry because I have my own money.

[Jlegacy]

What if he has his own money too and he really wants you for better or worse?

[Subarugirl]

Stability, marriage is a contract.

[Luckycharms12]

Love to me i can look after myself

[Fuentes]

I would not marry at all

[Sketti2021]

They should synonymous

[townhouse]

Both at time are are hard times come in to effect

[Robertmars]

To Love first and then marry the one you've loved.

[MyGoodman]

Stability but I married for love

[SpiderManFan2002]

Love.

[SwedishTwizz]

LOVE

[Anonymous]

For love if you want it to last

[animesenpai]

Both makes sense

[Sugar_7]

To marry for love

[Babygirl_S]

Marry for love.

[In_Trance]

neither makes sense

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Love. Duh!

[ballweevil]

love

[Anonymous]

Both ofc.

[TheAfrikan]

For love.